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Snowflake
04-20-2006, 08:14 PM
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Ok, I'm really mad right now. There is a wedding hall near my house and just as I was praying Maghrib, they started beating the drums really loud. I was fuming but prayed to Allah to give them hidayah.. I was enjoying my salah so much but that stupid drumming made my blood boil.. I'm really angry. It's started again now!!! The worst thing is the mosque is slightly opposite the wedding hall and I was getting more angry thinking about the woshippers being disturbed by it too.

I'd decided to go there after prayer and do something! But what??? It's driving me mad that these muslims have no shame or consideration for others. I was going to tell them to stop this nonsense as it's unislamic.. but I dunno if that is the best approach? I'm too mad to think straight. So plz give me some ideas. This will go on all summer cuz of the wedding season. :(

This is too much for me to ignore. I need tips on how I can make it stop :offended:
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extinction
04-20-2006, 08:17 PM
well if you are really really wanting to do something I say go there find someone important to speak to and ask him/her to announce over the speaker to keep it down.........but I dont think its going to work or you could always call the cops..in america there is a law called "disturbance of the peace" dont know if they have that where you are
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Snowflake
04-20-2006, 08:23 PM
Salam

The cops won't do anything. They dont class this as an emergency and always come when it's all over. And who can I ask to do what you suggested? The man who owns the hall won't tell people who hired it not to play drums cuz he'll lose his bookings.
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extinction
04-20-2006, 08:24 PM
a person like the father of the groom or someone who is in charge of the wedding not neccassarily the owner of the hall
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Snowflake
04-20-2006, 08:28 PM
Ok, I'm going. Let's see what happens. Gulp!
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extinction
04-20-2006, 08:29 PM
good luck!!!!!!!!!
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Snowflake
04-20-2006, 08:55 PM
I wish! :(

I went to the mosque and they've got something going on there. So I spoke to the brother at the gates. He was like errrrrrrrrrrrrr.......... the imaam is really old and he won't want to get into anything like that. Can you believe that!? I was like well I was hoping some brothers can speak to the owner and ask him to ban drums etc.. Then he said he'll pass my message on. I bet ya he won't! Some drastic action is needed and it looks like I have to take matters in my own hands. Just wait til the next wedding. I'm going to arm myself with printouts and give them to all the guests telling them that this kind of thing is haraam as well as the mixing of opposite sexes. Good idea eh? :?

Honest if you rely on people nothing ever gets done!
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extinction
04-20-2006, 08:58 PM
oh man!! well next time you could call the cops? or speak to a person at the wedding before hand and tell them what your views are
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HeiGou
04-20-2006, 08:59 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Muslimah_Sis
I went to the mosque and they've got something going on there. So I spoke to the brother at the gates. He was like errrrrrrrrrrrrr.......... the imaam is really old and he won't want to get into anything like that. Can you believe that!? I was like well I was hoping some brothers can speak to the owner and ask him to ban drums etc.. Then he said he'll pass my message on. I bet ya he won't! Some drastic action is needed and it looks like I have to take matters in my own hands. Just wait til the next wedding. I'm going to arm myself with printouts and give them to all the guests telling them that this kind of thing is haraam as well as the mixing of opposite sexes. Good idea eh? :?

Honest if you rely on people nothing ever gets done!
I am impressed with your courage and determination. I really am. I think, I know!, I would have sat at home and fumed quietly.

But may I please ask you to consider the poor bride at the next wedding. I am not trying to talk you out of protesting, but this will be her one big day (or I hope it will be the only one she goes to as a bride). She is not solely responsible for what her family or her in-laws plan. But if you make an unpleasant scene she will suffer the most. So could I please, as politely as possible, ask you to make a low-key polite protest that gets the message across to the people that matter without upseting everyone and ruining one poor girls big day?
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Far7an
04-20-2006, 09:00 PM
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Drums or Duff?
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extinction
04-20-2006, 09:01 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HeiGou
I am impressed with your courage and determination. I really am. I think, I know!, I would have sat at home and fumed quietly.

