Assalamu'Alaykum
here are some of the answers/ replies.
they are very long so i will post them into parts Inshallah here is the first part.
The sister's message is over; a message that is truly rich with lessons and examples Is anyone out there willing to learn?
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I shall pause at her saying: ("… we exchanged true and untainted love, "just for the sake of Allah") The problem is that every girl thinks that the guy who tries to hit on her is her dream prince and the fulfiller of her dreams, while he is actually the prince who brings failure, the maker of sorrows and the destroyer of hopes. She pictured such love to be (... true and untainted love…) but she smells the rotten of it all before the end of the story; and he appears to be a stereotype of those wolves who care for nothing except fulfilling their desires. The hopes are vanishing and the pains are aching and there he is threatening her saying: "If you leave me I'll disgrace you and spread your pictures"! Is this true and a "for the sake of Allah" kind of love?! This is the American way of love!
She says: "I'm so scared; I want guidance; I want to be happy and safe; I'm sick of thinking and feeling scared" Wasn't she at peace and overwhelming bliss, following the path of guidance and performing her prayers before stepping into the hellish land of "Chat"? Why is she scared now? Why did she quit praying? It's the ominous of disobedience that deprived her of the pleasure of obedience. What was she looking for in "Chat" vaults? Looking For happiness? She is left now screaming "I want to be happy and safe".
How weird the following words are:" My parents are Muslims and religious and if they knew that I'm in love with a guy and actually in contact with him they're going to kill me to avoid the scandal and bad reputation (by "kill" I mean beating and humiliating)" All this happened while the parents where inattentive to their child; they've been so careless and so wasting of the Trust. It's the ultimate confidence that parents have specifically in young ladies which results in such a disaster. A father may say: "I have sheer blind trust in my daughters and my unmarriageable relatives in general". They're no better than Mothers of the believers, nonetheless Allah Exulted and Majestic be He said about their ethics:
" O Consorts of the Prophet! ye are not like any of the (other) women: if ye do fear (Allah), be not too complaisant of speech, lest one in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire: but speak ye a speech (that is) just";
and Said about the Believers' ethics towards them:
" And when ye ask (his ladies) for anything ye want ask them from before a screen"
Why did He say that?" that makes for greater purity for your hearts and for theirs".
Is anyone out there willing to learn?
"Verily in this is a Message for any that has a heart and understanding or who gives ear and earnestly witnesses (the truth)."[Chapter 50, verse 37]
This message has been mailed to me and I took permition from the sister to publish it, and so I did with the exception her nationality.
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Re: A Cry from A Chat Victim (Score: 1)
by sareenaboo on Thursday, July 24 @ 11:45:45 ??
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Salamu Alaykum wa ra7matu Allahi wa Barakatuhu!
hope this email is read by u my sweetest sisters and by all of the readers while all of u are in ur best of health and eman!
Sister plz be okay! in sake of Allah, my heart is bleeding for u! i went through the same exact process, however, he gave me up and i was so attached to him to a point i thought of killing myself! i was an excellent student, however, due to my worries for him, i ended up doing so poorly in my performance in school! and let me say i was abit older than u!
You should call this a balaa` my sweet sister! maybe this was a test from Allah for u to wake up or maybe if u continued with this brother, ur life would have been a misery! but know one thing, IF HE REALLY LOVED U HE WOULD NOT HAVE CAUSED U SUFFERAGE! and let me say this, this is what i learned and this is what u learned! you should treat ur chat with the brother as an EXPEREINCE and u learned! yes, sister, we learn, we can't learn by avoiding, and now u can make smart decisions after this and i am pretty sure that u can!
as regards to what u are suppose to do! u can do alot! OOOOOOOHHH yes and plz listen to what i am saying to u! and to those who are reading this and i am reallysorry that i am posting this a bit late! Tell him that if u were one of his sisters, would he have agreed with the guy to do THE EXACT SAME THING with his sister as he is doing with you! and tell him that he is going to have daughters in the future and if he forgets and if U forget, Allah is not going to forget! He will face it oneday and trust me he will! try to make him think and then leave it up to Allah! and tell him, if u don't fear Allah, then go and expose everthing! and tell him that what he is having in his mind does not plz Allah AND his messenger! as the Prophet said,(pbuh), whom ever pleases a griefed women has a fine garment in Janna! Plz sister be careful and try to finish the deal with him first before u start discussing anything with family! and make a promise to urself to not let shaytan play with ur mind again! and if u need anyhelp, plz let me know, this is my email,
sareena@islamway.com!
with all my love to u and my lovelist sisters in Islam,
Sareena
Re: A Cry from A Chat Victim (Score: 1)
by Zanuma on Saturday, July 19 @ 13:10:29 ??
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As-Salamu-Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu sis
My heart bleeds for u and the situation u put yourself into.
