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Uma Rayanah
01-25-2005, 10:07 PM
CHOOSING THE DESIRED WIFE


All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds, the Merciful,
the Hearer of supplications, and peace and blessings upon our
beloved and humble prophet Muhammad,and upon his family and
companions.

When marriage is spoken of during these "modern" times, Muslims
become horrified, conjuring images of an arranged marriage,
trying to find that "perfect" companion, how much of a financial
burden it will become, and so on. The reality is that Islam came
to solve these problems, not exacerbate them, yet unfortunately
we have integrated our local traditions and customs with Islam
so that marriage has become a major concern for a man rather
than a delightful experience.

When living in a free, perverted and corrupt Western society,
the Muslim male youth finds many temptations and tests, as a
result of mixing with females, which he must face and overcome.
He must constantly resist these temptations, which are thrown at
him in the streets, on the media, and at work. And so the
wisdom of the Prophet (s.a.w) echoes on, when he said: "O young
men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it
restrains the eyes from casting (evil glances), and preserves
one from immorality..."

When seriously considering marriage, you must pose the question
to yourself as to just what kind of wife you want, what her
qualities should be in order to establish an Islamic and
peaceful household, and how you will know who she is.

As Muslims, we believe that Allah wants the best for us, and
that His Prophet (s.a.w) illustrated this through his own life.
So note that by following the advise of our own Creator, and
that of His beloved servant, we can only be successful.


WHO TO MARRY


Islam is clear on the kind of wife you should be seeking. The
Prophet (s.a.w) said: "A woman may be married for four reasons:
for her property, her status, her beauty, and her religion; so
try to get one who is religious, may you be blessed." This
specifically defines just what kind of a companion we are
seeking, for if we marry her for anything other than her
religious piety, our marriage is bound to fall into misery.

True, beauty and charm is hard to resist, yet beauty does not
last forever and does not guarantee you her obedience and
religiousness. Financial status is dynamic, and so is worldly
status, yet religion strongly establishes a household, and it
may be that through your intention of marrying her for her
religion, the rest is given to you anyway. In another hadith,
the Prophet (s.a.w) said: "The whole world is a provision, and
the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman."
Imagine! Nothing in this world is as valuable as a pious
woman! This point has been stressed many times by Rasulallah
(s.a.w), who himself, when asked what three things he loved the
most, mentioned a pious woman. Once the following ayah was
revealed: "They who hoard up gold and silver and do not spend it
in the way of Allah, unto them give tidings of a painful doom.
On that day when it will (all) be heated in the fire of
Jahannam, and their foreheads and flanks and their backs will be
branded therewith (and it will be said to them): 'Here is what
you hoarded for yourselves, now taste of what you used to hoard'
"[al-Taubah: 34-35]. Umar (r.a.a) has been quoted to say that,
when this ayah was revealed, he approached the Prophet (s.a.w),
submitting that the ayah weighed heavily on the minds of the
Sahaba. Rasulallah (s.a.w) replied that the best thing to be
treasured is the devoted wife who causes pleasure when seen,
obeys orders instantly and takes full care of herself and her
husbands property when he is away. Abu Bakr once asked
Rasulallah (s.a.w) what was the best thing to be treasured, and
he (s.a.w) replied: "the tongue in remembrance of Allah, the
heart filled with thanks to Allah, and a pious wife who helps in
virtuous deeds". Look at how valuable such a woman is in the
sight of Allah! How can a man live unhappily with such a
person.


QUALITIES OF THE PIOUS WOMAN


Alright, you say, you've convinced me, but what actually makes
her a pious woman? The answer is simple: Allah himself has
described those qualities most loved by Him in the Qur'an, and
in the ahadith there are numerous accounts of the virtuous
attributes of a pious woman.

The following are some ayahs on the attributes of the wife you
should be seeking, so note those fine and appreciative
qualities. The following are some ayahs on the attributes of
the wife you should be seeking, so note those fine and
appreciative qualities.