But may I please ask you to consider the poor bride at the next wedding. I am not trying to talk you out of protesting, but this will be her one big day (or I hope it will be the only one she goes to as a bride). She is not solely responsible for what her family or her in-laws plan. But if you make an unpleasant scene she will suffer the most. So could I please, as politely as possible, ask you to make a low-key polite protest that gets the message across to the people that matter without upseting everyone and ruining one poor girls big day?
excellent point...but I think if she spoke to someone before hand it would be handled with discretion......and no one would probably suspect much.....the brides happiness is key but more important is Allahs happiness.......
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Snowflake
04-20-2006, 10:32 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Far7an
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Drums or Duff?
Drums (bhangra style)


HeiGou;267325]I am impressed with your courage and determination. I really am. I think, I know!, I would have sat at home and fumed quietly.
Well I say... I don't think it was brave of me to do what is right. I think that should be the norm, not exceptional. I guess it just seems brave because too many people nowadays wait for others to make things happen. And I've learnt that that is the worst one can expect.
But may I please ask you to consider the poor bride at the next wedding. I am not trying to talk you out of protesting, but this will be her one big day (or I hope it will be the only one she goes to as a bride). She is not solely responsible for what her family or her in-laws plan. But if you make an unpleasant scene she will suffer the most. So could I please, as politely as possible, ask you to make a low-key polite protest that gets the message across to the people that matter without upseting everyone and ruining one poor girls big day?
Definitely! I have no intention on ruining the brides day. That would be very unislamic. And of course you're right that she is not responsible for everything that goes on. I am simply going to request politely, giving islamic reasons, why this nuisance should be stopped. However I shall still distribute information on this matter amonsgt the guests, in the hope that someone will refrain from doing the same at their wedding.
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IbnAbdulHakim
04-20-2006, 10:37 PM
noise is ALWAYS made weneva i try pray at work or outside or newhere. i just ignore it and pray these fishes learn sum manners and respect. Whats the point of getting angry? I kno sometimes it cant be helped but just think, whats the point? Anger is like nothing, it means nothing to no1 aswell. Me getting angry at my coleagues will solve nothing either. lol

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Snowflake
04-20-2006, 10:41 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by hafizmo
excellent point...but I think if she spoke to someone before hand it would be handled with discretion......and no one would probably suspect much.....the brides happiness is key but more important is Allahs happiness.......
I don't plan to approach the bride. I think it's a lil too late for that :giggling:
And beforehand is pointless as they've already booked the DJ and drummer. The aim is to stop this happening on a large scale. InshaAllah when I get my blasted printer working, I'll do printouts and distribute them wherever possible. I reckon everyone should do it in their own city too.

Come on ppl, let's make some effort to spread Islam actively.
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edil
04-20-2006, 10:46 PM
Asalamu Caleykum sister muslimah I know how you feel because I have a neighbor who turns on the music so loud that the wall shakes so as you see your not the only one who goes through this and but you have to do what our beloved prophet did have patient because anger isnt the answer I know how hurt you are but at the same time you have to remember that were suppose to be the models for the disbelievers and the bad muslims and Allah might guide them to the straight path.
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Snowflake
04-20-2006, 10:51 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Abd'Majid
noise is ALWAYS made weneva i try pray at work or outside or newhere. i just ignore it and pray these fishes learn sum manners and respect. Whats the point of getting angry? I kno sometimes it cant be helped but just think, whats the point? Anger is like nothing, it means nothing to no1 aswell. Me getting angry at my coleagues will solve nothing either. lol

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You have more patience than me bro. But anger can be very productive. I don't find it annoying to myself only, but I am thinking of others who have to put up with this. I know when my son was little, he would wake up with the slightest noise. So some poor mother who's probably just got her baby off to sleep only to be woken by that noise is not going to very happy. Then again someone mightbe ill etc. Imagine how they must feel. And it's not just the fact that it is annoying but that for muslims to be acting like this is haraam too.
There's no prophets here to put the muslim world to rights. So we have to take the responsiblity and do our bit. Even if a few change because we helped them see the truth, then I'll be a very happy woman.

