I committed zina but then i prayed hard for forgiveness from Allah and now my family

[Nunu_to7]

Salam everyone
I dnt know how to express myself im so depress . Im orginally from pakistan. And born and raised in UAE. The guy i love is Egyptian and also live in UAE. We are relationship since really long. We did zina. But then i realized my mistake as i started to learn more and more about isalm and alhamdulillah from Allah suddenly i felt deep love for my religion. So i stopped zina and asked forgiveness from Allah day and night by crying and I've been praying day and night. Even tahajuud to make this relationship halal and make him my naseeb make him my husband. Alhamdulillah i even started praying 5 obligatory prayers and also the guy i understand he did xina but is good character and good in religionand his family is religious and they love me a lot. His dad prayed istakhara for marriage and he felt comfortable so he called my family to bring proposal. But my family even refuse to meet the guy cus he is Egyptian and im pakistani. My dad is just from marriage proposal is like . What face i will show to people. I shouldnt say but he is racist . I have no one to help. Not even 1% chance i see my family will accept. Im praying tahajuud and praying day and night asking for miracles. I prefer to marry this guy first of all from my past and my deep love. But my family is forcing me to go pakistan. They put restrictions on me and searching my marriage with other guy. Ofcourse they will try again for proposal but my father and brother daid u will see what i do with u. Plz what should i do. I prefer to marry him then other guy. Should i say my family i did zina . They will kill me for sure. Should i take step against them. I rpomosed Allah i will be very religious even aftr marriage and i will be really good wife. But my family only care society and relatives. How can i make this relationship halal.

[Nunu_to7]

They said me. It has to be pakistani if no then be single all life. I really dnt want to give up. Allah can forgive but why not his people. I want halal not haram

[Studentofdeed]

This is such a stupid mentality. Your father is wrong. Can you go to a masjid and ask an Imam for help? Any uncles to help?

[Nunu_to7]

Actually most of relatives are in country. And my family will never allow me to share . As he said what face he will show after. And im not sure about imam but here in UAE this matters are solved by court imam. All i can do is bring my guy home and fight or if no option go away from home and go to court. I never knew nationality is such an issue. All i wanted is halal and i prefer same guy over another. Plz pray for me. Its really tough time

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[Studentofdeed]

I will for sure keep you in my duas sister. Do not be afraid to fight for your right. I will say this and cannot sugar coat this. Zina is very haram sister. It is dangerous, make sure you and the guy you like repent. Don't expose your sins to others but you need to go to imam. Please repent and do not think zina is small. Allah forgives but you need to repent. But your fsther is wrong and such cultural mentality is primitive. Go to the imam or seek help from a male Wali such as uncle or brother. Do fight for your right. But be respectful to your father. If your father has other valid reasons such as the guy is bad or he drinks or he smokes or is bad person, then your fsther has a valid point. Make sure to pray istikhara because at the end of the day sister, Allah knows what's best for us. Please be mindful and stay away from zina. Go to the imam and fight your case. May Allah make it easy for you

[Islami.Mu'mina]

Salam everyone
I dnt know how to express myself im so depress . Im orginally from pakistan. And born and raised in UAE. The guy i love is Egyptian and also live in UAE. We are relationship since really long. We did zina. But then i realized my mistake as i started to learn more and more about isalm and alhamdulillah from Allah suddenly i felt deep love for my religion. So i stopped zina and asked forgiveness from Allah day and night by crying and I've been praying day and night. Even tahajuud to make this relationship halal and make him my naseeb make him my husband. Alhamdulillah i even started praying 5 obligatory prayers and also the guy i understand he did xina but is good character and good in religionand his family is religious and they love me a lot. His dad prayed istakhara for marriage and he felt comfortable so he called my family to bring proposal. But my family even refuse to meet the guy cus he is Egyptian and im pakistani. My dad is just from marriage proposal is like . What face i will show to people. I shouldnt say but he is racist . I have no one to help. Not even 1% chance i see my family will accept. Im praying tahajuud and praying day and night asking for miracles. I prefer to marry this guy first of all from my past and my deep love. But my family is forcing me to go pakistan. They put restrictions on me and searching my marriage with other guy. Ofcourse they will try again for proposal but my father and brother daid u will see what i do with u. Plz what should i do. I prefer to marry him then other guy. Should i say my family i did zina . They will kill me for sure. Should i take step against them. I rpomosed Allah i will be very religious even aftr marriage and i will be really good wife. But my family only care society and relatives. How can i make this relationship halal.

Your family shouldn't force you to marry Pakistani men. Its unjust. Especially if you found a non pakistani man who is good in deen and character. Try reasoning with your parents. If you can't, then you'll have to speak to an Imam before you move back to Pakistan. Tell the imam your concerns and how your family only wants you to marry Pakistani men only..

But there is something else I wanted to mention. I have heard stories about couples who commit zina, get married, and then divorce.

Are you sure this is the right guy? Yes, you have gotten closer to Allah now because you realized what you did was wrong. Did he do the same thing though? Or did he only repent so he could marry you? Does he pray? You need to ask yourself these things without letting your emotions get in the way. You have formed a connection to him so at first he may come off as "the one".. But be honest with yourself and genuinely see what kind of man he is