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Nitro Zeus
A, so it is possible that this can be also as a form of punishment for not doing the obligatory stuff...
Another great problem which I have to deal is with laziness.
So basically, my laziness attracts the Punishment and Anger of Allah on me. Now I have ti figure out ways of how to stop being lazy.
Regarding the place of performance. I make them only at home, because the Mosques are far away from me and I don't have time to reach them out.
If I try to wake up for Fajr in Bucharest and go to a Mosque, then that would mean of going late. Mainly because the distance is great one between my building and that nearest Mosque which is not in my place.
Only Allah knows the exact reason why you are facing the things that are happening in your life, we can only assume. You are required to travel to a masjid for Jummuah Salah since it is obligatory. The further you are, the more rewards you get for traveling to it. You are only required to pray in congregation for the daily Salah if you live close enough to a masjid in which you can hear the adhan without it being blasted through a loud speaker.
https://islamqa.info/en/answers/2065...-in-the-mosque
Yes, your laziness is a very bad habit. It is a byproduct of procrastination, which is one of the most powerful tools the Shaytan uses against us. We don't know when we are going to die, what if we die before we become better Muslims? Is it worth all the punishments that we will get in the next life? I have this problem too. Over the years I have just kept procrastinating over and over and over and it has ruined my life and destroyed my Eman. I used to blame Allah but the truth is, it was all my fault.
If you think about it, what Allah asks us to do are really easy things. Salah takes 5-8 minutes each time and you only need to do it 5 times a day. How many times have you or I spent our times sitting in front of a computer playing video games or watching movies and shows? I wasted a lot of time doing that. If I had focused on learning Arabic, I'd be a master of it by now. Instead, it was all time wasted.
What else does Allah ask of us? Fasting for Ramadan becomes easy by the third day unless you have a medical condition, and even then there are things you can do to make up for it. Even if it isn't Ramadan, you can fast Mondays and Thursdays in order to make more good deeds. Charity is easy to do as well, just give what you can. You don't have to give away all of your money. Reading the Quran can be difficult if you don't know Arabic, but you will be rewarded for every letter you try to pronounce. Even if you get it wrong, you will get rewarded for the effort, inshallah, as long as you do your best. Trying to acquire Islamic knowledge is another way to increase your good deeds. So even coming to this forum will help you, as will watching or listening to Islamic lectures on YouTube.
But you need to make sure you do your best to stop sinning and repent and seek forgiveness every time you slip up. A black spot appears on your heart every time you sin. The more you sin, the more black your heart becomes until you no longer have Eman left. In order to cleanse it, you need to constantly remember Allah at all times, praise his name, and behave as if he was right in front of you at all times. You need actively deny the sins that you may want to commit.
I am not accusing you of doing the following, but just pointing out some things people don't realize are sinful- looking at the opposite sex or having them as friends, having Kuffar as friends (Allah states that they will never be your true friends), listening to Music, watching haram shows or films- Almost all films have haram in them even if you don't think they're a big deal, they are, it's just we got so used to watching them, we have been conditioned into thinking they are ok, they are not, now lowering your gaze when you see the opposite sex walking by, not keeping clean - Allah loves those who purify themselves, even the way you use the restroom can cause you to sin. Do you pee standing up? You shouldn't, since that will increase the risk of urine splashing on to you, even if you don't see it. Do you properly clean yourself with water after you use the restroom? I know it can be difficult to do it in public places, but you can always keep travel packs of wet wipes to wipe with and a bottle of water to rinse with. Don't use regular toilet paper since it doesn't do a good job and will leave dirt. Do you gossip about other people? This is a really big sin that many people underestimate and all it does is causes people to resent one another. I had and still have this problem and I am actively working on stopping, Inshallah. Do you tell non Muslims happy birthday or merry Christmas? That is haram because you are promoting shirk and you should take no part in those celebrations even if it is just kind words.
It may seem like a lot, but you are not expected to perfect yourself overnight. Take things one step at a time and try to recognize when you sin and immediately regret and repent to Allah. When you sin, the Angel that writes down your bad deeds doesn't write it down immediately, they wait six hours. If you repent and seek forgiveness for it, the sin doesn't get written down, but if you don't then you get one sin written down.
My recommendation for you is to break ties to anyone who causes you pain and may lead you to sin. Bad company will just corrupt you more and more. You wont even realize it until it is too late. Even if you feel lonely, know that Allah is your friend if you seek Him. Make sure you pray your daily Salah on time to the best of your ability and take things one step at a time from there. Seek knowledge of Islam, but don't over do it, Islam actually recommends you to take breaks from constant worship, and by breaks I don't me not praying, but you are allowed to play halal games, do sports, go for a nice walk, paint (As long as its not something with a soul), or even go lay down and relax. Just don't overwhelm yourself because that is another way Shaytan tricks you.