:w:
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aamirsaab
04-21-2006, 10:33 AM
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Muslimah_sis, I feel your pain. Honest. Last sunday I went to a wedding. Final rakka of dhur (i had to pray by myself cus we came late, pakistanis are known for that) and then the guy on the microphone (connected to speakers INSIDE the prayer room) says in a strong typical pakistani accent: "Everybody, please come to your seats, lunch will be served soon". It was well loud too so it put me off namaz. Managed to finish the last rakkah and then I ran - i'm not getting late for me lunch, oh no.

Note: You will only ever see a pakistani run for two reasons: 1) being chased by a large group of people (who probably want to beat him up) and/or 2) to get his food whilst it's still hot.

Turns out lunch wasn't served until an hour after that. Flippin pakis! :p.
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songinwind
04-21-2006, 11:04 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by edil
Asalamu Caleykum sister muslimah I know how you feel because I have a neighbor who turns on the music so loud that the wall shakes so as you see your not the only one who goes through this and but you have to do what our beloved prophet did have patient because anger isnt the answer I know how hurt you are but at the same time you have to remember that were suppose to be the models for the disbelievers and the bad muslims and Allah might guide them to the straight path.

I have to agree with you here, as I too have neighbors like this...and anger--The one that really hurts the most, is the one carrying it:X ...they can care less..as its a special day to them,and for me,"I'ed have to be really careful" here ...maybe if you do read all that our prophet went thur, and did with patance...this may help you..
You are very brave...But for me, I'ed have to think this thur...like with the neighbors...what will i achieve doing this?
Peace to you sister. may Allah bless you, and send u knowledge for best decision,ameen
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IbnAbdulHakim
04-21-2006, 11:58 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Muslimah_Sis
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You have more patience than me bro. But anger can be very productive. I don't find it annoying to myself only, but I am thinking of others who have to put up with this. I know when my son was little, he would wake up with the slightest noise. So some poor mother whose probably just got her baby off to sleep only to be woken by that noise is not going to very happy. Then again someone mightbe ill etc. Imagine how they must feel. And it's not just the fact that it is annoying but that for muslims to be acting like this is haraam too.
There's no prophets here to put the muslim world to rights. So we have to take the responsiblity and do our bit. Even if a few change because we helped them see the truth, then I'll be a very happy woman.

:w:
i see where your coming from. Been thru this myself, once my sister left her pram wiv me to go and check out some stores in whitechapel and some muslim men were smoking right next to the pram... lets just say in this one event i couldnt contain myself. So i did something... not the most beneficial thing but something :p. Anyway we should only act only wen absolutely necessary and when benefit will b the outcome not loss.

hope im making sence :)

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Snowflake
04-21-2006, 01:06 PM
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format_quote Originally Posted by edil
Asalamu Caleykum sister muslimah I know how you feel because I have a neighbor who turns on the music so loud that the wall shakes so as you see your not the only one who goes through this and but you have to do what our beloved prophet did have patient because anger isnt the answer I know how hurt you are but at the same time you have to remember that were suppose to be the models for the disbelievers and the bad muslims and Allah might guide them to the straight path.
Oh man that kinda thing makes me cry. I used to live next door to a guy with mental problems and he use to blast his music all night long. His bedroom was right next to mine and I'd bang on the walls to no effect. I remember crying with frustration and lack of sleep. It was a nightmare. But I don't believe patience means suffering in silence. I think it's good to point things out to people and if they don't listen, then patience is the only thing left.

