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hellomuslimss
02-16-2021, 04:11 PM
'hello.
i am a 25 year old muslim man.

i dont even know where to start. honestly being i am truly losing religion.
i have been what i consider a good person since i was a child. during the teenage years i was tested with being round people who werent worshipers and I maintained my worship.
i been praying salah since i was 14.I never smoked a single cigar, no drugs, trying to be respectuful to peole ( and it shows cause they love me back) i never fornicated. i dont watch pornography, i dont listen to music, i dont even masturbate..i stay away from evil and sin as much as i can but yet i do believe God isnt loving me or doing me any favor.

lets put it this way. i expected that God would lead me into a better life .
i only get hardships. mom died when i was 18, things just dont go my way.
while i try to see light and good in all whats happening its tough for me
i am not financially stable- its tough to find jobs especially recently while time is running up for me.i try so hard to get jobs.
whats truly testing me and occupying my mind is that im not bein able to find a woman ( and never had a relatiionship with a woman mostly cause of fear of fornication)

i like a girl a lot but she doesnt like me back i suppose.i lost contact with her cause she closed all social networks and i dont see her anymore on the street. she was beautiful and also shy.. which truly attracted me .i dont even know where to start with this case but i feel so so so sad cause God didnt write for me and this girl to be together yet i love her so much and am not able to get over her for more than a year. its rare that i like someone (even tho i am not shy at all) let alone the woman i want to marry. i basically feel that GOD DIDNT FAVOR ME , or loves someone more than me thats why HE gave her as a price to him and not me.. do i deserve this??

i prayed everywhere for this woman. in the mosque, at work when i used to have one, at the house, everywhere cause i wanted this to happen so so much. no matter how much i try ( by not looking at her pics on her abononded social media account( im just not able to forget her beautiful face.

i feel so broken hearted cause i see god providing for people who dont even care bout religion, they get more wealth and more amazing woman and here i am, a person who was grown a believer- left and forgotten. and that makes me feel betrayed, it kills me, its burning me.

now more than ever i need a miracle.

yes i know that allah sometimes withhold something from you cause he has something better in store but really> better than this woman? i dont think so.i am 25 nd i havent seen anyone as her. its becoming late for me as a 25 year old to find a virgin woman who is also a beauty and kind like she was.
someone please just tell me if God really loves me at all?' even tho i continue worship and keep distance from sins, im hanging on by a thread here. i no longer feel love.. how can u love someone when you devoted your life to him, yet He gives the best to others and not you?
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*charisma*
02-17-2021, 08:29 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by hellomuslimss
i dont even know where to start. honestly being i am truly losing religion.
i have been what i consider a good person since i was a child. during the teenage years i was tested with being round people who werent worshipers and I maintained my worship.
i been praying salah since i was 14.I never smoked a single cigar, no drugs, trying to be respectuful to peole ( and it shows cause they love me back) i never fornicated. i dont watch pornography, i dont listen to music, i dont even masturbate..i stay away from evil and sin as much as i can but yet i do believe God isnt loving me or doing me any favor.
Assalamu Alaikum,

You are able to stay away from what other struggle with every day and maintain your closeness with him, and you believe that Allah doesn't love you because of a GIRL?

If you liked the girl then ask for her hand! Try to find out who she is and ask for her. If she does not like you then that's it, move on. You cannot force her to like you or want you.
Subhanallah females are the destruction of men. If the girl is corrupt, I wonder how much she would be able to influence you to become astray, especially if so far she has not even interacted with you yet you are already willing to sell your soul. You don't really know her yet are obsessed with her due to her beauty and shyness, but guess what? Neither of those qualities mean the girl is good for you or is good in general. Or it may be the complete opposite and you are not compatible with her! So either do something like asking for her hand, or get out of your fantasies.

There's a saying that "Comparison is the thief of joy." May Allah keep us away from the envious and the jealous. You think you are perfect, yet you are being envious of Allah's blessings on other people. This is a major sin and a disease of the heart. If anyone around you knew you felt this way they would seek ways to be far away from you for that is one of the worst traits to have. Allah even tells us in the Quran to seek refuge from people like you in surah al falaq!

Abu Huraryah (ra) narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “When one of you sees someone who has been blessed more than him in money or appearance, then let him look at someone lesser than him, whom he has been preferred over.” (Bukhari)

So please be aware of your emotions and how you are dealing with them. This is not a way to find happiness!
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SoldierAmatUllah
02-18-2021, 02:01 AM
ALLAH has promised reward in both the worlds for the pious ones even if it's late.Dont feel upset with ALLAH & worship Him,asking Him for good dreams that puts you to rest.This is how many of us keeping to deen.Ofcourse Allah loves you as You see guidance & good deeds naimah,upon you.

MashaAllah,tell Allah what you want & make big efforts on in your imaan.Allah won't withhold His blessings & I pray for you big!
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SoldierAmatUllah
02-18-2021, 04:59 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by *charisma*
Assalamu Alaikum,

You are able to stay away from what other struggle with every day and maintain your closeness with him, and you believe that Allah doesn't love you because of a GIRL?

If you liked the girl then ask for her hand! Try to find out who she is and ask for her. If she does not like you then that's it, move on. You cannot force her to like you or want you.
Subhanallah females are the destruction of men. If the girl is corrupt, I wonder how much she would be able to influence you to become astray, especially if so far she has not even interacted with you yet you are already willing to sell your soul. You don't really know her yet are obsessed with her due to her beauty and shyness, but guess what? Neither of those qualities mean the girl is good for you or is good in general. Or it may be the complete opposite and you are not compatible with her! So either do something like asking for her hand, or get out of your fantasies.

There's a saying that "Comparison is the thief of joy." May Allah keep us away from the envious and the jealous. You think you are perfect, yet you are being envious of Allah's blessings on other people. This is a major sin and a disease of the heart. If anyone around you knew you felt this way they would seek ways to be far away from you for that is one of the worst traits to have. Allah even tells us in the Quran to seek refuge from people like you in surah al falaq!

Abu Huraryah (ra) narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “When one of you sees someone who has been blessed more than him in money or appearance, then let him look at someone lesser than him, whom he has been preferred over.” (Bukhari)

So please be aware of your emotions and how you are dealing with them. This is not a way to find happiness!
Be polite,sister,please for the sake of Allah
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iammuslim98
02-18-2021, 06:51 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by *charisma*
Assalamu Alaikum,

You are able to stay away from what other struggle with every day and maintain your closeness with him, and you believe that Allah doesn't love you because of a GIRL?

If you liked the girl then ask for her hand! Try to find out who she is and ask for her. If she does not like you then that's it, move on. You cannot force her to like you or want you.
Subhanallah females are the destruction of men. If the girl is corrupt, I wonder how much she would be able to influence you to become astray, especially if so far she has not even interacted with you yet you are already willing to sell your soul. You don't really know her yet are obsessed with her due to her beauty and shyness, but guess what? Neither of those qualities mean the girl is good for you or is good in general. Or it may be the complete opposite and you are not compatible with her! So either do something like asking for her hand, or get out of your fantasies.

There's a saying that "Comparison is the thief of joy." May Allah keep us away from the envious and the jealous. You think you are perfect, yet you are being envious of Allah's blessings on other people. This is a major sin and a disease of the heart. If anyone around you knew you felt this way they would seek ways to be far away from you for that is one of the worst traits to have. Allah even tells us in the Quran to seek refuge from people like you in surah al falaq!

Abu Huraryah (ra) narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “When one of you sees someone who has been blessed more than him in money or appearance, then let him look at someone lesser than him, whom he has been preferred over.” (Bukhari)

So please be aware of your emotions and how you are dealing with them. This is not a way to find happiness!
Aoa. Why would u sy females are destruction of men? Such misogyny. Why?
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iammuslim98
02-18-2021, 06:57 AM
Aoa. Brother i have always been confused by the same question. I see people who commit fraud and don't even bother to say salah get everything they want but the ones pious to their core get nothing. However i do believe it comes down to our conviction in Allah. I do lack that when it comes to doing dua. You need to have firm faith in Allah. I say it because it is Allah's characteristic that He responds and answers to our duas. If He doesn't, it means the entire religion is a lie. It would mean He is not Rahim, rehman, al Wahab, etc. Do not give up. He has said it in Quran that He responds, so what makes you think He wont? There is hadith that Allah says I am what my slave thinks of me. If you think He will not answer Dua, then He won't. A single ounce of doubt can have drastic effects on ur dua and hence faith altogether. And this is what Shetan wants. Thats his ulterior motive. Starts slow then leads up to bigger things until you abandon ur faith completely. I also face problems with dua. I hardly remember any dua that was answered. But I still believe in what I just wrote.
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*charisma*
02-18-2021, 03:56 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by SoldierAmatUllah
Be polite,sister,please for the sake of Allah
Where was I impolite?

format_quote Originally Posted by iammuslim98
Aoa. Why would u sy females are destruction of men? Such misogyny. Why?
Please stop reading with your emotions and misinterpreting what I say. There's nothing that I said that which implies that I hate women. Men are weak over women so they will make rash decisions.


Usamah ibn Zayd reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “I have not left a trial after me more harmful to men than women.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 4808, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2740

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

عَنْ أُسَامَةَ بْنِ زَيْدٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا عَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ مَا تَرَكْتُ بَعْدِي فِتْنَةً أَضَرَّ عَلَى الرِّجَالِ مِنْ النِّسَاءِ

4808 صحيح البخاري كتاب النكاح باب ما يتقى من شؤم المرأة

2740 صحيح مسلم كتاب الرقاق باب أكثر أهل الجنة الفقراء وأكثر أهل النار النساء وبيان الفتنة بالنساء


Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The world is sweet and green. Verily, Allah will make you successors in it to see how you will behave. Beware of the world and beware of women. Verily, the first trial of the children of Israel was with women.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2742

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim

عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ عَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ إِنَّ الدُّنْيَا حُلْوَةٌ خَضِرَةٌ وَإِنَّ اللَّهَ مُسْتَخْلِفُكُمْ فِيهَا فَيَنْظُرُ كَيْفَ تَعْمَلُونَ فَاتَّقُوا الدُّنْيَا وَاتَّقُوا النِّسَاءَ فَإِنَّ أَوَّلَ فِتْنَةِ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ كَانَتْ فِي النِّسَاءِ

2742 صحيح مسلم كتاب الرقاق باب أكثر أهل الجنة الفقراء وأكثر أهل النار النساء وبيان الفتنة بالنساء
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iammuslim98
02-18-2021, 05:03 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by *charisma*
Where was I impolite?



Please stop reading with your emotions and misinterpreting what I say. There's nothing that I said that which implies that I hate women. Men are weak over women so they will make rash decisions.


Usamah ibn Zayd reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “I have not left a trial after me more harmful to men than women.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 4808, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2740

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

عَنْ أُسَامَةَ بْنِ زَيْدٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا عَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ مَا تَرَكْتُ بَعْدِي فِتْنَةً أَضَرَّ عَلَى الرِّجَالِ مِنْ النِّسَاءِ

4808 صحيح البخاري كتاب النكاح باب ما يتقى من شؤم المرأة

2740 صحيح مسلم كتاب الرقاق باب أكثر أهل الجنة الفقراء وأكثر أهل النار النساء وبيان الفتنة بالنساء


Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The world is sweet and green. Verily, Allah will make you successors in it to see how you will behave. Beware of the world and beware of women. Verily, the first trial of the children of Israel was with women.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2742

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim

عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ عَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ إِنَّ الدُّنْيَا حُلْوَةٌ خَضِرَةٌ وَإِنَّ اللَّهَ مُسْتَخْلِفُكُمْ فِيهَا فَيَنْظُرُ كَيْفَ تَعْمَلُونَ فَاتَّقُوا الدُّنْيَا وَاتَّقُوا النِّسَاءَ فَإِنَّ أَوَّلَ فِتْنَةِ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ كَانَتْ فِي النِّسَاءِ

2742 صحيح مسلم كتاب الرقاق باب أكثر أهل الجنة الفقراء وأكثر أهل النار النساء وبيان الفتنة بالنساء
The way u have interpreted the hadith implies women are epitome of evil. Women's rights are elemental in islam. This is what Allah says. And i am sure this is what these hadith imply. And as far as women being the weakness of men is concerned, it is a fact. But women are not accountable for men with weak control over their emotions.
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Revert alYunani
02-21-2021, 03:04 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by hellomuslimss
whats truly testing me and occupying my mind is that im not bein able to find a woman
arent we all? Everybody has a problem with this,its not only you.
I can relate a lot to you,and i know how you feeling because there were things i really wanted,and there were women i really wanted,and whats more mind blowing is that i wanted to practice islam yet Allah was making it ''hard'' for me over and over to the point that i felt the same as you.I stoped looking at islamic lectures,id be angry at imams at muslims praying id be angry at everybody because i wanted to do whate they were doing and i couldnt.

