Speak good or be silent

[Studentt]

Asalam. I read this Hadees few times and I tried to practice it. It was easy in beginning but its more difficult for me now. I doubt now if I have taken the meaning in wrong sense? Does it just mean the same…. or its in some circumstances that we have to speak good or be silent?
If for instance, some aunty or cousin of your family says wrong things at your face that hurts you-then you still have to be silent and give a appropriate answer?? Or you can give them a Good negative response in turn?

if someone insults you incase, then you still have to be silent or you can defend yourself in same words?

[Murid]

:salam:
You can of course defend yourself, but with kind and merciful assertive mannars as much as you can.
Sometimes the opposite side can be so barbarian that you must articulate better (but without insults and foul speech like f words, mockery etc.).
There are some "muslim" sufi goofy with worst of manners that are at least very, very unlawful inhumane, that love every type of dhulm (tons of sihr, shame, filth, f words...) but are loved somewhere becausr of "samurai" continuity. Some anachronous unorthodox barbarian -------s... (forum changes the word for them * b stards, because they, without any islamic or wrdly lawful proof take themself for Gods, Taghut of worst of kinds, even disrespecting home and ibadah etc.etc.etc. )

They take us 500 backwards, or better said 1500, at least.

[Studentt]

:salam:
You can of course defend yourself, but with kind and merciful assertive mannars as much as you can.
Sometimes the opposite side can be so barbarian that you must articulate better (but without insults and foul speech like f words, mockery etc.).
There are some "muslim" sufi goofy with worst of manners that are at least very, very unlawful inhumane, that love every type of dhulm (tons of sihr, shame, filth, f words...) but are loved somewhere becausr of "samurai" continuity. Some anachronous unorthodox barbarian -------s... (forum changes the word for them * b stards, because they, without any islamic or wrdly lawful proof take themself for Gods, Taghut of worst of kinds, even disrespecting home and ibadah etc.etc.etc. )
They take us 500 backwards, or better said 1500, at least.

JazakAllah for your kind response.