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The Etiquettes of Meeting Another Muslim
Taken from: "The Book of Manners" by, Fuaad Ibn 'Abdul-'Azeez Ash-Shulhoob
The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said,
"تصافحوا يذهب الغل , وتهادوا تحابوا, وتذهب الشحناء"
"Shake hands with one another: any hatred [that exists among you] will go away; give gifts to one another: you will end up loving one another and any enmity [that exists among you] will go away.”[1]
And the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said, "No two Muslims meet and shake hands with one another, except that they are forgiven [their sins] before they part from one another." [2]
The Islamic Etiquettes of Meeting another Muslim
1) It Is Recommended To Shake the Other Person's Hand
We learn from the above-mentioned narrations that, by simply shaking a brother's hand, our sins are forgiven and any hatred that exists among us will go away. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم exhorted Muslims to shake hands with one another, and the Companions رضى الله عنهم applied that guidance. Qatada reported that he once asked Anas رضى الله عنهم “Was hand-shaking common among the Prophet's Companions” He said, "Yes.”[3] And in the story of when Allah وتعالى سبحانه accepted his repentance, Ka'ab رضى الله عنه said, “I entered the Masjid, and there before me was the Messenger of Allah وسلم صلى الله عليه
Then Talhah Ibn 'Ubaidullah رضى الله عنهم stood and jogged toward me until he shook my hand and congratulated me.”[4]
And according to the Hadeeth of Anas رضى الله عنه when the people of Yemen came, the Prophet said:
" قد أقبل أهل اليمن, وهم أرق قلوبا منكم "
"The people of Yemen are approaching, and they have softer hearts than you." [Anas رضى الله عنه said,] "And they are the first who came with handshaking."[5] Al-Baraa Ibn Aazibالله عنه رضى said, "One of the matters that makes a greeting complete is for you to shake your brother's hand."[6]
When you meet your brother, it is Sunnah to shake hands with him, for doing so signifies an assurance of the verbal greetings of peace. The following is mentioned in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad: “You should know that to shake hands upon meeting [your brother] is an act of friendliness and an assurance or confirmation of the verbal greetings of peace. By verbally extending greetings of peace, you announce to your brother that he is safe from you inflicting harm upon him. Shaking hands is a pledge and an assurance to that effect. So by greeting one another and shaking hands with one another, each of the two people meeting knows that he is safe with the other.” After you have read the narrations that establish the importance and virtues of shaking hands with your brother, do not be miserly with yourself when it comes to achieving easy rewards, and do not turn away from the Sunnah!
Related Issue: In Al-Adab Al-Mufrad, Al- Bukhaaree reported that Salamah Ibn Wirdaan said, “I saw Anas Ibn Maalik رضى الله عنه greeting the people; he then asked me (when I was still a child), ‘Who are you?' I said, 'A freed slave of Banee Laith.' He then patted me on my head three times, saying, 'May Allah bless you.”’[7] Based on this Hadeeth, and since doing so shows mercy to children and instills kindness in them, it is recommended to greet children and shake hands with them. By patting the young boy on his head, Anas رضى الله عنه showed his mercy and kindness towards children.
2) It Is Forbidden To Shake The Hand Of A Woman Who Is A Stranger To You (ie., one who, according to the Shariah, you are not allowed to be alone with)
In a narration that she narrated from her father 'Aaisha, the Mother of the Believers, explained how migrating women would pledge allegiance to the Messenger of Allah. She said رضى الله عنها "...When the women would affirm [their pledge] verbally, the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم would say, 'Go, for you have pledged allegiance.' No, by Allah, the hand of the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم never touched the hand of a [stranger] woman; instead, women would perform Bai'ah (pledge allegiance) with speech..."[8]
Though it was the normal practice among men to shake hands when giving Bai'ah, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم would have women give Bai'ah with a verbal pledge only. The Hadeeth of Umaimah Bint Raqeeqah confirms this ruling; in fact, in it is a clear prohibition of shaking hands with women. Speaking of when women would give Bai'ah to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم , Umaimah رضى الله عنها said, "We said, 'Allah and His Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم are more merciful to us than we are to our own selves; come, and we will give you Bai'ah, ‘O Messenger of Allah.' The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said,
"اني لا أصا فح النساء, انما قولي لمائة امرأة, آقولي لامرأة واحدة, أو مثل قولي لامرأة واحدة"
'Verily, I do not shake hands with women. What I say to 100 women (the wording for the Bai'ah) is tantamount to what I say to one woman (i.e., what I say to each woman among you)..."[9]
Ibn'Abdul-Barr said, "The Prophet's saying, 'Verily, I do not shake hands with women,' proves that it is not permissible for a man to make any physical contact with a [stranger] woman; he may not touch her with his hand and he may not shake hands with her."
3) When You Shake Someone's Hand, It Is Recommended To Hold on, So That He Is The First To Draw His Hand Away
Anas Ibn Maalik رضى الله عنه said, "If a man faced the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and shook his hand, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم would not pull his hand away from that man's hand, so that the man would be the one to pull his hand away..."[10] We learn from this Hadeeth that it is recommended not only to shake hands but also to prolong the duration of the handshake, but of course not to the degree of hardship or discomfort.
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References:
[1] Related by Maalik, from'Ataa Ibn 'Abdullah Al-Khurasaanee (1685). Ibn l 'Abdul-Barr said in At-Tamheed, "This Hadeeth is connected from chains that are all authentic." He then related some of those chains (At-Tamheed (12/21)
[2] Related by Abu Daawood (5212), and Al-Albaanee said, "Saheeh." At Tirmidhee (2727) and Ibn Maajah (3703) related it as well.
[3] Related by Bukhaaree (6263)
[4] Bukhaaree related it Ta'leeqan in Kitaab AI-Istidhaan, in the Chapter of Hand-Shaking. Its chain is connected with Bukhaaree, from the story of Ka'ab in Al-Maghaazee (4418)
[5] Related by Abu Daawood (5213) and Bukhaaree in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad (967), and the wording mentioned here is from his narration. The saying, "And they are the first who came with hand-shaking," is mentioned as a part of the Hadeeth, but, as Al-Albaanee pointed out, it was Anas who said those words, and they were mistakenly included in the wording of the Hadeeth. That it was Anas. who said those words is further corroborated by the narration of Imam Ahmad (3/155, 223).
[6] Related by Bukhaaree in Al-Adab AI-Mufrad (967). Al-Albaanee said that, as a saying of Al-Baraa رضى الله عنه, its chain is authentic.
[7] Hadeeth # 966. Bukhaaree titled a chapter based on this Hadeeth: "Shaking The Hands Of Children." And about this Hadeeth, Al-Albaanee said, "Its chain is Hasan."
[8] Bukhaaree (5288)
[9] Related by Ahmad (26466), At-Tirmidhee (1597), An-Nassaaee (4181), Ibn Maajah (2874), and Maalik in AI-Muwatta (1842).
[10] Related by At-Tinnidhee (2490) and Ibn Maajah (3716), and by dint of all of its chains, Al-Albaanee ruled that it is authentic. He said, "The Hadeeth is authentic because of these chains and especially because it has'other narrations that attest to it." As-Silsilah As-Saheehah (2485), (5,635)
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