But guess what,all that stress and difficulty i went through taught me a lot of things which i would have failed in the life i have now if i didnt learn those things.Allah prepared me for a way biggest test and by his grace and his mercy i am handling it pretty well until now.All the sadness i felt now is gone but the reward of it will come in the day of judgement in shaa Allah.So have sabr.
Now about women,i also wanted a lot of women,id fall in love with everyone cuz i was lonely and naive,and id pray to Allah day and night for those,and to save you the long stories,let me tell you that i am 100% sure that if Allah married me to one of the women i prayed for,i would have either been corrupt or would have ruined my life.If i turned back time i wouldnt even talk to them.

This girl,you dont know anything about her,but Allah knows everything about her,so all you need to know is that Allah will never abandon his slave.You try to be close to Allah and make duaa that He gives you an amazing pious and beautiful wife,and if this girl is the right one,Allah will bring her to you,if not then have faith that the one who is to come to you would be better,because as i said Allah does not abandon his obedient slaves.

So just propose to her and if its no,elhamdulillah move on,its for the best.
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SoldierAmatUllah
03-28-2021, 06:02 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Revert alYunani
arent we all? Everybody has a problem with this,its not only you.
I can relate a lot to you,and i know how you feeling because there were things i really wanted,and there were women i really wanted,and whats more mind blowing is that i wanted to practice islam yet Allah was making it ''hard'' for me over and over to the point that i felt the same as you.I stoped looking at islamic lectures,id be angry at imams at muslims praying id be angry at everybody because i wanted to do whate they were doing and i couldnt.

But guess what,all that stress and difficulty i went through taught me a lot of things which i would have failed in the life i have now if i didnt learn those things.Allah prepared me for a way biggest test and by his grace and his mercy i am handling it pretty well until now.All the sadness i felt now is gone but the reward of it will come in the day of judgement in shaa Allah.So have sabr.
Now about women,i also wanted a lot of women,id fall in love with everyone cuz i was lonely and naive,and id pray to Allah day and night for those,and to save you the long stories,let me tell you that i am 100% sure that if Allah married me to one of the women i prayed for,i would have either been corrupt or would have ruined my life.If i turned back time i wouldnt even talk to them.

This girl,you dont know anything about her,but Allah knows everything about her,so all you need to know is that Allah will never abandon his slave.You try to be close to Allah and make duaa that He gives you an amazing pious and beautiful wife,and if this girl is the right one,Allah will bring her to you,if not then have faith that the one who is to come to you would be better,because as i said Allah does not abandon his obedient slaves.

So just propose to her and if its no,elhamdulillah move on,its for the best.
Can you explain your present trial ?maybe we get hope,please bro
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Revert alYunani
03-28-2021, 06:04 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by SoldierAmatUllah
Can you explain your present trial ?maybe we get hope,please bro
What do you mean my present trial sister?
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SoldierAmatUllah
03-28-2021, 06:06 AM
I meant you said you have other big trials in this thread & your other thread asking for duas
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Revert alYunani
03-28-2021, 06:14 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by SoldierAmatUllah
I meant you said you have other big trials in this thread & your other thread asking for duas
Ah yes. Did you make duaa? JazakhAllahu Khair. It is almost done i am feeling way better and i am almost done with it elhamdulillah.It will take some more time and especially in ramadan when i raise my taqwa in shaa Allah i would be willing to brush off all the negative effects it has left.
Its just things in the dunya, you know small problems here and there who together come up and become big problems and then a new hardship happens that you never experienced before and you feel blocked but elhamdulillah im feeling way way better and im sure it was for my best,thank you so much for your concern.JazakhAllahu Khair.I hope you are feeling better too and life is easier.

https://youtu.be/4KvhItC-U0I
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SoldierAmatUllah
03-28-2021, 07:15 AM
My life is hardest,just dunno what to do.I want to do things which I shouldn't be.Im always under torture every second,won't get into details.Lost everything & then this extreme pain.Alhamdulilah better than many but nothing to be happy about.The guy I been seeing in dreams is a kinda nonsense,he blocked me,been fraudulent & I'm forced to wait for him.I hate him but I'm suppose to wait for him.Its been 6 long years of this bad episode with him, waiting waiting & waiting.And then this ugly torture since 17 years.Uff,I'm tired
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Esha Talha
03-28-2021, 08:00 AM
Assalam o alaikum,

brother in Islam, I have read your story and its seems to be one sided love. You love her but she dose not, and you feel a disconsolate heart.
According to my opinion Allah love you, that is why Allah dose not want you to connect with her, she dose not deserves you anymore.
you fell sorrow in your heart, because Allah is taking your exam, Allah takes exam in the matter which we want and love most, and Allah loves you more than 70 mother's love you, so be calm and just open the book of Allah and start reciting Surai Bakra, by reciting this Surat Bakra the shetan will leave you, and your heart will be so calm, Just connect to Allah and make pray about removing he feelings from your heart.
life is not finished, just connect with Allah and recite his Quran, Quran is the shifa for all muslim so why are you getting so much late, at least just give a time and be calm.
https://equranlearningacademy.wordpress.com/
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abadwek
05-09-2021, 10:26 PM
i am the original writter of this distress call.
well id like to thank everytone for reaching out to me ,your words sadly havent made me feel better. now matter how much itry i just cant seem to be able to find solutions to my problems.
so whats the point? i have decided to go with a non religious living. i will continue believeing that Allah exists and is the one, but i am just too dissapointed in everything to be a practicing muslim anymore. nothing good ever seems to come my way. so why keep trying?
thank you and farewell religion.
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abadwek
05-09-2021, 10:28 PM
i hoped that Allah would have rewarded me with a good spouse and a good living but things just dont seem to work that way. who knows , maybe a miracle might bring me back one day - but to be honest i dont feel like it. i dont feel like being a practicing muslim, or seeking any more knowledge. my heart is broken i cant be fixed.
so it be. i cant lie to God bout how im feeling , bout this dissapointment.
i cant keep being like this. who knows that miracle might come if God would ever want me under his realm but i.. dont think its happening. goodbye everyone and thanks a lot for reaching out.
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Revert alYunani
05-09-2021, 10:47 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by abadwek
i hoped that Allah would have rewarded me with a good spouse and a good living but things just dont seem to work that way. who knows , maybe a miracle might bring me back one day - but to be honest i dont feel like it. i dont feel like being a practicing muslim, or seeking any more knowledge. my heart is broken i cant be fixed.
so it be. i cant lie to God bout how im feeling , bout this dissapointment.
i cant keep being like this. who knows that miracle might come if God would ever want me under his realm but i.. dont think its happening. goodbye everyone and thanks a lot for reaching out.
please let me know how you will be rewarded with a good wife now that you left the religion.You left God for a girl that doesnt care about you.Do you really think you deserve someone as good as you want it to be? I am being harsh because i wont it to hit on you hard.Turn back to islam and be the man a good woman deserves,or keep going being a quiter and a looser and if there was a really good woman who was reserved for you in the future,then you have lost her too.
But you are still on time.Come back and save yourself.
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abadwek
05-21-2021, 10:19 PM
no. i am not coming back.

- - - Updated - - -

i am too dissapointed to even make a dua again let alone keep worship.
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Shayan'M'
05-21-2021, 11:05 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by hellomuslimss
'hello.
i am a 25 year old muslim man.

i dont even know where to start. honestly being i am truly losing religion.
i have been what i consider a good person since i was a child. during the teenage years i was tested with being round people who werent worshipers and I maintained my worship.
i been praying salah since i was 14.I never smoked a single cigar, no drugs, trying to be respectuful to peole ( and it shows cause they love me back) i never fornicated. i dont watch pornography, i dont listen to music, i dont even masturbate..i stay away from evil and sin as much as i can but yet i do believe God isnt loving me or doing me any favor.

lets put it this way. i expected that God would lead me into a better life .
i only get hardships. mom died when i was 18, things just dont go my way.
while i try to see light and good in all whats happening its tough for me
i am not financially stable- its tough to find jobs especially recently while time is running up for me.i try so hard to get jobs.
whats truly testing me and occupying my mind is that im not bein able to find a woman ( and never had a relatiionship with a woman mostly cause of fear of fornication)

i like a girl a lot but she doesnt like me back i suppose.i lost contact with her cause she closed all social networks and i dont see her anymore on the street. she was beautiful and also shy.. which truly attracted me .i dont even know where to start with this case but i feel so so so sad cause God didnt write for me and this girl to be together yet i love her so much and am not able to get over her for more than a year. its rare that i like someone (even tho i am not shy at all) let alone the woman i want to marry. i basically feel that GOD DIDNT FAVOR ME , or loves someone more than me thats why HE gave her as a price to him and not me.. do i deserve this??

i prayed everywhere for this woman. in the mosque, at work when i used to have one, at the house, everywhere cause i wanted this to happen so so much. no matter how much i try ( by not looking at her pics on her abononded social media account( im just not able to forget her beautiful face.

i feel so broken hearted cause i see god providing for people who dont even care bout religion, they get more wealth and more amazing woman and here i am, a person who was grown a believer- left and forgotten. and that makes me feel betrayed, it kills me, its burning me.

now more than ever i need a miracle.

yes i know that allah sometimes withhold something from you cause he has something better in store but really> better than this woman? i dont think so.i am 25 nd i havent seen anyone as her. its becoming late for me as a 25 year old to find a virgin woman who is also a beauty and kind like she was.
someone please just tell me if God really loves me at all?' even tho i continue worship and keep distance from sins, im hanging on by a thread here. i no longer feel love.. how can u love someone when you devoted your life to him, yet He gives the best to others and not you?

Majority of problems in this life are by people dont blame Allah

You prayed to have the woman you love what if she was just beautiful on outside only

You do know beauty fades with age right
behavior changes too

when we were kids some of us were extremely shy but we later grew to be bold

I have experienced love and she didn't feel the same i even asked her for marriage

but i dont blame Allah nor do i blame her

As its a person choice to be with who respect it

I am not saying its easy but it's right thing to do

Your mom passed away

every soul shall taste the death even Prophet Mohammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had to go

do you know prophet Mohammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was orphan

Imagine being alone and having a duty to spread Islam and save others

people threw rocks at him but he stayed loyal to Allah kept spreading the message of my lord Allah

you are not financially stable but do you know there are people who dont even have food

Prophet Mohammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lived a life of poverty though he could have asked / requested to Allah for luxury but he didn't

If you do good deeds stay a Muslim your reward is at judgement day heaven

do you know the story of Pharaoh he was powerful and very rich in this world but will stay in hell in after life

If you are a Muslim and stay a Muslim i guarantee my lord Allah loves you

Also when you feel weak read this hasbunallahu wa ni'mal wakeel .
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IslamLife00
05-21-2021, 11:25 PM
@abadwek

Akhi, I understand you are hurting. You have made up your mind, I respect that, it's between you and Allah.

But I will still make this dua for you, May Allah heal your pain, make it easy for you and guide you back to Islam.
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Revert alYunani
05-21-2021, 11:31 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by abadwek
no. i am not coming back.

