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Studentofdeed
Sister what they sre doing is obviously not islamic and very ignorant. Women's bodys should not be objectifiied. A woman should try to be in shape but if she isn't. That is her own struggle. Im sure you sre in shape and your brothers are very immature. Your mother is also immature by the looks of it. Please stay patient and Allah is rewarding you immensely for defending your sisters. Your brothers comment shows they are very gutter thinking. Insha'Allah Allah gives you reward for defending your sisters and being in the right. May Allah make it easier for you
Yes jazakAllahu khayran thank you.. My other brother never does this stuff to me. I get very angry at him(annoying brother) often because first he makes weird immature "compliments" brothers shouldn't be making about their sisters so I have to cover up my body but then he will start trying to point out things in my about body that aren't perfect sometimes. Either way, both his "compliments" and rude comments are a form of objectification/shaming. I can never wear some clothing even though it is not immodest to be wearing in the house.. I can't wear it just so I can avoid his stupid comments and behaviors. And especially recently I have learned to forgive him and let go of the past things that has happened between us... but now whenever he makes these comments I get very angry and remember all the things he's done to me in the past. I also start to get paranoid about his intentions and what he thinks. InshaAllah one day he will have some good wife who sees what kind of mentality he has and smacks some sense into him (uh not physically.. You know what I mean).
This is how he always acts, talking about woman's bodies. He's always scouting for good looking Muslim women (non hijabis) who have very good bodies so he can ask to get to know them and marry them.. A few times he described all his thoughts to me when he saw one lady (and I understand some people have sexual thoughts even over the slightest things which is normal for some, but you shouldn't speak these thoughts out! And you should at least attempt to lower your gaze!)..
We were even talking about a sick girl who was infected with COVID 19! She was sick in bed not being able to get out and we were talking about her (not in her presence) and all he could do is make his sexual jokes about how hot she is. And a note for you, she is close friends with my other brother (the normal one, and he isn't very practicing) and this brother likes herand she loves to flirt specifically with him! (yes, unislamic but the my normal acting brother doesn't practice Islam) In front of him, my (annoying) brother was saying all this and how he would definitely love to marry her and the whole time my (normal) brother was quiet and ignoring.
JazakAllahu khayran I cannot handle him sometimes, I swear the amount of pain he has put me through in the past (also the pain I put myself into for making myself crazy).. I ended up thinking all men are animals that only care about themselves. AstaghfirAllahil-atheem.. My other brother alhamdulilah I love him very much although I am very sad because this one doesn't practice Islam.
Sorry for too much ranting. I am just going to put up with his dumb behavior and inshaAllah one day he'll grow up and thank you for the empathetic reply, I'm glad someone else is on board