"And women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity
are for women of purity"[s.24;v.26]

"Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard
in (the husbands) absence what Allah would have them
guard"[s.4;v.34]

"It may be, if he divorced you (all), that Allah will give him
in exchange consorts better than you, who submit (Muslims), who
believe, who are devout, who turn to Allah in repentance, who
worship (in humility), who travel (for faith) and
fast..."[s.66;v.5].

And then, in surah Ahzab, is a full list of those qualities
loved by Allah, qualities which by the way should be evident in
both males and females. So, my dear brother, choose her for the
following attributes:

-a Muslim woman

-a believing woman

-a devout woman

-a true woman

-a woman who is patient and constant

-a woman who humbles herself

-a woman who gives charity

-a woman who fasts and denies herself

-a woman who guards her chastity

-a woman who engages much in Allah's praise.

Among the four known perfect women was Maryam. She was loved by
Allah because of her religious qualities: "O Maryam! Worship
your Lord: prostrate yourself, and bow down (in prayer) with
those who bow down"[s.3;v.43]. Another was the wife of Pharaoh:
"And Allah sets forth, as an example to those who believe, the
wife of Pharaoh: behold she said: 'O my Lord, build for me, in
nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden' "[s.66;v.11].

The Prophet (s.a.w) loved his wives because of their religious
qualities. Aisha once related the fine qualities of Zainab:
"(Zainab) was the one who was somewhat equal in rank with me in
the eyes of Allah's Messenger (s.a.w), and I have never seen a
woman more advanced in religious piety than Zainab, more
God-conscious, more truthful, more alive to the ties of blood,
more generous and having more sense of self-sacrifice in
practical life and having more charitable disposition and thus
more closer to Allah, the Exalted, than her."

Ahh, you think, but you'll never find such a woman! Well, if
that was true, Allah would not have described her in the first
place, and furthermore those qualities were emanating from the
women described above. Islam deals with reality, not fiction.
Sure, the perfect woman doesn't exist, yet "if you take a
dislike to them, it may be that you dislike a thing, and Allah
brings about through it a great deal of good"[s.4;v.19].
Remember also that you are not perfect either.


KNOWING WHO SHE IS


To find that pious woman, there are two steps to be taken, and
that firstone relies on your personal observation. In surah
Nisaa, Allah asks the believing women that they should "lower
their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display
their beauty and ornaments," and also that they "should not
strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden
ornaments"[s.24;v.31]. If you notice a woman acting modestly,
being not too obvious through her actions (by lowering her voice
when around men), one who attempts to hide her attractions
(which includes her external beauty as well as her internal
charms), then you know she has some of those precious
qualities. When you see a woman unashamedly flirting,
unconcerned about her revealing clothes, and freely converses
with males- keep far, far away. I'm sure when you get married
you want your wife to devote her love to you, not to twenty
other "just good friends".

Through simple observation, you can get a glimpse of her nature;
for example, the way she stands when conversing, how she
maintains eye-contact, her clothes, where she spends her time
etc. Look for her strong points, and don't stress on her weak
ones.

Yet, after all this, we still have to come to the most important
topic. You can look all you want ather, set a private investigator
to track her movements, read her diaries (all of which I consider
extreme and unIslamic), yet, my dear brother, no-one knows her heart
and intentions, no-one knows whether she will turn sour or more
religious, or whether you are suitable for each other, except for Allah.


TRUST IN ALLAH


We are choosing our wife for her permanent values; namely her
religious devotions, moral integrity, character etc. But believe
me, if we try ourselves to combine a marriage, we are almost
sure to fail, because we have no knowledge.

Allah loves a servant when he puts his trust in Him. When we do
so, it is illustrating how we rely upon Him for help, and
proving our sincerity to Him, establishing that we recognise His
infinite knowledge and wisdom.

Islam is likened to being as a house, and in my estimation
nothing cements that house together as well as putting our trust
in Allah.