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i am too dissapointed to even make a dua again let alone keep worship.
Why would she end up with someone like you? You realise now why it didnt happen?
You dont deserve her. You left Allah for a person, why would that person leave Allah for you? Have a nice life. We'll see how much nonmuslims will love you
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abadwek
05-21-2021, 11:45 PM
Well if she was given to me i wouldnt be here.id be happy.
But dissapointment after dizsapointment truly did it for me
Enough is enough

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Only a miracle can bring me back
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abadwek
05-21-2021, 11:48 PM
@IslamLife00 only a miracle could bring md back. Something that would fill me with joy. But looking at how my life has gone, that wont happen.miracles dont happen to me. Sadly ;(
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abadwek
05-22-2021, 12:16 AM
Cant be a hypocrite by practicing and on the other side not feeling love and extreme dissapointment.
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abadwek
05-22-2021, 01:13 AM
If only a miracle.. could show that Allah loves me. If only He had given me this baby girl ;
.. i have seen so many girls but none like her before or after her.

I wont be able to forget. I cant foget. I dont want to. Iwant her kn my future. Why wasnt it written in the stars for me.. damn :( whw your soul aches so bad to have something and it just fewls like God doesnt ever work on your favor. So how can i feel loved?

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Easy for some of you to be hard on me,you have no clue what i have been or am going through. Im losing hair..

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Im losing soul..

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All i needed was to feel loved

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Thats all i ever asked for.
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Melah
05-22-2021, 08:39 AM
Pieces worth sharing...[emoji4] to remind ourselves.

Prophet Muhammad SAW said: "...And if something (bad) befalls you, do not say, 'Had I only done such-and-such, then such-and-such would have happened, rather say: Qadrullaahi, wa maa shaa' fa'ala (This is from the Qadr of Allah, and He does whatever He will).""
Do not overthink, it was the Qadr of Allah and it was best for you, that's all you need to know.

"At times, you may think everything is going wrong, yet you don't realise that Allah is setting everything straight." -safina5.tumblr.com

Sometimes, Allah tests us twice because we failed the first time and He wants us to pass.
"ALLAH SWT does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear..." Quran 2:286

May Allah SWT enlighten our hearts, clear our minds of unnecessary thoughts that may lead us astray and may He strengthen our Imaan.

Godbless.
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abadwek
05-22-2021, 06:06 PM
Easier said then done.
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abadwek
05-22-2021, 06:16 PM
Thr thing is , i really feel betrayed.looking at what Good Allah gives to others and how He is depriving me of a basic need.
Nothing can fix this. I exprcted from Allah as he is the creator of All things . I wss foing fine with religion before this happened.

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You see,none of these words are doin it for me. I need to see things manifest in reality no words.
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abadwek
05-22-2021, 07:01 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Shayan'M'
Majority of problems in this life are by people dont blame Allah

You prayed to have the woman you love what if she was just beautiful on outside only

You do know beauty fades with age right
behavior changes too

when we were kids some of us were extremely shy but we later grew to be bold

I have experienced love and she didn't feel the same i even asked her for marriage

but i dont blame Allah nor do i blame her

As its a person choice to be with who respect it

I am not saying its easy but it's right thing to do

Your mom passed away

every soul shall taste the death even Prophet Mohammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had to go

do you know prophet Mohammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was orphan

Imagine being alone and having a duty to spread Islam and save others

people threw rocks at him but he stayed loyal to Allah kept spreading the message of my lord Allah

you are not financially stable but do you know there are people who dont even have food

Prophet Mohammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lived a life of poverty though he could have asked / requested to Allah for luxury but he didn't

If you do good deeds stay a Muslim your reward is at judgement day heaven

do you know the story of Pharaoh he was powerful and very rich in this world but will stay in hell in after life

If you are a Muslim and stay a Muslim i guarantee my lord Allah loves you

Also when you feel weak read this hasbunallahu wa ni'mal wakeel .


Bro, the thing is , if she was written for me she wouldnt have said no.
The thing is i feel disspaointed that im having to wait so long to
Get a basic need met, and i dont get to have a beauriful girl like her
Which in turn makea me feel dissapointed.
Why someone else grt smth so beautiful and me,nothing
And moztly in life only pain..
Its not ..fair.

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format_quote Originally Posted by Shayan'M'
Majority of problems in this life are by people dont blame Allah

You prayed to have the woman you love what if she was just beautiful on outside only

You do know beauty fades with age right
behavior changes too

when we were kids some of us were extremely shy but we later grew to be bold

I have experienced love and she didn't feel the same i even asked her for marriage

but i dont blame Allah nor do i blame her

As its a person choice to be with who respect it

I am not saying its easy but it's right thing to do

Your mom passed away

every soul shall taste the death even Prophet Mohammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had to go

do you know prophet Mohammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was orphan

Imagine being alone and having a duty to spread Islam and save others

people threw rocks at him but he stayed loyal to Allah kept spreading the message of my lord Allah

you are not financially stable but do you know there are people who dont even have food

Prophet Mohammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lived a life of poverty though he could have asked / requested to Allah for luxury but he didn't

If you do good deeds stay a Muslim your reward is at judgement day heaven

do you know the story of Pharaoh he was powerful and very rich in this world but will stay in hell in after life

If you are a Muslim and stay a Muslim i guarantee my lord Allah loves you

Also when you feel weak read this hasbunallahu wa ni'mal wakeel .


If i am not getting fairness from thr divine.. where can i expect fairness now..
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 01:32 AM
Why am i still here?
Last week i tried to start praying again but i just.. dont feel it.
Cant lie. I give up trying.

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Its like.. i can make a perfect prayer but if deep down i have lost faith in good, its useless. To.put it simply i am.dissapointed and no matter how much im trying to go back its just not feeling right..
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 01:35 AM
Didnt Allah create us to worship and love him

But id i no longer feel the l9ve cause of all the burdens put over me then whats the point of praying, when the main thing is - i am absolutely numb.

I been trying to fix myself by eating more magnesium, eating nothing from plastics, from estrogen compounds, trying to fix this as if its an chemical balance.

But rlts face it. Its smth from the heart. And all your advices arent helpint me ,i wish they did. Cause deep inside i wish i was a better believer but the corcumstances have inded pushed me further and on the brink.

The thing is im not trying to just..avoid peoblems. I wanted to face them and i did and i failed. So now i feel.. numb.
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 01:39 AM
The feelin how Allah gives to some so effortlessly and I try so hard and achieve nothing ,just kills that 0.2 percent iman left in me.

I just cant come to a logical or reasonable thinking behind why is my life so hard?
What is wrong with me? Why am i not loved?
Why do i have to go through all these things?

I know with words easy to say that " it will be fine" but nah, i been hearing that since yearzs and its not gettin any better.

And for the first time in life,im also thinking of suicide.
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 01:42 AM
Used to be more confident now i get easily tears in eyes,
I have lost soul and heart.
The only thing thats keepin me.round is my father. If i killed myself then he would be devestated. But one day i might just decide that u know what this is too much, i gotta go.
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 01:45 AM
Hairline is receding from stress
Losing wheight
Loss of appetite

Nothing can fix me. A miracle ?
Used to be a believer before a strong one until.i got struck again. And again


But i dont know how much long i will wait. Im seriously just thinking of the easier way out.
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 01:49 AM
Can anyone say something? Can anyone give me a sense of what is going on?
Please.. no "it will be all right's " please.

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Easist way out - probably drinking bleach :/

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And its not that noticable so people maybe think i died in sleep :)
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 01:52 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Revert alYunani
Why would she end up with someone like you? You realise now why it didnt happen?
You dont deserve her. You left Allah for a person, why would that person leave Allah for you? Have a nice life. We'll see how much nonmuslims will love you
I deserve to cease existing but even that isnt happeninh
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 01:55 AM
For the sake of Allah, say something beautiful and realistic.
I might have just reached the very end here
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Labayk
06-07-2021, 02:28 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by abadwek
i hoped that Allah would have rewarded me with a good spouse and a good living but things just dont seem to work that way. who knows , maybe a miracle might bring me back one day - but to be honest i dont feel like it. i dont feel like being a practicing muslim, or seeking any more knowledge. my heart is broken i cant be fixed.
so it be. i cant lie to God bout how im feeling , bout this dissapointment.
i cant keep being like this. who knows that miracle might come if God would ever want me under his realm but i.. dont think its happening. goodbye everyone and thanks a lot for reaching out.

Let me share a personal (embarrassing) story with you. When I was in high school and not a Muslim, I met this girl at a party who told me I was "cute". Since then, I had a crush on her for years. This girl was beautiful and had an amazing smile. Her name was Angel. No, really, her birthname was Angel. For years, I obsessed over her. She lived in a different town and was visiting a friend so I didn’t get to see her very much after that: just by chance every now and again. This proved to be agonizing and every time I did see her I would be tormented all over again.


Anyway, years went past, I grew up and matured a bit and finally after a very long time I saw her at a party and she….ummm…gained a little weight and I was like….ummm…..okay. And I didn’t have any real feelings for her after that.


I later became Muslim, much later got married, fell in love (notice my ordering) with a beautiful Muslimah whose beauty was far greater than that “Angel” I obsessed over years prior and with whom I have since lived “happily” ever after going through intense difficulties and trials (the like of which makes those who hear about it drop their jaws in awe wondering how we can both be so stable after going through so much) all the while maintaining my gratitude to Allah, who has never betrayed me, for His limitless favors upon me.


You say Allah betrayed you? Allah never betrays anyone. You show me one single ayah or Hadith where Allah promised a spouse in Dunyah to whoever believes and does good deeds. Allah never fails in His Promise. He didn’t betray you, you betrayed Him. You put the love of a woman above that of Allah (‘Azza wa Jal).


You ask if Allah Loves you, but what you should be asking is do YOU love Allah?
Allah Loves every Muslim in accordance with his/her level of Iman. Allah did Love you until you betrayed Him by putting the love of a girl over your gratitude to Him.


Allah (‘Azza wa Jal) said:


Say, "Obey Allah and the Messenger." But if they turn away - then indeed, Allah does not love the ungrateful. (Al-Imran: 32)

So remember Me; I will remember you. And be grateful to Me and do not deny Me. (2:152)
Allah’s Love is conditional. It has to be earned:

“Whosoever shows enmity to someone devoted to Me, I shall be at war with him. My servant draws not near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My servant continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him. When I love him I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him, and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it. I do not hesitate about anything as much as I hesitate about [seizing] the soul of My faithful servant: he hates death and I hate hurting him.”
[Bukhari]

If you put Him above all else, including any woman of this Dunya, then He Will Love you again. But if you persist in your ingratitude simply because Allah didn't give you what you wanted from this dunya when Allah promised you far better than that if you believe, think good of Him and do good deeds for His sake and for the sake of His Great Forgiveness and Reward (not for the sake of this pathetic meaningless dunya) then He Will be incredibly Angry with you and justifiably so.

The Prophet (Salalhu Alaihi wa salam) said:

“If the world were as worthy to Allah as the wing of a mosquito, an unbeliever would not even be given a sip of water.” [Tirmidhi]

This is why Allah gives more in Dunya to those who don't deserve Allah's favor more than those who do: Because dunya is worthless. Dunya is low and is for those who are low. In Akhirah, the right compensation is given according to a person's true worth.


yes i know that allah sometimes withhold something from you cause he has something better in store but really> better than this woman? i dont think so.i am 25 nd i havent seen anyone as her.
Really?

“If a woman from among the people of Paradise were to look out over the earth, she would illuminate everything that is in between them, and would fill everything that is in between them with fragrance. And the scarf on her head is better than this world and everything in it.”

Is this dream girl of yours, whose infatuation has caused you to go astray and whom you have made a rival unto Allah better than what Allah has promised? I don't think so.
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 11:24 AM
Beo its not just the girl.im.dissapointed in everything.
And thi isnt the first time i fot rejected.
Im overly sad
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SoldierAmatUllah
06-07-2021, 04:40 PM
I don't know what to say but please don't commit suicide.It will only be he'll fire.

And my life's a mess& I look like wow momin ah but I'm broken trials of whose mention can scare you of both the worlds.

Relax. You should take it all easy.I try to keep deen & do bit of things that I shouldn't be doing.Anyways ALLAH SWT shouldn't be bad thought about.

