Originally Posted by IslamQA
It is possible to do without them by using the ordinary ringing tone. And Allaah is the Source of strength.
After you done that, then when you're at college - stay away from the people who listen to it. A good friend is better than lot's of friends that make you fall into the sin.
The Messenger of Allaah (sal Allaahu alayhi waSalam) said: "A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend."
“The example of a good companion and a bad one is the bearer of musk and the worker on the bellows (blacksmith). A bearer of musk would give you some, you might buy some from him, or you might enjoy the fragrance of his musk. The worker on the bellows, on the other hand, might spoil your clothes with sparks from his bellows, or you get a bad smell from him.”
(Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim, this version being Muslim’s)
So make sure you don't hang out with people who love doing sin, because they will just push you further into the dark.. Instead - hang out with the one's that encourage you to follow islam properly. Remember, friends should be - Quality not Quantity.
Also remember that you might feel like a stranger infront of the people, for example - when you tell them it's haraam, they might laugh at you. And then you probably get the urge to tell them that you like it too and you know about the lyrix and erything, but you're doing it to please Allaah.. expecting to be rewarded insha'Allaah.
I proper urge you to read this because naturally the people don't like the truth, and you'll get a better understanding of what you are, and where you are in society (experiences of people who are going through what you going through):
Feeling like a Stranger?
- Whenever you hear any places where music is being played - remember that Allaah is watching over you, quickly leave and remember that this world is only temporary, and you can listen to all the music you want in jannah insha'Allaah.
- Remember that the greater the trial - the greater the reward.
- If you give up something for the sake of Allaah - Allaah will replace you with something better. With time and patience, you'll realise that insha'Allaah.
- I know through experience myself, that when you love something and it's bad for you, and you obey Allaah in that matter anyway and stay patient - Allaah will put a sweetness of emaan in your heart, and even though it might be hard to understand now, you'll actually hate that thing and you'll realise all the corruption it had inside of it.
The Flame of Emaan that I once had.. is dying out...
The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) would pray:
Allaahumma yaa muqalliba al-quloobi thabbit qalbee `alaa deenika;
Allaahumma yaa muqalliba al-quloobi thabbit qalbee `alaa al-haqii;
Allaahumma yaa muqalliba al-quloobi thabbith qalbee `alaa taa'atika
(O Allah, You are the twister/turner of hearts, make my heart firm and steadfast on Your religion;
O Allah, You are the twister/turner of hearts, make my heart firm and steadfast on truth;
O Allah, You are the twister/turner of hearts, make my heart firm and steadfast on Your obedience).
Allaahumma innee a'oodhu bika mina al-kufri, wa al-shakki, wa al-nifaqi wa al-shiqaaqi
(O Allah, I seek refuge in You from disbelief, doubts, hypocrisy and straying away from the straight path).
Whenever you feel that the test is getting hard for you, remember that Allaah isn't over burdening you - so you still can be patient enough not to listen to the songs.
But also remember that even if the test seem's hard - would you be prepared to take the trials that our brothers and sisters around the world are taking?
We have too much important thing's to do in this world - we need to spend every second of our life for the sake of pleasing Allaah, even if it's something like cooking, do it to please Allaah and you will be rewarded insha'Allaah.
Allah has written down the good deeds and the bad ones. Then He explained it [by saying that] he who has intended a good deed and has not done it, Allah writes it down with Himself as a full good deed, but if he has intended it and has done it, Allah writes it down with Himself as from ten good deeds to seven hundred times, or many times over. But if he has intended a bad deed and has not done it, Allah writes it down with Himself as a full good deed, but if he has intended it and has done it, Allah writes it down as one bad deed.
Bukhari & Muslim
so from the hadith above - we can say this:
intention of a good deed = 1 good deed recorded.
intention + act of doing good = 10 to 700 (or many times over) good deeds recorded.
intention to do bad, but doesn't do it = 1 good deed.
intention to do bad, and does it = 1 bad deed.
So if you ever have the intention to do something bad (like listening to songs), then just remember the hadith above and you'll be rewarded for not listening to them and turning away insha'Allaah.
What alot of brother's and sister's do to keep themselves busy is to listen to lectures.. it might sound boring, but they really benefit you alot and you get rewarded for actually learning something new insha'Allaah.
Keep yourself busy so you don't have alot of spare time. Try having some sort of gathering with your friends who also like islam, and you can listen to the lectures together.
Try doing other activities which are halaal like meeting up and discussing islaam, and eat together/open your fast together and stuff like that.
One final thing that would really benefit you is to find the time of the day which you find that you've got the least worldly distractions. Maybe even before you're going to go sleep, and the lights are off.
Just lift your hands, humble yourself and pray to Allaah, even if it's just from your heart.
Ask Allaah to make you love emaan (faith) and to love the way of Allaah and His Messenger (peace be upon him.) Pray that Allaah make's the path of jannah easy for you, and for the muslims. Pray so that you can actually get to jannah;
Because if you say: Oh Allah, permit me into Paradise. three times, the Paradise will reply: Oh Allah, allow him/her to enter me.
Have you asked Allah to protect you from the Hellfire today, three times? If you did the Hellfire will say: Oh Allah, protect him/her from me.
Make all the dua's that you desire (as long as obviously it's not haraam), because the more a person prays, the more likely Allaah is going to accept his/her dua'. And the more good deeds you do - the more likely the dua' will be responded to insha'Allaah.
Whenever i feel i'm losing my faith, i pray to Allaah and Allaah strengthens my faith again alhamdulillaah. Because dua' is the best weapon of the believer..
Then do ye remember Me; I will remember you. Be grateful to Me, and reject not Faith. (2:152)
Allaah Almighty know's best.
O ye who believe! Enter into Islam whole-heartedly; and follow not the footsteps of the evil one; for he is to you an avowed enemy. (2:208)
Allah desireth for you ease; He desireth not hardship for you; (2:185)
But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knoweth, and ye know not. (2:216)
If you didn't understand anything i said, or you need more info. please ask insha'Allaah. jazak Allaahu khayr.