It is related on the authority of Jabir ibn 'Abdullah that the
Prophet (s.a.w) used to teach his companions to seek, through a
special du'a (known as an istikharah), the guidance of Allah in
all matters which affected them. Rasulallah (s.a.w) said: "When
you are confused about what you should do in a certain
situation, then pray two rak'at of nafl salaat and read the
following du'a (du'a of istikharah)."

I am surprised at the criticisms thrown at this du'a, and of its
negligence. We are humans, powerless in this sphere of life,
knowledgeable only enough to survive. So why shouldn't we turn
to Allah and seek His perfect help whenever we require it? Allah
responds to the call of His servant when he asks for guidance,
and we are after all seeking to do something in order to please
Him.

Many wrong notions exist concerning istikharah. Many Muslims
will pray, read the du'a, and run to bed expecting to see a
dream showing them their future wife, what her favourite colour
is, and some other weird fantasy. That is not the purpose of
this salaat.

The results of an istikharah can take many forms. Basically, you
go by your feelings, whether you now feel more favourable or
not. Also, you may notice events have changed, either for or
against you. Finally, as a wonderful gift from Allah, you may be
blessed with a dream. Note that you must follow the results of
an istikharah, because not doing so is tantamount to rejecting
Allah's guidance once you've asked for it. Also, you should
firstly clear your mind, not have your mind already decided,
and then afterwards follow the results willingly.

The Prophet (s.a.w) once sent Zainab a proposal of marriage.
She refused to accept the proposal straight away, expressing her
intention to refer the matter to Allah: "I do not do anything
until I solicit the will of my Lord." Allah, the Responsive,
answered her plea for help and revealed an ayah approving of
the marriage. We may seem shocked at her refusal to accept a
proposal from what is the best husband any woman can have, yet
she was just recognising that it is Allah who knows how
successful such a marriage will be, and as a sign of
appreciation, that reply is now preserved in our Holy Book: al
Qur'an.

The Prophet (s.a.w) once said to Aisha: "I saw you in a dream
for three nights when an angel brought you to me in a silk cloth
and he said: 'Here is your wife', and when I removed (the cloth)
from your face, lo, it was yourself, so I said: 'if this is from
Allah, let Him carry it out' ".

Marriage is a serious step, and requires the right attitude. If
marriage completes half our faith, shouldn't that half be the
best half? A woman married for the wrong reasons can only weaken
the Muslim household. Consider that she will be your life-long
companion, the rearer of your children. Don't marry her for her
worldly wealth, but for her wealth in Islamic wisdom and
knowledge. Her status in this life is but illusionary, so choose
her for her status in the sight of Allah. Beauty is but
superficial, but the beauty of Iman is transcendent.

When asking Allah for a wife, call upon Him by His beautiful
names, as He has commanded us: "For Allah are certain and
dignified names: therefore call upon Him by them"[s.7;v.189].
Ask for a companion who is devout, pious, patient and so on. Be
among those who say: "Our Lord, may our spouses and our
offspring be a joy to our eyes and make us leaders of the
righteous"


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Brother_Mujahid
01-25-2005, 11:24 PM
you like posting this stuff?
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Khaldun
01-26-2005, 12:23 AM
:sl:

JazzakAllah for the post...increase our knoweldge...may Allah reward you
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Sumayya
01-26-2005, 12:25 AM
JazakAllah

Ameen
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.::aBDI::.
01-26-2005, 03:01 AM
:sl:
you like posting this stuff?
Dude...please!!! why don't you show us what you got instead of being negative and lazy?



Very intresting article...thanks sister for sharing it...and I would be looking for more of these from memebers...not just in this topic, but u know...it is great that we share what ever usefull thing we come accross. I see this article was not addressing you and woman but still you passed it on...so Thanks again.



I am surprised at the criticisms thrown at this du'a, and of its negligence. We are humans, powerless in this sphere of life, knowledgeable only enough to survive. So why shouldn't we turn to Allah and seek His perfect help whenever we require it? Allah responds to the call of His servant when he asks for guidance, and we are after all seeking to do something in order to please Him.
WORD!...walaahi wa ruunti... I can't say more!

