Walekumassalam wr wb
format_quote Originally Posted by
Imraan
Makes me wonder what other pitfalls await me
May i first change this statement to
Makes me wonder what rewards await me..
You know, Philosopher epictetus said "
People are not disturbed by things,but by the views they take of them".This means that the way we interpret and evaluate things,has an impact on our experience,emotions and behaviour. Albert Ellis introduced an
ABC model in 1955 which represents the basis of numerous cognitive therapies. In it,
A represents
Activating event which means the hard situation we might have to face.
B represents
Belief which means how we take it in,our attitude towards it, we can take the either side-positive or negative.
C represents
Consequences which means our behavioural and emotional responses towards it(sadness,worry,anxiety). Most of the
C part does not directly depends on the
Activating event but on the
Belief. If we take it in positive way, we won't feel down but if we choose otherwise, we'll eventually fall prey to anxiety and negative thoughts.
That being said, you are actually doing great by trying to replace the negative thoughts with positive ones, Alhamdulillah. But if you ever get overwhelmed so much, then sometimes writing the negative thoughts and questioning them may help. For example, if it comes to your mind "Why always me" or "Allah isn't answering." ,you may
write it down and
question "Is this 'always' really true?" " Is Allah really not answering or is it just me hurrying?" " Doesn't Allah tests those whom He loves?" Like this you may question and find the positive side of it, InshaAllah. And sometimes writing the journal about the event also helps.
When we are in tough situations,satan tries to make us focus on the hard time we're facing and eventually makes us forget the already present blessings. And satan won't stop whispering until the hour, he will try all his moves to lead us astray. But Alhamdulillah, you seem to be grateful for the blessings and you try to remember them during tough times,very well. And of course, never stop the religious duties. If you find contentment in reading quran, that's great, you should do more of it then. After all, the hour is indeed near and you will get justice, InshaAllah. May Allah make it easier for you. Ameen.