Husband's death

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If a married man dies, why is the wife suppose to live or stay in the house for 40days or somethine else? I am not sure but this is what I heard from my mom and curious. Please someone explain :) and thank you very much, appericate it.

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[Halima]

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This is called Sadaqa'. It is basically a mouring process that the widow goes through. I never knew the real reason behind it, however, you can call it a type of seclusion that the woman' goes through.


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[IceQueen~]

i dunno exactly how long (can't remember right now) but when someone becomes a widow firstly she is very distressed and any person may trick her into marrying them (just for her money or other personal benefit) and in her worry about being alone etc she may accept without proper thought..

there is wisdom behind everything Allah commands. Also in this time she will find out if she is pregnant from her late husband or not (preserves childs identity-who father is..)

after she has become more mentally and emotionally stable she will be able to think things through (gives her time for this) and will not have to make any rash decisions which may be harmful for her...


i dunno if that helps Insha Allah- i read about all this somewhere... hope i find it..

[seeker_of_ilm]

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THE PURPOSE OF THE IDDAT
There are several reasons why the iddat has been ordained. As regards the iddat that is calculated according to the cycle of menstruation, the purpose is, firstly, to establish the state of the womb, i.e. to ascertain whether there has been conception prior to divorce or not. When menstruation has been fixed as the basis for iddat, it will be a mere formality to establish this, for when the blood of haidh flows it is a sure sign that the womb is empty of a fetus. However, one period of menses is insufficient to provide definite evidence of the 'emptiness' of the womb, so the Shariah prescribes the elapse of another period for added confirmation. After this second haidh it will be conclusively proven that the womb is indeed free of pregnancy. Now that the womb has been certified as free of burden, the third haidh or menstruation period is merely a mark of respect for the bond of nikah and to prolong the termination of the nikah thus increasing the chances of reconciliation The result of all this is an iddat consisting of three haidh periods. As for those ladies who do not experience haidh for reasons already outlined, the straightforward three-month iddat prescribed for them will serve the same purpose as expounded above, beyond any shadow of doubt. Furthermore, the three-month iddat is to differentiate between the iddat of the free woman and the woman in bondage, whose iddat the Shariah has set at two months, or two menstruation periods.
Secondly, a hadith of Rasoolullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) provides us with a very strong reason for observation of a period of waiting called iddat. This hadith states:

"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not allow his water (semen) to inseminate the plantation (womb) of another." (Abu Dawood, Tirmizhi)

The "womb of another" spoken of here means the womb of the divorcee which was probably inseminated by her former husband. We say probably because such an issue is not clear until the iddat has in fact passed thus proving the existence or non-existence of a fetus. If the latter then it is clear that in reality the womb was not inseminated. Hence the only meaning one can deduce from this hadith is that Rasoolullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) is prohibiting marriage during iddat, for marriage is obviously a prelude to intercourse. If there was no waiting period before the next marriage, the possibility was very great that the new husband would have intercourse with the wife while she may be expecting the baby of her former husband. This has been described by the hadith as "inseminating the crops of another", i.e. depositing semen into a womb that has already been impregnated by another. This one teaching of Rasoolullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) shows the wisdom and knowledge Allah had granted him, for indeed this practice has not only religious complications but is even detrimental for health reasons.


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[chacha_jalebi]

mashallah @ all d posts :D

the main reasons have been said are above, but one of the main reasons is that is if the woman is pregnant, she is advised to stay in for 40 days, because back in them times they didnt have pregnancy tests & bla bla, so back in them days they advised the woman to stay indoors after the death of their husband for 40 days. because just in case the woman was pregnant and some1 accuses her of zina or anytin like dat, then if she stays inside for 40 days she will know if she is pregnant & everyone will know that the father was her hubby!! see the beauty of islam :D:D:D:D:D:D

[- Qatada -]

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Question :

My husband has died. What should I do? What are the things that I am not allowed to do?


Answer :

Praise be to Allaah.

It is narrated in the hadeeth that a recently widowed woman is not allowed to do five things, and that she is required to do five things.

1 – She should stay in her house where she was living when her husband died; this is the place where she should stay until the end of her ‘iddah, which lasts for four months and ten days, unless she is pregnant, in which case her ‘iddah ends when she gives birth, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And for those who are pregnant (whether they are divorced or their husbands are dead), their ‘Iddah (prescribed period) is until they lay down their burden”

[al-Talaaq 65:4]

She should not leave the house except in case of need or necessity, such as going to the hospital if she is sick or to buy things she needs from the marketplace such as food etc., if she does not have someone with her who can do that. If the house is destroyed, then she should move elsewhere, or if she does not have anyone to keep her company and she fears for her safety, then it is OK for her to leave if there is a need to do so.

2 – She should not wear beautiful clothes, yellow, red, etc. Rather she should wear clothes that are not beautiful, whether they are black or green, etc. What matters is that the clothes should not be beautiful, as this is the command of the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

3 – She should avoid wearing jewellery of gold, silver, diamonds, pearls and the like, whether that is necklaces, bracelets or rings, etc., until her ‘iddah is over.

4 – She should avoid wearing perfume; she should avoid perfuming herself with bukhoor (incense) or any other kind of perfume, except when she purifies herself following her period, in which case she may perfume herself with a little bukhoor.

5 – She should avoid kohl; she may not apply kohl or any similar kind of cosmetic that is used on the face, the kind of cosmetic that may attract people to her. But with regard to regular beautification by using soap and water, that is OK. But the kohl which is used to make the eyes look beautiful and other kinds of cosmetics which some women use on their faces. This should not be done.

These are the five things which must be taken care of in the case of a woman whose husband dies.

But with regard to what some of the common people think and have fabricated, that a recently-widowed woman should not speak to anyone or speak on the telephone, or that she should take a bath no more than once a week, or that she should not walk barefoot in the house, or go outside in the moonlight, and other similar myths, there is no basis for these things. She may walk in her house barefoot or wearing shoes; she may do what she needs to in her house, cooking food for herself and her guests; she may walk in the moonlight in the courtyard and garden of her house; she may take a bath whenever she wants; she may speak to whomever she wants in a manner that is not suspicious; she may shake hands with other women and with her mahrams, but not with non-mahrams; she may take off her khimaar (head cover) if there are no non-mahrams present. But she should not use henna or saffron or perfume, either on her clothes or in coffee, because saffron is a kind of perfume. No one should propose marriage to her, but it is OK to hint, but clearly proposing marriage is not allowed. And Allaah is the Source of help.

A fatwa of Shaykh Ibn Baaz, from Fataawa Islamiyyah, vol. 3, p. 315-316 .

For more information see al-Imdaad bi Ahkaam al-Ihdaad by Fayhaan al-Mutayri; Ahkaam al-Ihdaad by Khaalid al-Muslih .


Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid (www.islam-qa.com)

source: http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?ln...QR=10670&dgn=4

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