I agree on all the points he said...but speaking personally, I don't have that fear of not finding the right person. I am so sure allah will get me that. There are so many great women out there... still we can't marry and our problem as young men is still there two things...that is MONEY!!!! and education!!!
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Umm Yoosuf
01-26-2005, 07:56 AM
Masha Allah great stuff sister! I enjoined reading that article!
Keep up the good work. May Allah reward You Much!
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Umm Yoosuf
01-26-2005, 08:03 AM
This is a really lovely poem Masha Allah!

Its from www.weneedtounite.com


The Pious Wife
by Abu Jameelah

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Marriage to her is one half of the deen,
The benefit Allah has put in her is yet to be seen.


She wears her hijab for her Lord, to please and obey,
She turns to Allah for salaah at least five times each day.


She prays in the night and makes sure to awake you,
And sprinkles you with water if sleep should overtake you.


She protects her chastity with firmness because she does not desire,
To displease Allah and end up in the tormenting fire.


She asks the people who know when matters need to be rectified,
She is not blinded by self righteousness and foolish pride.


She is humble and kind to her husband as Allah has commanded,
Never leaving him alone, isolated, nor stranded.


She opens her mouth only to say what is best,
Not questioning her husband when he makes a request.


She takes care of herself and never ceases to try,
To beautify herself so to please his eye.


She is a pleasure Allah has given to us in this life,
Be thankful to Allaah alone for His blessing, THE PIOUS WIFE.
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Uma Rayanah
01-26-2005, 11:28 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Brother_Mujahid
you like posting this stuff?
indeeed i do.. dat if u hv something else better to post u are alwzy welcome... :)
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Uma Rayanah
01-26-2005, 11:29 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by ProudMuslimah
This is a really lovely poem Masha Allah!

Its from www.weneedtounite.com


The Pious Wife
by Abu Jameelah

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Marriage to her is one half of the deen,
The benefit Allah has put in her is yet to be seen.


She wears her hijab for her Lord, to please and obey,
She turns to Allah for salaah at least five times each day.


She prays in the night and makes sure to awake you,
And sprinkles you with water if sleep should overtake you.


She protects her chastity with firmness because she does not desire,
To displease Allah and end up in the tormenting fire.


She asks the people who know when matters need to be rectified,
She is not blinded by self righteousness and foolish pride.


She is humble and kind to her husband as Allah has commanded,
Never leaving him alone, isolated, nor stranded.


She opens her mouth only to say what is best,
Not questioning her husband when he makes a request.


She takes care of herself and never ceases to try,
To beautify herself so to please his eye.


She is a pleasure Allah has given to us in this life,
Be thankful to Allaah alone for His blessing, THE PIOUS WIFE.
MASHALLAH..
it is amazin poem indeed dear sister.. thanx 4 sharin it with us...

Jazaaki allahu khirah.... :thumbs_up

:w:
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Brother_Mujahid
02-04-2005, 05:41 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by .::aBDI::.
:sl:


Dude...please!!! why don't you show us what you got instead of being negative and lazy?
i never intended to be negative, was only in jest.

me lazy, naa bro im not lazy :soccer:

wasalam :shade:
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aamirsaab
02-06-2005, 06:43 PM
LOL dont think well b able 2 do that.
not to genius at least
probably 2 him WE need straightening oot init :D - nah im just plying G - mon :P

the thing i dont get is :
how comes ur parents have 2 choose ur wife/husband for u, i mean wot if u really really h8 her/his guts - he/she bullied u big time at school for instance, and then the next thing u know u have 2 marry her/him....eugh...disgusting and down right stinky, man!

i know that its usually got summat to do with strengthening the bond between families - but i mean common - the dude/dudette is pure EVIL!!!

in the case of that happening, what would one do to escape?
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Uthman
02-06-2005, 07:42 PM
:sl:

If they bullied you in high school, whats to say they haven't changed? eh? eh? eh? eh? eh? eh? eh? eh? eh? eh? eh? eh?

