Greetings and peace be with you Islami.mu'min;
In the UK, when a child gets to fifteen, about half of them are not living with both their biological parents. I have met a number of depressed and suicidal people after their marriages have broken down.
The first twenty five years of marriage are the hardest, then it just gets harder. I think if you make fifty years of marriage, you will have a small understanding of what it is all about. My favourite description of marriage is - an imperfect man marries an imperfect woman, they have imperfect children and live in an imperfect world full of trials and tribulations. When something is broken, it is always better to try and fix it with kindness.
You need to constantly forgive and move on, you need resilience for all the problems life throws at you, and you need perseverance to keep going. Try and struggle through all conflict with the thought that neither spouse should loose, rather than one person wins. Resolving conflict often works better when we try and change ourselves, rather than change the other person. Love and kindness help.
Prayer is important, we need all the help we can get, learn to constantly be thankful in good times and bad.
I have only been married for thirty five years and still have lots to learn. If you can make marriage work it is worth all the struggles.
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Islami.mu'min
Marriage is obviously something very serious and it isn't all fun and games
You might be right, but there can be fun and games along the way, it's not all doom and gloom as my reply may suggest.:happy:
May Allah bless you on your journey through life,
Eric