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wasio shaikh
Assalamu alaykum i was in relation a girl has past of zina but i accepted her past after that we start talking on call after that i purposed her for marriage she accepted after that i talked my family but they refused i tried to convince my family but they refused after that we continue chat but approx 5 moths of chat she again commit zina & she have no shame of that but i said him say sorry to Allah but she was not felling guilty of that since first day i was saying to him for nimaz she many time offer many time she fights to me not say for nimaz i know what to do & what not to do its my nimaz you have nothing to it we never talk any adult conversation but after she commits zina i was fighting him on any thing my family refused her completely
because of his past & istikhara was also negative than i told her you on you way & i on my way but my mistake was i promised her that i will marry you at the end she called me after 1 week she start fighting to me & saying you broke my heart & talking me for my religious acts she made me aggressive than i said about his past we were chat for 14 months we never meet privet i never touched her nor she but she course me.
sorry i know my English is not good but what should i do in this matter .
Walekumassalam warahmatullahi wabarkatuh brother
U promised her that u would marry her nd u r anxious about that promise ..right? Then..
Allah says regarding to expiation of promise:
"Allah will not impose blame upon you for what is meaningless in your oaths, but He will impose blame upon you for [breaking] what you intended of oaths. So its expiation is the feeding of ten needy people from the average of that which you feed your [own] families or clothing them or the freeing of a slave. But whoever cannot find [or afford it] - then a fast of three days [is required]. That is the expiation for oaths when you have sworn. But guard your oaths. Thus does Allah make clear to you His verses that you may be grateful. "[ Surah al maeeda :89]
So from above verse , it is clear that either u feed or cloth ten needy people or free a slave or fast three consecutive days....
Nd of course, u should forget her.. this was just some kind of affection... Nd now u should move on .....
Like brother said above ' If u leave something for the sake of Allah, He will give u something better' ...
Nd wait for ur marriage. Wait for someone who will complete half of ur deen. Nd yes.. marry someone who is deeply interested in islam... That will be beneficial for u...do not be in contact with na mahram...
Jazakallah khair