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Anette
Salaam,
I'm also is interest regarding who you handle this in a Muslim society? When you loose one of your parents how do you take care of the other one?
I would too would say go over to his house at times. And invite the family around too.
The parents’ rights are great indeed, honouring them goes along with the concept of Tawheed (oneness of God), being grateful to them is part of being grateful to Allaah, and treating them well is one of the best of good deeds, and the dearest of good deeds to Allaah.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Worship Allaah and join none with Him (in worship); and do good to parents…”
[al-Nisa’ 4:36]
“Say (O Muhammad): Come, I will recite what your Lord has prohibited you from: Join not anything in worship with Him; be good and dutiful to your parents…”[al-An’aam 6:151]
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.
24. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young’”
[al-Isra’ 17:23, 24]
“And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years __ give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination”
[Luqmaan 31:14]
From ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: I asked the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): Which deed is best? He said: “Prayer offered on time.” I said: Then what? He said: “Honouring one’s parents.” I said: Then what? He said: “Jihad for the sake of Allaah.” Bukhaari (527) and Muslim (85)
So in Islam having good relationship with once parents and obeying them and been good to them is a MUST. One has to build that relationship.
Coming to your question..i guess one has to keep fulfilling what Allah has commanded them i.e respecting the parent and attending to their needs. Since one parent has left this world all the child can do is be there for the other parent (just like you are doing)....and likewise pray for the dead parent too.
I hope that helps:)
Maybe some of the other members can add a bit more:)