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Lonely_Boy
06-18-2006, 03:46 PM
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Hope all are fine in health and Iman INSHALLAH by the grace of ALLAH...I got this cool conversation in email so would like to share with u people too


A cool conversation on hijab!

"I'm so tired"
"Tired of what?"

"Of all these people judging me"
"Who judged you?"

"Like that woman, every time I sit with her she tells me to wear hijab"
"Oh, hijab and music! The mother of all topics!"


"Yeah! I listen to music without hijab, haha!"
"Maybe she was just giving you advice"


"I don't need her advice. I know my religion. Can't she mind her own business?"
"Maybe you misunderstood. She was just being nice."

"Keeping out of my business, that would be nice..."
"But it's her duty to encourage you to do good"


"Trust me, that was no encouragement. And what do you mean 'good'?"
"Well, wearing hijab, that would be a good thing to do"

"Says who?"
"It's in the Qur'an, isn't it?"


"Yes she did quote me something"
"She said Surah Nur, and other places of the Qur'an"

"Yes, but it's not a big sin anyway. Helping people and praying is more important"
"True, but big things start with small things"


"That's a good point, but what you wear is not important. What's important is to have a good healthy heart"
"What you wear is not important?"


"That's what I said"
"Then why do you spend an hour every morning fixing up?"

"What do you mean?"
"You spend money on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on fixing your hair and low-carb dieting"


"So?"
"So, your appearance IS important"

"No. I said wearing hijab is not an important thing in religion"
"If it's not an important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the Holy Qur'an?"

"You know I can't follow all that's in the Qur'an"
"You mean Allah tells you something to do, you disobey and then it's OK?"


"Yes, Allah is forgiving"
"Allah is forgiving to those who repent and do not repeat their mistakes"


"Says who?"
"Says the same book that tells you to cover"

"But I don't like hijab, it limits my freedom"
"But the lotions, lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?! What's your definition of freedom anyway?"


"Freedom is in doing whatever you like to do"
"No. Freedom is in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish to do"


"Look! I've seen so many people who don't wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wear hijab and are bad people"
"So what? There are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic. Should we all be alcoholics? You made a stupid point"


"I don't want to be an extremist or a fanatic. I'm OK the way I am without hijab"
"Then you are a secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying Allah"

"You don't get it, if I wear hijab, who would marry me?!"
"So all these people with hijab never get married?!"

"Okay! What is I get married and my husband doesn't like it and wants me to remove it?"
"What if your husband wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!"

"That's irrelevant, bank robbery is a crime"
"Disobeying your Creator is not a crime?"

"But then who would hire me?"
"A company that respects people for who they are"

"Not after 9/11"
"Yes, after 9/11. Don't you know about Hanan who just got into med school? And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore a white hijab? Ummm..."


"Yasmeen?"
"Yes! Yasmeen. She just finished her MBA and is not interning for GE"

"Why do you reduce religion to a piece of cloth anyway?
"Why do you reduce womanhood to high heels and lipstick colours?"


"You didn't answer my question"
"In fact, I did. Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying Allah in a difficult environment. It is courage, faith in action and true womanhood. But your short sleeves, tight trousers...??"

"That's called fashion, you live in a cave or something? First of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to control women"
"Really? I did not know men could control women by hijab"


"Yes, that's what it is"
"What about the women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about that?"

"Well, that's different"
"How? The woman who asked you to wear hijab she was a woman, right?"

"Right, but..."
"But fashions that are designed and promoted by male-dominated corporations set you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them as a commodity?! Give me a break!"

"Wait, let me finish, I was saying..."
"Saying what? You think that men control women by hijab?"


"Yes"
"Specifically how?"

"By telling women how and what to wear, dummy!"
"Doesn't TV, magazines and movies tell you what to wear and how to be 'attractive'?"

"Of course, it's fashion"
"Isn't that control? Pressuring you to wear what they want you to wear?"

Silence
"Not just controlling you, but also controlling the market"

"What do you mean?"
"I mean, you are told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on the cover of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those products"


"I don't get it, what does hijab have to do with products?"
"It has everything to do with that. Don't you see? Hijab is a threat to consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men. And then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks"

"Like I don't have to buy hijab? Isn't hijab a product?
"Yes, it is. It is a product that sets you free from male-dominated consumerism"


"Stop lecturing me! I WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB! It is awkward, outdated and totally not suitable for this society. Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!"
"Fine. Say that to your Lord when you face Him on Judgement Day"


"Fine"
"Fine"

Silence
"Keep quiet and I don't want to hear more about hijab niqab blab!"

Silence

She stared at the mirror, tired of arguing with herself all this time. Successful enough, she managed to shut the voices in her head with her own opinions triumphant in victory over the matter, and a final modern decision accepted by the society, rejected by faith:


Yes to curls or blow dried hair, no to hijab.



"HasbunAllah wa ni'mal wakeel"
(Allah Alone is Sufficient for me)


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Isaac
06-18-2006, 06:06 PM
excellent post bro
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Nafiisah
06-18-2006, 06:22 PM
May Allah help all to see the true value of Hijaab in preseving haaya
BarakAllahu feekum waAssalaamoou3alaikum
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seek.learn
06-18-2006, 06:45 PM
Salaam o alaikum,

Excellent post.
JazakAllah u khairun.

Alaikum Salaam
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Samira_01
06-18-2006, 07:13 PM
awww mashallah ....great example for those whu dun were hijaab !!!...Thankz akhi ...for sharing a niice topiic !
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ummAbdillah
06-18-2006, 07:15 PM
salaam
mashallah
good post bro. jazak allah khair :)
wa salaam
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Zohair
06-18-2006, 07:23 PM
great post brother :)
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umm_amina04
06-19-2006, 05:18 AM
Jazak-allahu khairan for that post brother, it really hit close to home and I'm sure that would be a form of dawah for the sisters who want to wear hijab but are focus on the modern fashions in Western societies. Al-hamdulilah I wore my hijab 9 Months after reverting to Islam and I was only 17yrs Al-hamdulilah Allah guides whom he wishes to guide and misguides whom he wishes to misguide.
Wa alaikum assalam
Umm Amina
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samina1
06-19-2006, 05:22 AM
[banana]mashallah[/banana]

Gr8 DOOR FOR DA SISTAHS WHO WANT 2 START WEARIN HIJAB....

nice conv, JAZAKALLAH FOR PSTIN IT
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jameelash
06-19-2006, 05:40 AM
mashaAllah,a good point of thought for the modernist
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Lonely_Boy
06-19-2006, 03:34 PM
Originally Posted by umm_amina04
Jazak-allahu khairan for that post brother, it really hit close to home and I'm sure that would be a form of dawah for the sisters who want to wear hijab but are focus on the modern fashions in Western societies. Al-hamdulilah I wore my hijab 9 Months after reverting to Islam and I was only 17yrs Al-hamdulilah Allah guides whom he wishes to guide and misguides whom he wishes to misguide.
Wa alaikum assalam
Umm Amina
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Sister it's great to hear from u may ALLAH guide all of us to the right path
and increase in iman day by day ...keep remember in prayers

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