Aoa.the guy says he will recite quran this year. But my heart is unhappy..some say its cold feet i will get used to him
No. One of the foremost rules of thumb with regards to marriage is that you make a decision based on who that person
is right now. Not who that person will be. What you see now is what you get. It just so happens that now, this year he wants to read Quran? Just now he wants to start getting closer to Allah? Obviously, this is not for the sake of Allah alone. You have to make your decision, whether for this guy or anyone else, based on what you see right now.
You should understand that even with a really good spouse, there are flaws that will come up that weren't very apparent in the honeymoon phase. Again, this is the case even for really good guys who are being straight up and straight forward with you from the beginning. We all have personality defects and this is something that one has to get accustomed to as a part of marriage. But if the guy is bad from the start, then he will only be worse later on. Everyone puts on their best face when they want to get married.
Some people (actually most people) shouldn't be giving advice. It seems to me, and Allah Knows best, is that those who are giving advice are not being sincere with it and that their "advice" for you is for their interests, not yours. You want to do what pleases Allah, even if it displeases the people and Allah certainly doesn't want this guy for you. You're not getting cold feet, this guy isn't right for you. This might sound weird, but just because you DON'T want something doesn't mean it is good for you. Sometimes we have to go against what we want of course, but sometimes our hearts are exactly in the right place and this here is a result of your istikharah.
Societal pressure is something that all of us as a test have to face. Some of us more than others. It is a test to give us the ability to show that we will do what Allah Wants over what people want. I know it's hard but stand up to this pressure. Whatever guy you marry will be your leader in Dunya and the father of your kids. It's your responsibility from right now to make sure the man is up for the task.
If you do what others want from you all the time, they will never be pleased with you. You will never succeed in pleasing people. If you do what Allah wants, then people will come around sooner or later. If you disappoint this guy, he will get over it and find someone else. Your father's anger will subside. People will move on, and anyway, even if you do what they want, they will still find something to be upset with you about.
Do you have any friends whom you trust, who are good who might be able to recommend someone for you? Btw, part of the istikharah prayer is to ask for good wherever it may be. So if Allah rejects something for you, He Will inshAllah give you better. In any case, any guy you encounter from now on, follow the istikhara.
I ask Allah to give you strength and to make your affairs easy for you.