Leaving islam means he'll forever & keeping to islam will have you saved from every azaab in both the lives,InshaAllah

Keep moderation we sin we all sin & we repent to ALLAH SWT as He is Kindest to us.

Trust me I have loads of experience of 18 years.Currently I'm drowning but I'm hoping for relief in future bcz Allah SWT just doesn't trap us for years with good deeds to be sent to he'll esp if you are really good & tested.These two things bring rewards.
You are are just 25, boy it's a young age & this are hard times for us all but if you read about the virtues of our Ummah in end times you will like to be as "Proud to be a Muslim " like non practicing also says.

This is safety bro.Don't just sin without tabs. Tell Allah it's human weaknesses & you love ALLAH SWT & His beautiful Deen.


Miracles happens but with alot of trials.

We will all try to keep you in duas!

Stay Momin=)
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manofIslam
06-07-2021, 05:39 PM
Bro: Please don't leave Islam, and please stay on this Forum: we're all here to try to help you and to be here for you, as much as we can; you're in my Du'aa, my dear brother.
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 08:05 PM
Thanks everyone for the kind words. I am reading them with great attention.
The thing is this.. severe .. dissapoingment
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 08:17 PM
I love you all
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abadwek
06-07-2021, 11:16 PM
The deep desire to be with someone
If you only felt what I felt.
Its clearly the end of the world.
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SoldierAmatUllah
06-08-2021, 12:39 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by abadwek
The deep desire to be with someone
If you only felt what I felt.
Its clearly the end of the world.
Quit my bro worrying & stay with us here
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abadwek
06-08-2021, 05:52 PM
I will stay its just that i feel so.. empty. But i also love you all for reachin out like this
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manofIslam
06-08-2021, 05:59 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by abadwek
I will stay its just that i feel so.. empty. But i also love you all for reachin out like this
Good on you for staying, bro! We're here to help as much as we can.
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abadwek
06-08-2021, 08:26 PM
I have..a feeling like..every time i see something beautiful and isnt destinied for me,i feel deprived by Allah. Im almost 26 and i dont even know how to kiss.. let alone have done other things. And i see people who are careless and they get everything beautiful.

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Its kind of a bit too much with everything. U know when you are so tired of it all. And even if u know next week its gonna get good,which is a maybe,youd rather just go..

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I spentall my youth alone.. wheres the point in having a dsme in life at..30s... :/ or not owning a car yet or no matter how hard i work my results arent all that. Its very hard for me to achieve things
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abadwek
06-08-2021, 08:29 PM
All i want is a beautiful chaste woman, i cant tske loniliness. Having a dame might even make me more focused on religion as it is half the deen. But since this failure i havent even been able to feel anyhing for anyone. Not to mention after sll thse rejections my confidence has been crippled. It just shows that something is very wrong with me

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I dont think ill ever be all right
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abadwek
06-08-2021, 08:33 PM
And im not getting any divine answers or help.. a miracle what i call
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abadwek
06-11-2021, 11:04 PM
Would Allah understand me if i just ended my life? Im exhausted to go on

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Nothing ever worked my way
I cant go on
Goodbye
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Silas
06-11-2021, 11:43 PM
This profound disappointment and grief, this sublime misery, is a necessary trial of life

Your problem is like my problem: arrogance

you think that only you suffer this way, and that your object of affection is unlike anything other men have seen. That your pain is somehow greater than everyone else's

You need to take a step back and write down on paper what you think it means to be a Muslim. It is not some country club of easy living and exotic vacations --it is hard, rigorous, but ultimately rewarding

How many men here, including myself, love and lost? How many have been the victim of a woman's capricious passions and ephemeral attentions? It is all the nonsense of this world brother. That is not why you are here.

Your pain makes you human, and Allah always loves you. Write some poetry about it, pray, take long walks in the wilderness, and come back to reality.
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DogLover
06-11-2021, 11:46 PM
Hello!

I'm not a Muslim (sorry about that) but I'll try my best to answer you.

I'm afraid you have a depression. Depression is a very hard and deceiving psychical illness. Depressed person becomes extremely jealous of other people with successful life and feels that everything around him happens against himself, no matter what he'll do. He also experiences painful moments of his live and is neutral to even small good things, making depression even worse - focusing on only bad things and refusing any good moments.

Some people are commiting suicide because they are thinking that taking his own life will solve the problem. No, it will not. Potential self-killers does not know that taking off his life will hurt not only himself, but his family and friends.

But don't worry, you can free yourself from depression. First of all, stop focusing at others. Stop being jealous. Stop trying to do something impossible. Focus on yourself and embrace every, even tiny good moments of your life. Is food tasty? Enjoy it! Someone smile to you - enjoy it. By small step by small step you will be able to witness happiness again. It is a very small, but worthy process to start fighting against depression. At least it is a start.

Are you jealous at well-prosperate different people who does not follow God's commands? The God will check their achievements and sins. It is only the Creator's task to judge every single soul from our planet (or planets if a human race will become multiplanetary :D). Try to focus on your own status - what you've achieved so far and what you can do more. Start building your own career.

You should stop thinking about the girl who shuts down any contact forms and disappeares. Believe or not, you can find better one who will stay with you and share exactly same feelings as you if you would fall in love. Maybe God have other plans for you? Please, trust Him and never lose faith in Him. Never. At the end, you will be rewarded for your good doing.

Please consider making a return to your religion, to Islam. Remember that in any time, we can be tested by the Great One. Our Creator will test our believes - will we still believe and pray Him despite experiencing bad moments? Will we be thankful for every good signs which happens around us?

As a Christian, I'm not allowed to force you into different religion. Only what I can do for you is to make prays for your soul to be calmed down from bad feelings and to enable to revert into good ones. I'll also pray for you yo return to the straight way as God says in Qur'an (Koran). Everyone here wants to help you, no matter which religion. You are not alone and never you have been. Even here. Don't even doubt that!

I've shared my thoughts because I know what does fighting against depression and other bad feelings mean. Me (twice) and my brother (once) have had a depression. I have won two very long battles, but my brother unfortunately lost his battle by commiting a suicide. I just can't allow to another soul being lost. You are not first one, whom I try to convince.

Okay, time for a pray and sleeping. May the Lord be with you. Wish you all the best.
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abadwek
06-12-2021, 12:46 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by DogLover
Hello!

I'm not a Muslim (sorry about that) but I'll try my best to answer you.

I'm afraid you have a depression. Depression is a very hard and deceiving psychical illness. Depressed person becomes extremely jealous of other people with successful life and feels that everything around him happens against himself, no matter what he'll do. He also experiences painful moments of his live and is neutral to even small good things, making depression even worse - focusing on only bad things and refusing any good moments.

Some people are commiting suicide because they are thinking that taking his own life will solve the problem. No, it will not. Potential self-killers does not know that taking off his life will hurt not only himself, but his family and friends.

But don't worry, you can free yourself from depression. First of all, stop focusing at others. Stop being jealous. Stop trying to do something impossible. Focus on yourself and embrace every, even tiny good moments of your life. Is food tasty? Enjoy it! Someone smile to you - enjoy it. By small step by small step you will be able to witness happiness again. It is a very small, but worthy process to start fighting against depression. At least it is a start.

Are you jealous at well-prosperate different people who does not follow God's commands? The God will check their achievements and sins. It is only the Creator's task to judge every single soul from our planet (or planets if a human race will become multiplanetary :D). Try to focus on your own status - what you've achieved so far and what you can do more. Start building your own career.

You should stop thinking about the girl who shuts down any contact forms and disappeares. Believe or not, you can find better one who will stay with you and share exactly same feelings as you if you would fall in love. Maybe God have other plans for you? Please, trust Him and never lose faith in Him. Never. At the end, you will be rewarded for your good doing.

Please consider making a return to your religion, to Islam. Remember that in any time, we can be tested by the Great One. Our Creator will test our believes - will we still believe and pray Him despite experiencing bad moments? Will we be thankful for every good signs which happens around us?

As a Christian, I'm not allowed to force you into different religion. Only what I can do for you is to make prays for your soul to be calmed down from bad feelings and to enable to revert into good ones. I'll also pray for you yo return to the straight way as God says in Qur'an (Koran). Everyone here wants to help you, no matter which religion. You are not alone and never you have been. Even here. Don't even doubt that!

I've shared my thoughts because I know what does fighting against depression and other bad feelings mean. Me (twice) and my brother (once) have had a depression. I have won two very long battles, but my brother unfortunately lost his battle by commiting a suicide. I just can't allow to another soul being lost. You are not first one, whom I try to convince.

Okay, time for a pray and sleeping. May the Lord be with you. Wish you all the best.
I dont know what it is, but it has exhausted me way too much.cant fix this, i tried
U speak of being able to find someone but i never been loved , i dont know
How it is to have a women love me, i see how a lot of women
Act when they love a man.

All the rejections have killed my confidenxe now.

I always hated the fact that i was shorter than normal
Ithay my nose was big
Thag i had to wear glasses cause i cant see well

That i always have to try too hard to achieve or fail at things others
Make effortlessly. Seemed like God was always makin
It easier for them,blessint them ,favoring them.

And how can I go on with all this?

It has becoem too much. With age things got harder.
I cant take it anymore. I dont want to feel anythibt anymore. Good
Or bad.

I dont know what it is and its already too late
Sleeping is exactly what I am going to do. Goodbye

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I have heard your dont go's but I have already make up my mind. Goodnight and forever goodbye
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DogLover
06-12-2021, 07:06 AM
We don't have to say goodbye. Please, stay with us :) I will be here, don't worry. Not always, but I'll do my best to help you.

You are exhausted, because you are torturing yourself with bad emotions. That's how the depression works. What you are actually feeling is a psychological pain which hurts your soul from inside. You are creating that pain. To fight against depression, you need to build up your mental and psychological health with good emotions. Try to resist all negative feelings like doubt, fear, sorrow and anger to change into positives ones.

Your wish ais to find a girlfriend now. You need some time (rather in months or years than days) to find your future love. Please, give yourself more time. Be patient.

I'm 26 and I still don't have any boyfriend, but it is not a reason to worry about :) When the right time comes, maybe we'll find our second halves :D If not, it's okay :) Not everyone have to be married :P But yes, be open to your friends and feel open to new ones. Build relations slowly, with no rush.

Accept yourself as you are. Being short, having big nose and wearing glasses doesn't make yourself worse. More important is who you really are, from inside. Behaviour tell us much more than the look. Someone can have beautiful body and face but be agressive to anothers and there can be someone with less atractive looks but have a pure heart inside. Every being have some complexes. No one is perfect, ideal. I have some cons too, but I'm accepting myself as I am. Life is too short and beautiful to worry about small details.

The God, as Qur'an and Bible says, allowes people to witness both good and bad moments of their temporary life, but when the Last Hour comes, everyone will be judged from their live. Some people with poor behaviour and disbelievers with prosperate life may be sentenced to go to hell for their sins, disobeying our Lord's commands and not being grateful for His creation. Don't be jealous. There is no reason to be jealous at the people who don't follow the straight path which the God once formed.

You are different than them. You followed the straight path until you got a depression. Depression makes you going off the straight path so please, repair your mental health and return to this road to achieve much better afterlife in heaven, as the God said.

Who will walk the straight path and do good things, pray to our Lord and help other people in need, will have a prosperous afterlife as the God sentenced while making an alliance with human race. No matter if someone is Jew, Christian or Muslim - good efforts will be rewarded in afterlife, when we naturally die, as an old and weak being, not while commiting suicide, because in Abraham religion, it is a huge, unforgivable sin.
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Labayk
06-12-2021, 02:18 PM
Allah (‘Azza wa Jal) is not your personal butler who waits on you and caters to your every vain desire when and how YOU please. He is our Lord, whom we ask out of humility and great need out of hope from His abundant generosity. It is only because we are in such dire need of Him and because we know how generous He is that any of us even has the nerve to ask of Him anything.

You are speaking as if Allah owes you a favor and He doesn’t owe you anything. It is you who are indebted to Him. The sin of your ingratitude has overshadowed the nobility of your good deeds and has left them not worth a dime so you shouldn’t speak as if this is any great thing that makes you deserving of anything.

