Greetings and peace be with you whitedove, thanks for sharing your story,
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whitedove
When I was 11 years old I was molested in a mosque, by an Islamic teacher,
You have every right to feel angry, especially if the abuser has not been punished. But anger eats away at your soul, it stops you being the kind and caring person that you want to be. The person who angers you, controls you. It is like they have a remote control that makes you feel and do things that you do not want to do, they keep pressing your buttons every day. You are continuing to give your abuser power to keep hurting you
I listened to Glen tell his story. He had grown up with David Beckham, and they had both been signed up to play football with Leighton Orient. He had a life of fame and fortune ahead of him. Shortly after he went to a night club and was stabbed in the back and beaten up. He spent a year in hospital and has been paralysed from the waist down; he has been in a wheelchair for the last 27 years. They caught the man who did this, he served four years in prison, he was then able to walk out of prison on his own two feet, and justice had been served.
By this time, Glen had learned to drive a disabled taxi, he tracked down his assailant, and then stalked him with the intention of running him over. Glen saw an opportunity to run his attacker down, but something stopped him. He said he came to understand that true justice could not happen. Justice is not that two people should be crippled, rather, it is that neither of them should be crippled. He knew he could never turn back time. He came to understand that he had to let go of his hatred; if not, he would become worse than his assailant.
He said he has to live with two diseases, being crippled, and the greater disease was the hate burning away inside him. Forgiveness and letting go of the hatred was a gradual process for his own benefit, his wheelchair has been a daily reminder of the past injustice.
Glen goes round the country talking about the need to forgive and let go of anger, and striving to be the kind and caring person that you want to be.
May Allah bless you with a peace that surpasses all understanding,
Eric