format_quote Originally Posted by aamirsaab
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Flippin pakis! :p.
Lol, so true what you said about pakis. I am using all my restraining powers from saying anything more about our lovely people ;D


format_quote Originally Posted by songinwind
I have to agree with you here, as I too have neighbors like this...and anger--The one that really hurts the most, is the one carrying it:X ...they can care less..as its a special day to them,and for me,"I'ed have to be really careful" here ...maybe if you do read all that our prophet went thur, and did with patance...this may help you..
You are very brave...But for me, I'ed have to think this thur...like with the neighbors...what will i achieve doing this?
Peace to you sister. may Allah bless you, and send u knowledge for best decision,ameen
Ameen. May Allah bless you too-ameen. Of course we feel angry sis. We can't control our emotions, only how we react on them. True, the prophet (pbuh) was the epitome of patience, but I don't see anything wrong with requesting someone not to do something. I think patience is in controlling your anger when dealing with someone who's made you angry. I don't believe patience is in not saying anything and silently cursing anyone. I reckon it's good to make people aware of their wrongs. Diplomatically of course.
Abd'Majid;267913]Anyway we should only act only wen absolutely necessary and when benefit will b the outcome not loss.
I agree. Have you heard the saying? "It's not what you do, it's the way that you do it!" A lot of good can be achieved by doing something tactfully, without hurting or humiliating others.
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Sis786
04-21-2006, 01:12 PM
I dont get it was these people playing the drums for days or for like a couple of hours?
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Sister_6038
04-21-2006, 01:16 PM
why dont they just soundproof the place? or or sis why dont you buy one of those bikes that have like a 5.1 surround system on them or somthing like that and just let them have a nice hearing of the adhan....so they can put their toys down and enjoy their salaat?
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Snowflake
04-21-2006, 01:19 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Hatshepsut
why dont they just soundproof the place? or or sis why dont you buy one of those bikes that have like a 5.1 surround system on them or somthing like that and just let them have a nice hearing of the adhan....so they can put their toys down and enjoy their salaat?
Lol! I was thinking a juggernaut more like! But seriously, I will do something about it inshaAllah. I'm sure others are just as annoyed as me.
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Snowflake
04-21-2006, 01:20 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Sis786
I dont get it was these people playing the drums for days or for like a couple of hours?
Nah it started during maghrib and continued intermittently.
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HeiGou
04-21-2006, 02:32 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Sis786
I dont get it was these people playing the drums for days or for like a couple of hours?
They got off lightly - just a good talking to? Lucky they were not in Japan

Noisy neighbour gets one-year sentence
April 21, 2006 - 3:14PM

A Japanese woman has been sentenced to a year in prison for causing a neighbour to suffer dizziness by playing loud music between November 2002 and April 2005.


Miyoko Kawahara, 59, charged with inflicting injury on her female neighbour, played music at a loud volume in her house in Heguri in Nara Prefecture during the period, causing the neighbour to suffer dizziness that required a one-month observation, according to the Nara District Court ruling.

In handing down the ruling, Presiding Judge Tetsuya Okuda said: "The act was tenacious and insidious, and caused great trouble to the neighbour."

Defence attorneys had argued Kawahara is innocent, saying "playing music cannot be said to be an act of assault".

Prosecutors had demanded three years in prison.

© 2006 AAP
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Sis786
04-21-2006, 03:03 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HeiGou
They got off lightly - just a good talking to? Lucky they were not in Japan

Noisy neighbour gets one-year sentence
April 21, 2006 - 3:14PM

A Japanese woman has been sentenced to a year in prison for causing a neighbour to suffer dizziness by playing loud music between November 2002 and April 2005.


Miyoko Kawahara, 59, charged with inflicting injury on her female neighbour, played music at a loud volume in her house in Heguri in Nara Prefecture during the period, causing the neighbour to suffer dizziness that required a one-month observation, according to the Nara District Court ruling.

In handing down the ruling, Presiding Judge Tetsuya Okuda said: "The act was tenacious and insidious, and caused great trouble to the neighbour."

Defence attorneys had argued Kawahara is innocent, saying "playing music cannot be said to be an act of assault".

Prosecutors had demanded three years in prison.