I reemphasize: Allah never betrayed you. Allah never wronged you. You wronged him by your ingratitude and, how Silas rightfully pointed out, your arrogance.

Your suffering is internal not external. Many if not most of the people on this forum have gone or are going through much worse than you in terms of hardships, but they are not suffering like you are. You are suffering inside because of the curse that comes with being ungrateful to Allah for His Generous Bounties that He Bestows on all without measure whether Muslim or not.

The rule of ingratitude is: whoever is ungrateful, Allah Will take away His Favors but whoever is grateful, Allah Will give him more:

"And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, 'If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is severe.'"(Ibrahim: 7)

What is Jahanam except the complete deprivation of Allah’s favors? And what is Jannah except the complete fulfillment of all favors. This petty pathetic dunya that you are dishonoring yourself in desiring is neither of those. Everything in this dunya is a mix of both benefit and harm, pleasure and pain. If a person wants to be ungrateful, he can focus on the negative as there is truly a negative aspect in everything here. Why? Because this is not Jannah. This is not the goal and not the objective. It is you that failed to realize this and put your heart where it doesn’t belong and now you want to blame Allah for that when He told you to do otherwise. If one wants to he/she can find much to be grateful for. Every single one of us can do that. Why? Because this place also isn’t Hellfire where there are no favors of Allah at all.

Hairline is receding from stress
Losing wheight
Loss of appetite
I always hated the fact that i was shorter than normal
Ithay my nose was big
Thag i had to wear glasses cause i cant see well
How much more do you think you will have to complain about when you’re burning alive for all of eternity due to your abandonment of God’s religion and your massive ingratitude towards Him. Then you will know what you have now but as the saying goes: You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.

Allah said:

"O you who have believed, whoever of you should revert from his religion - Allah will bring forth [in place of them] a people He will love and who will love Him..." (al-Maidah: 54)

There is no greater favor that Allah has given us than making us Muslims. Allah gave you Islam for free and gave you the ability to do good deeds the likes of which are difficult for even some sincere religious Muslims to adhere to, and now you’re throwing that all away for literally, absolutely nothing.

Easist way out - probably drinking bleach :/
It is only shaitan that has told you that suicide will bring you relief. On the contrary! Your pain will only just begin!

“Whoever kills himself with something will be punished with it on the Day of Resurrection.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5700) and Muslim (110).

You think drinking bleach for the rest of eternity is easier than what you are going through now?

Nah, you have no choice and no way out except to turn around and repent to Allah before it is too late. You have come to a clear fork in the road. You had better fear Allah and make a full 180 degree turn otherwise it will just become more difficult and more dark than it is now and things will steadily get worse for you until you end up in HellFire and then you will be rightfully blaming yourself instead of Allah but it will be too late then.

Please.. no "it will be all right's " please.
Don’t worry. You won’t hear that from me. Except unless you turn around and repent to Allah and become grateful to Him for His favors, then you will find Him Merciful, Forgiving, and Generous and if you are patient and grateful will give you a good spouse sooner or later (although this is the least of your worries at the moment). Then, and only then, will everything be all right.

“And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide for him from sources he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Indeed Allah has set a measure for all things.” (Surah At-Talaq 65:2-3)

It’s not going to be all right at all for the one who abandons his religion.

i cant keep being like this. who knows that miracle might come if God would ever want me under his realm
Only a miracle can bring me back
If only a miracle.. could show that Allah loves me.
Why do you keep asking for a miracle? What do you want a miracle for? Do you want a miracle to show you that Allah Loves you? I already gave you an ayah that told you that Allah does not Love the ungrateful and a Hadith that shows that the one who strives to obey Him and do good deeds will earn His favor. Again, Allah is not your personal performer to show you magic tricks so that you will believe in Him and worship Him. He has already shown you His abundant favors and you rejected them.

feel so broken hearted cause i see god providing for people who dont even care bout religion, they get more wealth and more amazing woman and here i am, a person who was grown a believer- left and forgotten. and that makes me feel betrayed, it kills me, its burning me.
The Hadith I quoted earlier is sufficient. This Dunyah is the blink of an eye and then it’s over. It’s of no value whatsoever. Therefore, who cares what those whom Allah is angry with get? It’s meaningless. This is a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever. The opposite is true in the end. So let them have their ease and plenty. Let them have their wealth and fortune. Let them have their women. For us is our Islam, and this is the greatest fortune that Allah Gives anyone in this life and you are trading that for ingratitude and injustice.

"By the racers, panting, And the producers of sparks [when] striking And the chargers at dawn, Stirring up thereby [clouds of] dust, Arriving thereby in the center collectively, Indeed mankind, to his Lord, is ungrateful. And indeed, he is to that a witness. And indeed he is, in love of wealth, intense. But does he not know that when the contents of the graves are scattered. And that within the breasts is obtained, Indeed, their Lord with them, that Day, is [fully] Acquainted." (al-'Adiyat)
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abadwek
06-12-2021, 04:07 PM
Ok, i love Allah somehow strangely even after all these trials
Just tell me what to do to become disciplined in prayer again?
Cause i been trying but i keep on leavin it

And dont make this sound like Allah is not a " pleaser
If you dont seek from Allah where do you seek from? People??

I am not disspaointe din people ever cause i have 0 expectations from them lol
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abadwek
06-12-2021, 04:14 PM
But let me tell you one thing

I will be married, i will even have children
But i wont be able to go over this "why didnt Allah bless me with this girl.

She is amazing.
I will never be ablw ti wife up someone as good as her let alone when people say "who knows you will find better.

I will never in history be able to forget her. In history.
Since i sont listen to music, but when i was at work there used to be a song played by a collegue that reminds me of this girl, so one dya i re heard it on a coffee shop alone, and i fot teary just thinkin bout memories. I wanted that girl over the girls of the world. I cant forget. Its not possible.
I havent ever been able to like anyone else for the lat 2 yrs.and the issue is im not finding someone nor AM I BEING LIKED by anyone. Thats the harsh reality.

But i ll keep on living then ( this statement brought tears in my eyes again)
Ill tey to keep the prayer altho i want some advices on how to stay disciplined would really respext that.
But im workin on my career, and even if i never get someone to love ,i guess sooner or later ill die naturally. Its ok.
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abadwek
06-12-2021, 06:23 PM
This wont stop my worries or my suffering sadly. Not until i get better. I might continue to live physically, but i mean it when i say I have died inside long ago.
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DogLover
06-12-2021, 06:56 PM
I'm relieved that you changed your mind and decided to live. Let this statement be the grand step in long process to feel better. I believe you will slowly return to the straight path :)

Some memories are quite hard to be removed, especially those which ensures huge emotions. Maybe you'll keep a memory of the girl from your dreams until the rest of your life. The problem is, even if you have accomplished and got her, she probably would have rejected you in any time. One-sided love often becomes the reason of having arguments and consequently ends with having a divorce. Imagine that every fifth marriage in Christianity ends with a divorce.

I'm very sorry, but I can't guide you about praying :( Despite praying to the same God, Christians (like me) and Muslims (like you) have different ways to pray to the Lord, but there is a similarity between opposite religions - motivation. You have to strongly believe that there is only One God and to Him you have to send grateful prays with unconditionally nothing in return - we owe an unconditional debt to the Lord. Our God loves those who prays and banishes those who don't do that. When our Last Hour come, we will be asked by the Lord about praying in the first order of our whole live career. Resume praying until the very end of your life, maybe on the Resurrection Day He will add praying to the good deeds, not bad ones. Heaven awaits for most dedicated prayers and believers to the One God.
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Labayk
06-12-2021, 07:20 PM
Just tell me what to do to become disciplined in prayer again?
Cause i been trying but i keep on leavin it
I just now saw your post and I will try to post a little more later when I have the chance/time but for now:

Seek forgiveness from Allah and ask Him to forgive you. Do this with full regret for what you did. Don't listen to the justifications of shaitan as he is a loser and he wants you to be a loser. Iblis blamed Allah for his descent and see where that got him while our father Adam ('Alaihis Salaam) blamed himself and sought Allah's forgiveness and Allah Forgave Him.

Make a firm Niyyah to return to Salah and Islam and to never leave it. Ask Allah to Help you and assist you in praying again and He Will Help you. Focus on one Salah at a time until it is firm again.

I am not so much worried about your ability to pray again but I am worried more about shaitan standing in your way. Shaitan will try to get in between you and your Lord and will try to open up old wounds and remind you of your pain. He wants you to be displeased with your Lord so Allah will be displeased with you. Don't listen to this waswas/crap and think well of, put your hopes into Him and count the uncountable favors that He has given you. Look at what you have not what you don't have. Look at those who have less than you who are more than those who have more than you. This will help rebuild your gratitude to Allah which the main motivation that will drive you to do good.

Read/Recite the book of Allah as the Prophet (Salalahu 'Alaihi wa Salaam) said that it increases one's love for Allah. Establish a firm relationship with it.

We will encourage you to get back on your feet and get back on track and we will make Dua' for you also.

Like I said, when I get more time, I will post more inshaAllah

May Allah Forgive us all and Guide us to and along His Straight Path. Ameen.
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SoldierAmatUllah
06-13-2021, 05:04 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Labayk
Allah (‘Azza wa Jal) is not your personal butler who waits on you and caters to your every vain desire when and how YOU please. He is our Lord, whom we ask out of humility and great need out of hope from His abundant generosity. It is only because we are in such dire need of Him and because we know how generous He is that any of us even has the nerve to ask of Him anything.

You are speaking as if Allah owes you a favor and He doesn’t owe you anything. It is you who are indebted to Him. The sin of your ingratitude has overshadowed the nobility of your good deeds and has left them not worth a dime so you shouldn’t speak as if this is any great thing that makes you deserving of anything.

I reemphasize: Allah never betrayed you. Allah never wronged you. You wronged him by your ingratitude and, how Silas rightfully pointed out, your arrogance.

Your suffering is internal not external. Many if not most of the people on this forum have gone or are going through much worse than you in terms of hardships, but they are not suffering like you are. You are suffering inside because of the curse that comes with being ungrateful to Allah for His Generous Bounties that He Bestows on all without measure whether Muslim or not.

The rule of ingratitude is: whoever is ungrateful, Allah Will take away His Favors but whoever is grateful, Allah Will give him more:

"And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, 'If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is severe.'"(Ibrahim: 7)

What is Jahanam except the complete deprivation of Allah’s favors? And what is Jannah except the complete fulfillment of all favors. This petty pathetic dunya that you are dishonoring yourself in desiring is neither of those. Everything in this dunya is a mix of both benefit and harm, pleasure and pain. If a person wants to be ungrateful, he can focus on the negative as there is truly a negative aspect in everything here. Why? Because this is not Jannah. This is not the goal and not the objective. It is you that failed to realize this and put your heart where it doesn’t belong and now you want to blame Allah for that when He told you to do otherwise. If one wants to he/she can find much to be grateful for. Every single one of us can do that. Why? Because this place also isn’t Hellfire where there are no favors of Allah at all.





How much more do you think you will have to complain about when you’re burning alive for all of eternity due to your abandonment of God’s religion and your massive ingratitude towards Him. Then you will know what you have now but as the saying goes: You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.

Allah said:

"O you who have believed, whoever of you should revert from his religion - Allah will bring forth [in place of them] a people He will love and who will love Him..." (al-Maidah: 54)

There is no greater favor that Allah has given us than making us Muslims. Allah gave you Islam for free and gave you the ability to do good deeds the likes of which are difficult for even some sincere religious Muslims to adhere to, and now you’re throwing that all away for literally, absolutely nothing.



It is only shaitan that has told you that suicide will bring you relief. On the contrary! Your pain will only just begin!

“Whoever kills himself with something will be punished with it on the Day of Resurrection.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5700) and Muslim (110).

You think drinking bleach for the rest of eternity is easier than what you are going through now?

Nah, you have no choice and no way out except to turn around and repent to Allah before it is too late. You have come to a clear fork in the road. You had better fear Allah and make a full 180 degree turn otherwise it will just become more difficult and more dark than it is now and things will steadily get worse for you until you end up in HellFire and then you will be rightfully blaming yourself instead of Allah but it will be too late then.



