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lildurkotf
Salaam ive read from a website that if someone falls for one person but doesn’t work out then Allah is protecting you from the other person “ who is not good person” however this means the other person is not good so imagine what the other person would be thinking that Allah is keeping someone away from them because he or she is not good person, isn’t this unfair to think like this or will kill the person internally knowing they not good in Allahs eyes? How does all this work
Wa Alaikum Assalaam,
Why assume it's the other person? It could be them? Or it could be that both were not going to be good for one another in marriage, which may have ended badly somewhere down the line and if children were involved then it would have been even worse. There could be many reasons of which we may never know until the Hereafter. Therefore there is no point assuming what the reasons could be.
However what both involved should do is to repent sincerely for getting into a relationship in the first place which was devoid of any blessings to begin with. The problem is that once one falls for another person, then one becomes blind to many of the signs of whether or not the other person is good for them in marriage. So the fault and blame is on both parties getting involved with eachother in a relationship outside of marriage in the first place, disobeying Allah.
However whatever the reason is that things didn't work out, both parties involved must repent sincerely and also thank Allah profusely for doing what was best for them and for potentially saving them from greater harm. Surely we must put our trust in Allah to help and protect us throughout our lives and to steer us in the right direction. For his knowledge and wisdom is infinite whereas ours is limited and finite.
So we must learn from our mistakes now and leave the past behind and move forward. We must only go about looking for a potential spouse in a way that pleases Allah and within the boundaries of Islam and not step outside of those boundaries as this is what shaythan wants.
Please look into the following thread for more detailed advice on this issue:
How to get through pain from a pre-marital relationship