I would like to make two points
Firstly I do not think that this person really cares about u. He cannot be a very good Muslim to put u thru' those things. How would he feel if some boy asked his sister to do the things he asked u to do. Neither will he start making threats to u about telling people about u, that goes to show how much he cares about u. Forget all about him. He is a very indecent person and put this incident behind u and repent sincerely to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for ur sin.
Secondly I really feel u should tell your parents especially ur mother. InshaAllah I pray she will understand and help u solve this problem.
I pray to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala to guide u to what is right and help u to solve this proper. Remember that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala blocks all sins if the repentance is sincere.
Take Care
Salams
im worried (Score: 1)
by AlwaysChange on Wednesday, June 25 @ 03:14:26 ??
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Al Salamo 3alykom,
i read this story and now im really worried on my sister in islam, can u please tell me what happened with her, please, cause im really really worried...cause of that stupid guy i want to burn him.
Re: A Cry from A Chat Victim (Score: 1)
by Yasmin_brazilian on Friday, July 11 @ 14:34:20 ??
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Salam
Dear Sister
You did the 1st step to return to Allah, pray my dear, He (Allah) will be by your site, ask Him to show you the way.
Everything gonna be ok...
Yasmin
Re: A Cry from A Chat Victim (Score: 1)
by Kit on Saturday, July 12 @ 18:08:12 ??
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Dear Chat Victim,
Don't be afraid that this terrible man will contact your family. He won't, because to do so would be to reveal the wrong he has done. He is is just trying to scare you.
You are not suffering from "sexual frigidity." The pleasure and excitement you felt is normal. It is your treasure. Someday you will give it to a husband who loves you, and it will make him very happy. What you felt is not wrong. You just felt it with the wrong man.
All the help and guidance you need will come from God. I know you are afraid to pray now because you are feeling ashamed. Pray anyway. Express everything you are feeling to God. Ask for forgiveness, and ask also for protection. God will not abandon you.
You can believe what I'm saying, because I once made a similar mistake. And I am much older than you, did not have the excuse of being naive and inexperienced. So I was much more to blame than you are. Still, God gave me all the help I needed to correct my mistake and become whole and happy again. I know you imagine that you will never again feel clean, never again feel safe or happy. But God has the power to heal you completely. Ask for it! Don't be afraid.
And if you're still too scared and ashamed to pray right now, know that your sister Kit is praying for you.
Re: A Cry from A Chat Victim (Score: 1)
by Asmaa_al-Kanadiyah on Wednesday, June 25 @ 15:03:44 ??
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Assalamou alaykum
Tawbah, Du'as and honesty. I think thats the best solution. I know, thats easy to say but returning to Allah is the first step.
May Allah helps and guides you. Ameen
Asmaa
a letter to the administrator (Score: 1)
by AlwaysChange on Tuesday, July 01 @ 04:12:48 ??
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i posted before a message asking about what happened with our sister in islam, what did that guy dooo and what she is going to do...im really worried and i would like to know
Salam
Mahmoud
Re: A Cry from A Chat Victim (Score: 1)
by strawberry (jenna@aol.com) on Wednesday, July 02 @ 00:26:12 ??
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Asalaam Alaikum,
Sister, turn your internet off because you cannot control yourself. Do not answer the phone or any messeges.....at all. Pray that Allah (swt) will cover this. Do not tell anyone unless you have too (meaning he follows through with his threats). Remember what kind of a man he will also appear if he does. InshAllah you will be ok. Please, look into yourself and pray for forgiveness and help because something is wrong.
Walaikum asalaam,
Su
Re: A Cry from A Chat Victim (Score: 1)
by ummusz on Saturday, July 26 @ 06:36:33 ??
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Assalamu Alaikum:
This story was very touching. I read it over and over. Sisters, if we are mothers this story should be a lesson for us. We, as mothers, should know what our children are doing. We should be involve in our children lives. My children are ten and eight years and I have one family computer that is in the dining room next to the kitchen. This allows me to overlook what they are playing and how long they are spending on the computer My children are not allowed to go on the Internet. If and when they do it's a program that I choose. I buy their books and read them if I have to. Their dad buys their computer programs. He would play the games with them. I have also implemented islam into my children lives from birth. My daughter has been wearing a hijab(khimar) from five years of age and both of them prays five times a day. I teach them about Shaitaan and how he tries to influence you and the angels that write down the good and bad on your shoulders.
This teenager needs help and support from her parents, not a scolding from them. She needs guidance from them. She needs to be protected from the Shaitaan who has entered her life. Children should never be afraid of their parents. We should be their best friend. I pray that Allah(SWT) continue to guide her, myself and every muslim on the right path. I pray that Allah(SWT) forgive me for anything wrong I said here. My intention is good and for the sake of Allah(SWT).