During an arguement,obviously people will get angry.
Prophet Muhammed s.a.w has suggested that if you are standing up,go and Sit down.
If you are sitting down,go and lay down.
If you were laying down,go and wash your face with cold water.
If that doesnt help,do wadu and go pray 2 rakaat nafl salaat.
And also,any person that you feel rancor (Bitter, long-lasting resentment; deep-seated ill will) towards,make dua for them,make dua that allah s.w.t give them success in this life and the hereafter,that they live a happy life,that they have everything that you have and etc.
Do the same for people you feel jealosy towards.
I believe that what Ahmad Al-zarruq recommended.
For more info,go to your local islamic centre and ask for a copy of :
Purificiation of the heart.
By shaykh hamza yusuf.