© 2006 AAP
Heigou you NEVER let me Down ;D ;D Man you ARE THE HUMAN GOOGLE i swear ;D
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Sis786
04-21-2006, 03:08 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Muslimah_Sis
Nah it started during maghrib and continued intermittently.
Sis i honestly dont mean to sound rude but my opinion is that you should just ignore it,

I mean there is a hadith in which the Prophet SAW came home after eid prayers and found 2 girls singing and Aisha RA was listening to them. Abu Bakr RA came in and said how dare you sing in front of the Prophet SAW and our Prophet SAW said it was ok as its eid and this is how they are expressing thier happiness.

I understand that you were reading namaz but you can go to another room and try to read there.

Muslims know Music is haram yet some still listen and play such instruments and they tend to be ignorant to this (inc me) its best to ignore this,

My opinion hope no offence is caused.
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04-21-2006, 03:31 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Sis786
Heigou you NEVER let me Down ;D ;D Man you ARE THE HUMAN GOOGLE i swear ;D
LOL! :D
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IbnAbdulHakim
04-21-2006, 03:34 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Sis786
Muslims know Music is haram yet some still listen and play such instruments and they tend to be ignorant to this (inc me) its best to ignore this,

My opinion hope no offence is caused.
:offended:
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Sis786
04-21-2006, 03:37 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Abd'Majid
:offended:
[S]what[/S]
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IbnAbdulHakim
04-21-2006, 03:39 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Sis786
[S]what[/S]
(inc me) :eek:

its k u dont hav to elaborate if u dont wanna, jus a lil :eek: thats all
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Sis786
04-21-2006, 03:42 PM
Basically im saying and i knows its wrong that i do listen to music. You see i can say i dont but why lie yes i should be ashmed and i am being ignorant to the laws and commands of Allah SWT.

May Allah SWT guide me and others to the right path. Aameen
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IbnAbdulHakim
04-21-2006, 03:44 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Sis786
Basically im saying and i knows its wrong that i do listen to music. You see i can say i dont but why lie yes i should be ashmed and i am being ignorant to the laws and commands of Allah SWT.

May Allah SWT guide me and others to the right path. Aameen
inshaAllah, Ameen! May Allah swt give you the strength and understanding, may he guide you towards realising true contentment inshaAllah :)

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cleo
04-21-2006, 03:52 PM
I think you should find patience, and be happy for someone is celebrating a beginning in their life....put cotton in your ears..
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arehat
04-21-2006, 03:55 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by cleo
I think you should find patience, and be happy for someone is celebrating a beginning in their life....put cotton in your ears..
Yes but nt in accordance with the Islamic teachings an Muslim marrige should be commenced with blessings ....
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Snowflake
04-22-2006, 02:42 PM
Sis786;268076]Sis i honestly dont mean to sound rude but my opinion is that you should just ignore it,

I mean there is a hadith in which the Prophet SAW came home after eid prayers and found 2 girls singing and Aisha RA was listening to them. Abu Bakr RA came in and said how dare you sing in front of the Prophet SAW and our Prophet SAW said it was ok as its eid and this is how they are expressing thier happiness.
Yes that was 2 girls who were singing to welcome the prophets (pbuh) arrival.
There's no comparison between that hadith and muslims beating bhangra tunes bang in the middle of salah time. You're not being rude but I'm not going to ignore it, because it is not something that affects me personally but my neighbourhood too. The one's responsible are also doing wrong, so I have to make them aware of that.

I understand that you were reading namaz but you can go to another room and try to read there.
I don't live in a mansion you know! :giggling: :rollseyes
It wouldnt have mattered where I was in my house, the noise could be heard in the next street.

format_quote Originally Posted by cleo
I think you should find patience, and be happy for someone is celebrating a beginning in their life....put cotton in your ears..
Of course I was patient! I wanted to go and snatch the drum of them, but I controlled myself. :P
And I don't grudge any celebrating their new life, but why should I and others have to suffer to their noise? It may be important for them but my prayers and others peace is more important to me.

*watch this space, cuz I am not going to let this drop*
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