Don’t worry. You won’t hear that from me. Except unless you turn around and repent to Allah and become grateful to Him for His favors, then you will find Him Merciful, Forgiving, and Generous and if you are patient and grateful will give you a good spouse sooner or later (although this is the least of your worries at the moment). Then, and only then, will everything be all right.

“And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide for him from sources he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Indeed Allah has set a measure for all things.” (Surah At-Talaq 65:2-3)

It’s not going to be all right at all for the one who abandons his religion.







Why do you keep asking for a miracle? What do you want a miracle for? Do you want a miracle to show you that Allah Loves you? I already gave you an ayah that told you that Allah does not Love the ungrateful and a Hadith that shows that the one who strives to obey Him and do good deeds will earn His favor. Again, Allah is not your personal performer to show you magic tricks so that you will believe in Him and worship Him. He has already shown you His abundant favors and you rejected them.



The Hadith I quoted earlier is sufficient. This Dunyah is the blink of an eye and then it’s over. It’s of no value whatsoever. Therefore, who cares what those whom Allah is angry with get? It’s meaningless. This is a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever. The opposite is true in the end. So let them have their ease and plenty. Let them have their wealth and fortune. Let them have their women. For us is our Islam, and this is the greatest fortune that Allah Gives anyone in this life and you are trading that for ingratitude and injustice.

"By the racers, panting, And the producers of sparks [when] striking And the chargers at dawn, Stirring up thereby [clouds of] dust, Arriving thereby in the center collectively, Indeed mankind, to his Lord, is ungrateful. And indeed, he is to that a witness. And indeed he is, in love of wealth, intense. But does he not know that when the contents of the graves are scattered. And that within the breasts is obtained, Indeed, their Lord with them, that Day, is [fully] Acquainted." (al-'Adiyat)

How harsh words to a depressed suicidal your muslim brother!

It's only that a miracle happens in darkest hour & this is common autheticated from Quran.

Harsh words bring only bring rebellion.Give him good advice or don't start on depressed muslims.

I read your posts & i swear I benefit but? THIS!

-OP

If you stick to Deen then no way you will be unheard by Allah The Most Generous One& Loving Beautiful Rabb!

Keel up your relation with Allah SWT & see how He helps.

I have been through & I'm in a very bad trial but I keep hope relax& moderate myself to keep myself in love for Allah & RasulAllah (SallAllahu alayhi Wasallam)

Be one Proud Ummati-that's what's my motivation even though I'm suffering * exhausted with low imaan& leaving for suicide isn't the right decision.

Yeah I'm a suicide survivor & I seen miracles in how ALLAH Ta'aala saved me.

Keep to prayers,bro.

May Allah Ta'aala forgive guide&bless us all

Stay here
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Labayk
06-13-2021, 02:36 PM
And dont make this sound like Allah is not a " pleaser
If you dont seek from Allah where do you seek from? People??
You are right. Allah is our Helper and Supporter and really the only one we can turn to. But we have to have proper etiquette and respect always and part of that etiquette is patience. Allah Will answer our Dua in one form or another eventually but it will be in the time and manner of His choosing which is truly better for us anyway. Also, Allah (subhana wa ta 'Ala) told us not to seek out this Dunya but to look towards that which is permanent and more worthy of our longing. It is when we do that that Allah gives us from both this life and the next.

The Messenger of Allah (salalahu 'alaihi wa salaam), said, “Every one of you will have his supplications answered, as long as he is not impatient and says: I have supplicated but I was not answered.”


In another narration, the Prophet said, “The servant will continue to have his supplications answered as long as he does not ask for sin or cutting family ties and he is not impatient.” They said, “O Messenger of Allah, what is its impatience?”The Prophet said, “He says: I have supplicated again and again, but I have not seen an answer. He becomes frustrated with that and gives up supplicating.”
(Bukhari and Muslim)

Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There is no Muslim who calls upon Allah, without sin or cutting family ties, but that Allah will give him one of three answers: He will quickly fulfill his supplication, He will store it for him in the Hereafter, or He will divert an evil from him similar to it.” They said, “In that case we will ask for more.” The Prophet said, “Allah has even more.” (Ahmed)

She is amazing.
I will never be ablw ti wife up someone as good as her let alone when people say "who knows you will find better.
Bro, if you want to tell us that this is truly the best woman in the world and none of us will ever find anyone better, we will not argue with you. But, Akhi, don't limit your scope. Allah is the one who created her. Allah is the one who created the feelings that you have for her. You don't think Allah can recreate them? If you want you can make Dua that she becomes yours in Jannah. This is not something far off or difficult for Him.

Brother, there is a trick when it comes to Dunyah:

"And among the people is he who says, "Our Lord, give us in this world," and he will have in the Hereafter no share. But among them is he who says, "Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire." Those will have a share of what they have earned, and Allah is swift in account." (al-Baqarah: 201-203)

The Prophet (salalahu alaihi wa salam) said, “Whoever makes the Hereafter his goal, Allah makes his heart rich, and organizes his affairs, and the world comes to him whether it wants to or not. And whoever makes the world his goal, Allah puts his poverty right before his eyes, and disorganizes his affairs, and the world does not come to him, except what has been decreed for him.” (Ahmed, Ibn Majah, Tirmidhi)

The more we chase this Dunyah, the more it runs away from us and the more humiliated it makes us while the more we focus on the final goal and the less we care about this Dunyah, the more content/happy/peaceful we become and the more the Dunyah starts running after us.

Wallahi, I have experienced this Hadith. In my early days in Islam, I couldn't have cared less about whatever job/salary/girl/place to stay/luxury I could get. I just didn't/don't care about this Dunyah. Since then, Wallahi, things fall into my lap out of seemingly nowhere with regards to my Dunyah needs and I have been very blessed by Allah (mixed along with intense pain as I said before) while I am looking at a lot of people all around me who are struggling really hard (some of them with more advantages than me) and seemingly getting nowhere.

You said that you were 26? Brother our own Prophet (Salalahu Alaihi wa Salaam) who is the best of mankind and the dearest to Allah didn't marry until he was 25. I myself didn't marry until after that age and I had to really struggle before then. If you can just have a little patience with Allah, Akhi, you will find Him to be the best Wakeel and if you thank Him for when He does answer your Dua, you will find Him to be even more generous after that as He gives more the more grateful we are.

Ill tey to keep the prayer altho i want some advices on how to stay disciplined would really respext that.
I hope my advices before were of some benefit.

This wont stop my worries or my suffering sadly. Not until i get better. I might continue to live physically, but i mean it when i say I have died inside long ago.
Know that Allah gives life to the earth after its lifelessness. We have made clear to you the signs; perhaps you will understand. (al-Hadid: 17)


Allah said this in the context of the ones whose hearts had died from sicknesses and being stagnant.

May Allah Grant us all what is good for us both in this world and the Hereafter.

"Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire."
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 03:30 PM
I love each and one of you for your replies.
I will continue to be as good as i can.

You asked that i peay that she becomes my woman in Jannah haha yes when i noticed that all my roads with her are cut i asked God to save me a woman like her in paeadise, a copy of her since it cant be her, she will be with her man sadly. I asked and left that wih God ,but i also need a woman in this world to shield and solidify me from all the trials of the flesh. Im litterally burning from desire here.its sexual frustration i woulsnt have been so mad if i was " ----in round but i dont do that cause of ethics and morals.

But i dont know how much i have to wait.

Until then ill keep tryin to enjoy the sunshine. Every perfume that I got, yo enjoy the clothes i have, to enjoy the food, a drive around the city, a good laugh with a friend, a prayer in the mosque, and hopefully one day ,just like with this last girl, who knows ,one morning a sun ray might hit on a beautiful face and make me go whoa .. look at that , just like with this last one . Im in tears now thinkin bout that moment. I forgot everyone before her but i will never forget hrr as she gave me the most intense feelings. Shes the preetiest my eyes have ever seen even tho i have seen more beautigul girls she will always be my fav girl on earth, even whenvi become old i will remember her.

But so it be.

Life must go on I guess.i hope thay Allah will give me a wife soon in my 20s cayse i I have a deep wheight on my back but I hope with all my heart that ends will justify the means.
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 03:36 PM
So to answe my question

Allah loves me yes, just cause He made all of you amazing people reply to me and turned the tide around.

Pray for me that I also get blessings, and most importantly that Once and for All,i become steadfast and un shakable in religion once again.
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Labayk
06-13-2021, 03:38 PM
Will do inshAllah.
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 03:47 PM
Btw may you forgive me that i havent been quite honest with you all

Lol i wasnt gonna kill myself hahah
I dont know what surrender is. I woudlt never be able to kill my self.

But yes im in a state of sever desperation thats true. But hopefully its gonn get fixed

Altho i am so tired i wish allah could cause me to die cause tha was easier.

But u adressed a lot of my concerns and In Allahs hand we all are.

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But suicide? No thanks.

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I love you all with All i am.

Even tho i dont know you or where you from,may Allah put blessings over you all each one of u and also bless me with that wifey i been seeking for so long
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 03:51 PM
Yes i do believe that Allah will find me the way. I shall not doubt even tho i been in so many situations where I was doubting cause i saw and couldnt conquer.

But i just hope with all my heart and i would like to be surw as the light of the morning will come out, that i will get smth beautiful in the end. You might even say why you rbe soo impatient. Bros and sis, if i got a girl a big thing would be off my list that would allow me to finally focus on other things. Half of the deen would be complete and at least, i wouldnt be burning from desire. That would help me with focus a lot.


So pray.pray for me. This is the miracle im waiting for. So i can finally, advance.
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IslamLife00
06-13-2021, 04:15 PM
Akhi, you are in my dua. You sound better now Allahumma baarik lahu

You can also make this dua akhi Labayk mentioned. The Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa salaam often made this dua :

Anas reported that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to supplicate (in these words):" Our Lord, grant us the good in this world and the good in the Hereafter and save us from the torment of Hell Fire (Al Baqarah 201)." Sahih Muslim

Qatadah asked Anas: Which Supplication would the Prophet (ﷺ) often make ? He replied: The supplication he would usually recite was: "O Allah, give us in this world what is good and in the next what is good, and protect us from the punishment of Hell-fire".

The version of Ziyad adds: When Anas wished to supplicate, he uttered this supplication. When he uttered some other supplication, he combined it with this supplication. (Abu Dawud)

And you're right for not considering suicide. It won't solve your problem, and it will only make it worse in your akhira.

Narrated Abu Huraira-:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "He who commits suicide by throttling shall keep on throttling himself in the Hell Fire (forever) and he who commits suicide by stabbing himself shall keep on stabbing himself in the Hell-Fire." Sahih al Bukhari
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DogLover
06-13-2021, 07:23 PM
That's fantastic that you are more and more optimistic :)

Of course I'll pray for you :)

May the Lord be with you.
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 08:54 PM
Lets be honest with you all
I am feeling as terrible as i have felt in the psst few months and to be more honest,in the past few years. But like I told you, im not expecting to feel better

It feels heavy everyday. Everything heavy on me.

But the journey has to go on, nonetheless.
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 09:27 PM
I guess its destinied for me to feel this way
I will never be all right
I am too sad
I try my hardest not to be but
I cant help it
I wish i could,for myself, for those i love,and love ma back
I was doing fine until this heartbreak happened
Im sad to dissapoint everyone thay even tho i might not be suicidial,i do wish death cause im just not gettin over this

And as you can see by yourself, i just.. im just not feeling it like wantijg to move on cause i swear no matter how much i am praying i still feel like things wont go my way.

Im 26 and i still dont know whats a womans touch
I swear this disturbs me
When my friends have tried everything when they were 16 or earlier

I swear i never cared bout luxuries of thebworld i still dont, all i ever wanted was a beautiful wifey material girl.
I swear no money in the world can fill th void of not having a fine woman right now

Especially that one..


I am feeling stuck with everything
Falling behind

I have no words to explain the despair.
I am trying to become a better muslim but i have become like too numb and careless ,its so strange..

