Originally Posted by Anonymous Tester
Assalamyu Aleykum, Am so sorry to hear that sister,
Just a couple of things, just feel free to tell me to shut it or anything cos I probably will say something which you might not agree with cos am a brother and I see things abit differently sometimes.
I really do think you need to remember where and who you are sister, it might sound abit harsh, but it works for me, I cant go out alot of the time, I cant go masjid much and so on because I end up coming home late, and mum worries, but Alhamdulilah.
Remember that your real
youth and free time is going to be where? Jannah, Im sure you know and am sure your probably frowing and thinking 'Oh I know but I want a practicle answer for NOW!' But once we realise that this life is all a test it makes it easier to understand that we don't need our 'youth' and 'free time' here, we need to get good deeds and be on the straight path here, and Wallahi, what more can show that you are on the good path than the fact that others nick name you after your clothes, sister please know, those clothes are the, clothes of righteousness
, the best of the best wore them, sister, remember whom so ever wrongs you, you will be paid back for it. Try read the story of Mary, peace be upon her, it sounds similar in some ways to this, the fear and pain and wanting to be 'different'.
And know thatinsha'Allah, you are looking after a person of Paradise, may Allah grant our sister Jannah, paradise, that person your looking after, our sister, inshaAllah will go jannah, its a big blessing to be able to bear near such people.
Also, perform your duties to your mother, be thankful that your mother is who she is, am taking it that she is Muslim, praise Allah for that.
I haven't hear someone who seems more into the practices of Islam than what you have described above, sister, as long as you try your best listen to your mother, be merciful to your father, look after your sister, wear the clothing of righteousness, then how will Allah be mad at you?
Remember who your enemy is, if Allah is mad at you then your enemy is winning, sinning will only make him more happy, always remember Allah and remember your enemy, don't make him happy.
Sister you sound like a nice Muslimah, don't let hard times get you down, keep going and try hard and Allah's promise is the most truthful, and inshaALlah Jannah you'll have your real youth
, because be honest with yourself, what you gonna do? Go out, have a nice dinner, spend time at friend's place, try dresses, go shopping, for how long? Maybe a night here and there, a weekend, a couple of weeks, but the real time of youth, the one which will have real pleasure, if your honest with yourself, is Jannah, where you can go for eternity having your fun, all in the luxury of your youth! InshaAllah.