Peace be with you Sinto Dinto; good advice from Qatada, hopefully I might add some points.
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SintoDinto
What type of wife should I marry?
Absolutely no idea. I married 37 years ago, my wife ticked virtually none of the boxes I might have hoped for and we are still together. Having said that, a prayerful, and pious wife would be beneficial.
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SintoDinto
should i work on myself before getting married?
My favourite definition of marriage is an imperfect man, marrying an imperfect wife, having imperfect children and living in an imperfect world. It's tough enough trying to change ourselves, it is almost impossible to change others. We will often perceive our own faults and the faults of others, somehow, we have to strive to stay together through all of our trials.
In the UK, about half of all fifteen year old children are not living with both their biological parents. Marriage is incredibly hard work, but rewarding, we have to constantly pray and ask for help.
May Allah bless you and guide you on your journey.
Eric