I wish God just showdd me an amazing sign and lifted me up, to be alive again, a feeling i dont know for a very long time now.
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IslamLife00
06-13-2021, 09:34 PM
Akhi, turn to Allah always, in times of ease and in times of hardship. Even hardship can be source of expiation of sins.

Don't attach yourself to this dunya and what it can offer you, this dunya does not last, and what it can offer you, will not last either.

Everyone gets tested. Don't think other people get what they want and they are not tested.

Getting everything you want in this dunya may make you happy for some time, soon you will want other things. It's not worth sacrificing your akhira for it.


And keep yourself patient [by being] with those who call upon their Lord in the morning and the evening, seeking His face [acceptance].And let not your eyes pass beyond them, desiring adornments of the worldly life,and do not obey one whose heart We have made heedless of Our remembrance and who follows his desire and whose affair is ever [in] neglect Al-Kahf 28

Narrated `Aisha(the wife of the Prophet) : Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "No calamity befalls a Muslim but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it, even though it were the prick he receives from a thorn." Sahih al Bukhari

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) said: "The world is a prison for the mu'min (believer) and Paradise for the disbeliever." Jami'at Tirmidhi

Blessed is He in whose hand is dominion, and He is over all things competent .
[He] who created death and life to test you [as to] which of you is best in deed - and He is the Exalted in Might, the Forgiving Al Mulk 1-2

Or do you think that you will enter Jannah while such [test] has not yet come to you as [it] came to those before you?
They were touched by poverty and hardship and were shaken until [even their] messenger and those who believed with him said, "When is the help of Allah?"
Unquestionably, the help of Allah is near. Al Baqarah 214
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 09:47 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by IslamLife00
Akhi, turn to Allah always, in times of ease and in times of hardship. Even hardship can be source of expiation of sins.

Don't attach yourself to this dunya and what it can offer you, this dunya does not last, and what it can offer you, will not last either.

Everyone gets tested. Don't think other people get what they want and they are not tested.

Getting everything you want in this dunya may make you happy for some time, soon you will want other things. It's not worth sacrificing your akhira for it.


And keep yourself patient [by being] with those who call upon their Lord in the morning and the evening, seeking His face [acceptance].And let not your eyes pass beyond them, desiring adornments of the worldly life,and do not obey one whose heart We have made heedless of Our remembrance and who follows his desire and whose affair is ever [in] neglect Al-Kahf 28

Narrated `Aisha(the wife of the Prophet) : Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "No calamity befalls a Muslim but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it, even though it were the prick he receives from a thorn." Sahih al Bukhari

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) said: "The world is a prison for the mu'min (believer) and Paradise for the disbeliever." Jami'at Tirmidhi

Blessed is He in whose hand is dominion, and He is over all things competent .
[He] who created death and life to test you [as to] which of you is best in deed - and He is the Exalted in Might, the Forgiving Al Mulk 1-2

Or do you think that you will enter Jannah while such [test] has not yet come to you as [it] came to those before you?
They were touched by poverty and hardship and were shaken until [even their] messenger and those who believed with him said, "When is the help of Allah?"
Unquestionably, the help of Allah is near. Al Baqarah 214
Thanks for reply i really appriciate it

But look
Why is it always i hear "leave this world for akhiea

Im juat asking for a basic need to be met. A woman to appear in my life

Its not that i will lose paradize if i get a woman cmon.
Im not askinf fornication im asking to marry a woman to findsomeone to love

And btw im not askinf to get "eveeything i never have asked much in fact im modest even in duas. I never ask for luxuries. Did i ever say here bout that??

Im just askinf a sweetheart to love.

I will take care of everythibg else.

I dont think im veing very well understood. Just becauze this is a believers prision doesnt
Mean i have to suffer like this. I am not asking for spaceships or walking on the sun. That would be un realistic. All im asking is for a miracle to show up and
This fire to be extingushed. Sexual desire is too much to bare. Im 26 , the curiosity itself burna me let alone the hwartbreak of all the rejections. And i dont even intend zinah.
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 09:54 PM
And im not expecting everythjng to be easy and flowery once i get married
No.

But at least i have someone to love and all this sexual frustration will diminish.someone to ralk to on the female side.
Lets be real.
It would be a big tick off to truly help clear my mind.

Im dyijg from desire and on the other side im noticing im not being loved.

Its not that im ugly. I might be short and my nose is big or some things maybe women think there is smth wrong with men with glasses like a genetic defunc thing but

I am very clean well taken care of myself i clothe mysekf way too good compared to your average joe, i have a very manly way of staying and behaving, very good morals and manners yet, it feels like im incinsible to women.

Not even comparing myself to the others who seem to get women effortlessly ,this truly is happening with me.

Women just dont seem to want me. I have seen girls go crazy over guys and i know how awoman loves a man.

I sont get it

Am i not a man enough?? What is wrong wih me
Can anyone tell??

Is there smth fundamentally wrong so at least i know?

I swear this has affected me on so many ways i feel like not even trying anymore. Cause im more than certain that it will fail. And this is wherw all my anger comes from.
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 09:59 PM
I just dont get whats wrong with me.

There must be something.

From the gifts of allah is that also that people including womrn find you attractive. And here i am nobody loves me

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Damn i swear i wish i was never born. I dont know why my parenrs made me so late in life. Just to suffer God damn it :(
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 10:02 PM
And with mom already Gone, dad at least i hopped to see my children yet that probably wont happen as he is already quite old and i am too unsuccesful with finding a spouse.

I shouldnt have been born.. its like whats the point?
My siblings are much older than me my parents should have stopped there.

Its not that they got to live too long wjth me anyway.. they just brought me here to suffer and feel bad :(

Damn i just want to leave
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 10:05 PM
I try to enjoy everything i swear ..im not chasing luxuries i try to find happiness on "the small things


But its just :(( its not happening.
I will never be all right. I am not getting over this.
No amount of dua is helping me i suppose.

I am despond in an optimstic future and way too.. tired to move on. I swear if i could choose death id push the red button tonight. I wouldnt mind who misses me.

It would truly release me and set me free.
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 10:09 PM
I mean Allah is the merciful but i just dont get whats the point in all this,including my existance.
Why cant i have a more normal life, im not expecing to be test free thats un realistic.

And dont start with how un greatful i am .i am not un greatful..
i am tired of eevrrythign thats what i am.
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 10:15 PM
And dont say that i am impatient either cayse i been waiting for over 13 years almost since i fot desires and havent even kissed a woman. This is the max of patience i dont get it how much morw does it take..

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I dont want to live my whole yourth witbout knowing what a woman is .. cmon

And the thing is Allah says to put in the effort but no matter the effort i put how hars i try its not working for me
And not just with women ,with almost everything.

Nothing is easy on me.

Im just.. too tired of all this..
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abadwek
06-13-2021, 10:22 PM
I could talk day and night, i dont believe you would understand what i been and am goinf through. And if ends justified the means it would be ok id swallow it all but its absolutely not happening ,the sand is just sinking me deeper.

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Answer me this question aswell?

Why do i exist? Could it be that i was an accident?
That could expalon why i feel so out of place ..
Or why im not bein able to find a soul mate, maybe i was never meant to be
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IslamLife00
06-13-2021, 11:42 PM
Akhi, I have posted much to you.
Again, turn to Allah, in times of ease and hardship. All your questions are answered in Islam, if you bother to read and learn.
I will leave this thread now.
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Revert alYunani
06-16-2021, 09:30 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Labayk


Let me share a personal (embarrassing) story with you. When I was in high school and not a Muslim, I met this girl at a party who told me I was "cute". Since then, I had a crush on her for years. This girl was beautiful and had an amazing smile. Her name was Angel. No, really, her birthname was Angel. For years, I obsessed over her. She lived in a different town and was visiting a friend so I didn’t get to see her very much after that: just by chance every now and again. This proved to be agonizing and every time I did see her I would be tormented all over again.


Anyway, years went past, I grew up and matured a bit and finally after a very long time I saw her at a party and she….ummm…gained a little weight and I was like….ummm…..okay. And I didn’t have any real feelings for her after that.


I later became Muslim, much later got married, fell in love (notice my ordering) with a beautiful Muslimah whose beauty was far greater than that “Angel” I obsessed over years prior and with whom I have since lived “happily” ever after going through intense difficulties and trials (the like of which makes those who hear about it drop their jaws in awe wondering how we can both be so stable after going through so much) all the while maintaining my gratitude to Allah, who has never betrayed me, for His limitless favors upon me.


You say Allah betrayed you? Allah never betrays anyone. You show me one single ayah or Hadith where Allah promised a spouse in Dunyah to whoever believes and does good deeds. Allah never fails in His Promise. He didn’t betray you, you betrayed Him. You put the love of a woman above that of Allah (‘Azza wa Jal).


You ask if Allah Loves you, but what you should be asking is do YOU love Allah?
Allah Loves every Muslim in accordance with his/her level of Iman. Allah did Love you until you betrayed Him by putting the love of a girl over your gratitude to Him.


Allah (‘Azza wa Jal) said:


Say, "Obey Allah and the Messenger." But if they turn away - then indeed, Allah does not love the ungrateful. (Al-Imran: 32)

So remember Me; I will remember you. And be grateful to Me and do not deny Me. (2:152)
Allah’s Love is conditional. It has to be earned:

“Whosoever shows enmity to someone devoted to Me, I shall be at war with him. My servant draws not near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My servant continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him. When I love him I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him, and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it. I do not hesitate about anything as much as I hesitate about [seizing] the soul of My faithful servant: he hates death and I hate hurting him.”
[Bukhari]

If you put Him above all else, including any woman of this Dunya, then He Will Love you again. But if you persist in your ingratitude simply because Allah didn't give you what you wanted from this dunya when Allah promised you far better than that if you believe, think good of Him and do good deeds for His sake and for the sake of His Great Forgiveness and Reward (not for the sake of this pathetic meaningless dunya) then He Will be incredibly Angry with you and justifiably so.

The Prophet (Salalhu Alaihi wa salam) said:

“If the world were as worthy to Allah as the wing of a mosquito, an unbeliever would not even be given a sip of water.” [Tirmidhi]

This is why Allah gives more in Dunya to those who don't deserve Allah's favor more than those who do: Because dunya is worthless. Dunya is low and is for those who are low. In Akhirah, the right compensation is given according to a person's true worth.




Really?

“If a woman from among the people of Paradise were to look out over the earth, she would illuminate everything that is in between them, and would fill everything that is in between them with fragrance. And the scarf on her head is better than this world and everything in it.”

Is this dream girl of yours, whose infatuation has caused you to go astray and whom you have made a rival unto Allah better than what Allah has promised? I don't think so.
Brother i needed a lift in eman and you gave it to me. This was an amazing reminder. Wonderfully put. I will get married too in shaa Allah and i am afraid if my wife would be so faithful to me but may Allah make us solid and close like you and your wife, and even better why not. And may Allah give you happiest and strenghen your relationship with your wife and increase your rizq and give you all what you need. This was amazing reply really. I loved it. JazakhAllahu Khair
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Labayk
06-19-2021, 01:57 PM
I wish God just showdd me an amazing sign and lifted me up, to be alive again, a feeling i dont know for a very long time now.
Why are you still asking for a sign? A sign for what? What exactly do you want Allah to prove to you? The question is important.

Why do i exist? Could it be that i was an accident?
That could expalon why i feel so out of place ..
Or why im not bein able to find a soul mate, maybe i was never meant to be
"And We did not create the heaven and the earth and that between them aimlessly. That is the assumption of those who disbelieve, so woe to those who disbelieve from the Fire." (Sad: 27)

"Indeed, in the creation of the heavens and the earth and the alternation of the night and the day are signs for those of understanding - Who remember Allah while standing or sitting or [lying] on their sides and give thought to the creation of the heavens and the earth, [saying], "Our Lord, You did not create this aimlessly; exalted are You [above such a thing]; then protect us from the punishment of the Fire." (al-Imran: 190-191)

"And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me." (adh-Dhariyat: 56)

Your purpose in this life is to worship the Creator, to seek the ways in which He will be pleased with you, to strive for the highest level in Jannah you can (where there is every kind of gorgeous female you could ask for) and to take all of the means that Allah has given you to save yourself from the Fire (where there is no "warm embrace" of a female, just the scorching intense blazing heat of Hell whose fuel is men and stones of sulfur.)

