She also said that if you want to screw your life and be selfish and **** your life then go ahead.
It shouldn't really matter whether the lady is educated or not. Just think about her piety. Someone who is smart and religiously experienced in life will know what choices to make. If you end up dying sometime throughout your marriage, inshaAllah your wife will tie her camels and put her trust in Allah. There are ways to get on, it may not be easy sometimes but as long as she has her faith in Allah, she will win all in the end. Why? Because she has the right mindset.
You're not selfish for the decision you want to make. But here is another thing: You should still tell your potentials about your heart problem before marrying them. Its not just because of the money. I've noticed many parents are always worrying about money money moneyyyyy. They want me to waste half my life on studying and going into med school (when its not my passion) so that I can become an extremely rich "successful" person and make a lot of money and work while being married. I am satisfied with the 2 year program I am going into because it can be my backup job incase something goes wrong. It has a decent salary which is around the national average. Yet they still say "what if your husband dies". It's really dumb because my dad himself used to make around the same amount and he has a family with four kids including myself. They think that we are living in poor conditions when we are living in a nice house and neighborhood like most families. Money is just really important to some parents for some reason.
But you should still tell your potentials because it's hard to lose someone you love so early. Some people may not want to be with you knowing you have a heart issue (Which is not something to feel bad about) since they won't want to deal with the pain of knowing that their loved one may die early.
Actually my brother wanted to marry one of his patients from the eye clinic he works at. She has sickle cell anemia, meaning that she could possibly die in her 40's or 50's. His friends and my parents tried talking him out of it. I did tell him that it might be hard on him, and he may have trouble remarrying as well. Yeah but he still didn't care and he wanted to go on with it even though he just met her once at his work.
So if your potential knows and agrees to marry you, there really is no problem.
Just aim for piety and attraction, those are the two most important things
If I marry a simple girl from back home she will appreciate every single thing I do for her.
They will be on streets and you are selfish because you want to marry a woman who is poor.
Here is one problem though. Are you specifically trying to marry poor women just because you think they will appreciate you a lot more than other women? That's a horrible mentality if thats what you mean. Your expectations will be shattered.
Marrying a woman from back home (your desi right?) can be an option, nothing is wrong with being open to women from any country, but there is another thing you need to keep in mind. You can find a good potential anywheere, just harder to find in some areas. But marrying a cultured woman doesn't automatically mean she'll be a good pious wife. She may be cultured and more conservative without being a great Muslim.
Being poor or being cultured does not = piety
Just saying that even though you may marry someone from back home, don't let your guard down thinking that all these women are angelic and simple. People who have experienced trauma from past abuse can be taken advantage of in their vulnerable states when putting their hopes and trust in someone who might seem like "the one"
With that being said, go for whoever you want. Just make sure to check their deen + mentality and let them know about your heart issues