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Studentofdeed
But he didn't end it necessary for the sake of Allah. It was because they had issues that could not be settled. Even though they ended, the girls feelings were still hurt. How is that not a sin and shouldn't he apologize but from a distance?
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Obviously he has changed and repented but aren't haram relationships bad because people get hurt?
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I think he was little bit rude as he said when he realized it was not going to work out he ended it with the girl. The girl was sad and desperate to contact him but he ignored all of them. I can't but feel like the girl was wronged
Yeah haram relationships aren't good because they do end up having people get hurt.
At first I did say he might not need to apologize.. I just remembered when my sister dated some boy, he ended up doing wrong things and hurting her so she broke up with him but she kept apologizing for cutting him off and going back to him because he was "hurt" by her. Because of that they got back together and he broke her trust again... Then they broke up and got back together again after him trying to be petty and emotionally manipulate her.:slap:.. They don't talk anymore because she finally ended it alhamdulilah
But it seems like your friend's case is different so I don't think there is anything wrong with him apologizing as long as he doesn't fall into fitna. I first had assumed that your friend already might've kindly opened up to her and maybe privately apologized to her so that it would be useless to keep apologizing.. But if the case is as you said, maybe he should clear things up with her and apologize as long as he doesn't fear anything happening
It might be in his interest to make sure everything is clear because even though he cut off the relationship which is the islamic thing to do, he is the one who caused her to become emotionally attached to him through haram means. After he clears that up and (you said he already repented), I'd say he did his part