This is your purpose which you are squandering, coveting after the frivolous joys of this Dunyah.

You should understand that women and longing for them are a part of this worldly life:

"Beautified for man is the love of that which he desires - women and sons, heaped-up sums of gold and silver, fine branded horses, and cattle and tilled land. That is the enjoyment of worldly life, but Allah has with Him the best return [i.e., Paradise]." (al-Imran: 14)

"Say, "Shall I inform you of [something] better than that? For those who fear Allah will be gardens in the presence of their Lord beneath which rivers flow, wherein they abide eternally, and purified spouses and approval from Allah. And Allah is Seeing [i.e., aware] of [His] servants - Those who say, "Our Lord, indeed we have believed, so forgive us our sins and protect us from the punishment of the Fire," The patient, the true, the obedient, those who spend [in the way of Allah], and those who seek forgiveness before dawn. (al-Imran: 15-17)

You say that you don't care about fancy things in life like lots of money and luxuries. al-Hamdullilah, that's good. That's very good. But you should understand that with all of that is also women and longing for them. In the ayah above, Allah not only mentions the desire for women as included in that category but in fact mentions it first before anything else as longing for women is much more dangerous than those other vices.

The Prophet (Salalahu 'Alaihi wa Salam) said, “I have not left behind me any fitnah (temptation) more harmful to men than women.” (Bukhari and Muslim) This fitnah is greater, much greater, in fact, than the fitnah of wealth and prestige even though these are big problems as well that we need to be wary of.

Notice that in the Ayah I mentioned above, none of which Allah mentioned is Haram in Islam: Sons? Halal and encouraged; gold and silver? It's Halal to have Halal wealth and we can even be rich and extremely wealthy as there were some Sahabah (Radi Allahu Anhum) who were very wealthy as long as we obtain it and dispose of it in a good way. Nothing wrong with that; fine branded horses? There is khair in the foreheads of horses until the Day of Judgment. If one wants fine horses or, by analogy, a nice car/vehicle to drive, that's fine; cattle and tilled land? Or in other words, property and real estate. Also, not a problem to own; and first and foremost: Women. Marriage is a part of Islam. If a man had four beautiful wives whom he immensely enjoyed that wouldn't be a problem.

Then what is the problem? What Allah criticized in this noble Ayah is man's desire for these things. This is the problem. That is the vice that we need to avoid and from this comes a great deal of evil. We are not supposed to long for these things, put hope in obtaining them, and grow anxious when we are unable to acquire them or boastful and full of pride if we do acquire them. We are supposed to put 100% of our longing, hope and desire into what Allah promised to those who have Taqwa. If we do that, then the Dunya will fall into our lap.

Wallahi, I have had innumerable opportunities come out of nowhere with regards to job prospects, marriage, etc. Why? Because I'm super awesome and you're not? No! It's because I don't give a s### about this Dunya.

The Prophet (salalahu alaihi wa salam) said, “Whoever makes the Hereafter his goal, Allah makes his heart rich, and organizes his affairs, and the world comes to him whether it wants to or not. And whoever makes the world his goal, Allah puts his poverty right before his eyes, and disorganizes his affairs, and the world does not come to him, except what has been decreed for him.” (Ahmed, Ibn Majah, Tirmidhi)

Wallahi! I testify to the truth of this Hadith.

Notice how in the Ayah about women, sons, etc Allah didn't say that beautified for man are these things (women, sone, wealth, etc) but He said that beautified for man is the love of these things. It is the love itself that Allah is drawing our attention to. Man considers his love for these things to be beautiful, good, and romantic, when, in reality his attachment and incessant longing for these is an ugly disease that destroys one's sense of inner peace and creates a great deal of harm.

Im just askinf a sweetheart to love.
Case in point.

Am i not a man enough?? What is wrong wih me
Can anyone tell??

Is there smth fundamentally wrong so at least i know?
Bro, women are a part of Dunya as I have said. And like Dunya, the more you want them, the further they get away from you. This is the rule. The more you want women, the less they like you. The more reserved you are, the more they will crave your attention. Haven't you observed the cliche of the guy who is a total jerk/loser to his female, but she can't seem to leave him because "she loves him"? She craves his attention to the point that she will endure suffering and abuse just for those few moments when he actually acknowledges her existence. This, of course, is the opposite extreme and if you tried that with any respectable Muslimah who had any sense of self-worth and honor, you wouldn't get too far. But the point is, women like a man who is reserved, not overly in awe of her. One who portions out his attention of her in moderation. Not completely withholding his attention for her (that would make her feel neglected) but not being gumpy and sheepish either (she won't respect you).

Honestly man, you're going to get married [inshaAllah]. Seriously. If you were to come on here and say "I'm never going to get married. I don't like marriage." I would be like, ^o)"Okay, whatever you say man." You will get married whether you want to or not. This really isn't something you need to worry about. If you just had a little...o yeah. I'm not supposed to say that :omg: . If you just fix your priorities and set your eyes on the prize and focus on the goal Allah will (sooner or later) give you everything you need.


Don't say that we don't understand. Many Brothers and Sisters on this forum if not most of them have gone through or are going through much worse than what you are going through. But if one wanted to argue that you are suffering more than they are I could accept that because the very root of your misery is longing for that which is in essence of very little value and losing sight of that which is of the greatest value. As long as other Brothers and Sisters are free of that, then they will also be free from the misery and suffering that you are going through.


Brother i needed a lift in eman and you gave it to me. This was an amazing reminder. Wonderfully put. I will get married too in shaa Allah and i am afraid if my wife would be so faithful to me but may Allah make us solid and close like you and your wife, and even better why not. And may Allah give you happiest and strenghen your relationship with your wife and increase your rizq and give you all what you need. This was amazing reply really. I loved it. JazakhAllahu Khair

Aha. al-Hamdullilah May Allah Give you the same and more inshaAllah.


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abadwek
08-28-2021, 11:23 PM
Is it ok if u feel careless towards prayer or islamic learning?
Due to some severe dissapointments in the past,
I no longer feel like praying or even goin to jummah.
While i still dont do other sins I kind of have lost interest in
Religious living and have severly lost love of God to the point
Where I only acknowledge Gods existance and thats it.
Some days I have debates with people that Being a good person just aint worth it. That i do good deeds not cause i am a believer. No.

I still never smoke cigars or anything. I never drink alcohol.
I never watch porn or do self sexual amusment.I dont take interest or go clubbing or such stuff. I am very disciplined with these. Very.

But i also no longer go regularly on jummah or pray ever.
I lost touch with God when I found out Hes simply deprivijg me of something beautiful and I keep failing no matter how much I try.

Sometimes I feel like even if next week salvation will come, id rather just die today. I am careless and hopeless I AM
Dissapointed and not impressed - guess you could say I am
Depressed
I hate the fact that I am not taller. Why didnt God make me just 180 cm.. woudl have that been too much for him?
I never been loved. I never have kissed.
And i did this all to avoid fornication,missed out on so much fun as a teenager and young adult, now at 26 i dont even knownhow being with a woman is. And to be honest it wasnt even worth it. Nothing ever was.Im basiclaly undetectable by women.they dont even notice me.
Whenever i see a woman that awes me i say maybe this ine is her, and then it collapses too soon. Im basically lost so.much confidence im not even trying anymore. Its already too late.
Spent a youthtime trying to become a good man a good muslim , and I am the last of all my friends at everything.
I feelt left. Forgotten.
Im broke now. I see no help coming from above.

Damn, i dont even want to be alive.
GOD Should have taken me instead of my mom. She loved life and i just hate everything. I want to go.

All my life I waited for " the one written for me" and here i am
If not until now,when?

Im 26 :/

Not to mention i have stagnated on my career. I havent been able to get a job since march 2020. Since this pandemic hit.

Im losing hair,i have lost a lot of wheight. I have lost all faith.
I am done. I might tell other people.to be believers but myself I am not one.

Ans I wont ever be anymore. Cause i dont care anymore.
This was a confession to all the people who wrote to me before. Farewell to you all. Farewell religion.
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abadwek
08-28-2021, 11:31 PM
Thank you so much for everything you wrote for me. For that I am greatful. Goodbye
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SoldierAmatUllah
08-29-2021, 10:50 AM
Is everything okay??:-)

Oh well I just benefitted from reading this Ayah:


And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide for him from sources he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Indeed Allah has set a measure for all things.” (Surah At-Talaq 65:2-3)

Re read the thread.
Suicidal thoughts are easy way out& seems adaptable as we feel better but it's not a STOP to your agony.Find your peace through moderation in Deen & dua fulltime.

I'm telling you ALLAH Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala doesn't abondon- NEVER.Sometines I recall the good times other times I think of times of high imaan- rest assured many are under trials & in low imaan condition- yes there are & many got outta trials too.

You are thinking it will all be cool within few years? It's always not the case infact relief comes after a long heavy painful trials
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abadwek
08-29-2021, 07:56 PM
The long period of trials has been streched for too long now sis. Im tired.
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abadwek
08-30-2021, 06:45 PM
I guess God saw that I dont wanna go on and is taking me away.
I got tested covid positive and probably wont make it.
I was too tired of living anyway. Too tired of it all.
I wont be able to sign in anymore so
Goodbye.
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SoldierAmatUllah
08-30-2021, 10:14 PM
We all feel same.
Bad neglected deprived rejected hated & this is amongst the fitan of the end times called Duhayma.
Almost everyone's feel same thoughts about Allah after a Tonnes of trials & feeling stuck.

Get back to Islam.Dont give up.We never know when our destiny changes into beautiful ending.

Few good dreams for you can solve your issues so Ask Allah for a good dream like a dream about paradise etc

I ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to help us all go through this haul.
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keiv
09-01-2021, 04:09 PM
I don’t know if the OP will ever come back, but for people who have had similar thoughts of abandoning the religion because things did not go their way, what is the plan afterwards? Many threads in the past have come up with people saying the samere thing, but it’s like, what’s the point? I didn’t get married, I didn’t get a job, This didn’t happen or that didn’t happen, so therefore bye Islam. Denouncing your faith is counter productive and to be quite honest, it’s an eternal mistake.. this life is so short. The day of judgment is said to be tens of thousands of years. Closing your eyes and covering your ears will not change that.

For someone who just recently got positive results for a deadly virus, this would be the perfect time to reflect on things. There are great rewards for those that have stayed patient. You’ve managed to protect your eyes and body for all these years for the sake of pleasing Allah. Instead of being upset about that, Say alhamdulillah that you were able to do something many others failed to do. It would be a shame to throw all that hard work away for nothing.
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abadwek
09-01-2021, 07:30 PM
I am hospitalized now and would like to thank everyone for all the replies and the time of your life you spent on advices.
You just have to know how much I suffered tdying to hold on into laws.. but all I wanted was to be loved.
Please take care and be aware of this virus - it seems like its hell on earth when you cant properly breathe :(
If i get better I will let you peoplw know
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Labayk
09-02-2021, 01:29 AM
If this thing killed you while you were a Mumin, you would become a shaheed and have more "Love" than you'd know what to do with:

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Who do you consider a martyr among you?” They said, “The one who is killed in the way of Allah.” The Prophet said, “If that is so, there are few martyrs in my nation.” They said, “O Messenger of Allah, then who are the martyrs?” The Prophet said, “He who is killed in the way of Allah is a martyr. He who dies in the way of Allah is a martyr. He who dies of plague is a martyr. He who dies of stomach disease is a martyr, and he who dies from drowning is a martyr.” (Muslim)

Repentance is available up until the soul reaches the throat. Now would be a good time, like right now.

May Allah Protect us all from an evil ending. Ameen.
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Connectmuslims
01-03-2022, 07:46 AM
To be very honest, Allah does love you and all His worshippers who even take even the slightest name in favor of Him. It’s just a matter of time and fate that the Almighty has decided for everyone including for you to get what you want at last. And, in terms of all the hardships you have faced and even facing now is because Allah is protecting you from other people who might fill in sinful things in your mind and may deviate you from the path of rightness.
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