Firstly, you've probably gotta express what you're feeling. That you don't want to marry him/her and you don't think this is right.

But if you're parents still refuse then Allah (SWT) teaches us to be obedient to our parents. Don't go running off pretending you're the hero in a Hindi film.

And Allah (SWT) knows best whats good for you and what isn't. So maybe Allah knows that this person has changed or that it is best if you marry this person. So there might be no need to escape.

:w:
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Sahabiyaat
02-06-2005, 08:24 PM
hahah...thats the first i've heard...'bullying ay school'.... :p that waz funni......aamirsaab bro...there sumthing u wnna tell us :teeth:

but osman bro is rite....whether u like/dislike the person Allah (swt) has a plan for u so u shud learn to be patient with his plan..it may be painful and u may hate it at first but if u keep in mind that this is wat Allah (swt) has wished for u ..u will find urself happy in the end....InshaAllah. :wilted_ro
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aamirsaab
02-06-2005, 08:43 PM
LOL i wasnt saying that it happened to me - i was being hypothetical.

fortunately for me i get along with most pps so i dont mind if i get married 2 some1 i met at college.

p.s. whats wit both of u picking on me! :P jus plying
u can carry on if u want :p
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Far7an
02-06-2005, 09:53 PM
judging from some of the comments posted, i think it is safe to assume that most of you brothers will be single for a little while longer, so dont worry about who you are going to marry
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Uthman
02-07-2005, 07:19 PM
Oh, yeah! Silly me! How easy it is to forget 1_of_ur_sis_in_islam! :p

Only jaffin'! Twas' all in jest! ;)

Hahaaaaaa! Good ol' Aamirsaab . . . . . . . BULLIED AT SCHOOL! HAHAHAHA! ROTFLMAO! Aamirsaab u lil fruitcake u! BULLIED AT SCHOOL! Let's all points at Aamirsaab and laugh!

<----- SO FUNNY IT HURTS!
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Sahabiyaat
02-08-2005, 12:01 PM
aamirsaab

ignore um...........

it happens to him now and then ....dnt it osman bro... :p
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Uthman
02-08-2005, 08:53 PM
What? Me getting bullied? Well, certainly not in high school. But how can I not be bullied with you and womanofjihad on the forums? :mad::mad::mad:
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Ansar Al-'Adl
02-10-2005, 02:28 AM
lol...no bullying round here!
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Sahabiyaat
02-10-2005, 02:01 PM
wen did i bully u u lil fibber :teeth:
humpf...neva bullied no one..
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Uthman
02-10-2005, 05:17 PM
*Avoids thread* :brother::brother::brother:
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Sahabiyaat
02-11-2005, 05:38 PM
:omg: huh...hu bullied u 'lil one' :p
u tell me ...i'll do um in..i'll..i'll :mad:
u just tell me ..
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Uthman
02-11-2005, 06:26 PM
A person with reasonably long black hair and brown eyes :(
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Uthman
02-11-2005, 09:51 PM
Oh, you're not the only person who looks like that! :p I'm psychic! Muslimahimprovin' is whom I was describin'! I've never seen her but I'm psychic! ;D
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kadafi
02-12-2005, 07:05 AM
:sl:

Please stick to the topic!

Off-topic comments can be posted on the right section which is the General Chat.

Jazaka'Allah Khair

:w:
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Sahabiyaat
02-12-2005, 09:14 PM
:-[
my apologies brother
it wnt happenn agen..just this..(its all ozwalds fault. i swear..)

(mm..almost accurate psychic powers lil un'.. :confused: )
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Uthman
02-12-2005, 10:10 PM
:sorry: I accept full responsibility because I don't want to be bullied again. Sorry.:)
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Sahabiyaat
02-13-2005, 01:37 PM
lol..
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Uthman
02-13-2005, 02:16 PM
So . . . did I settle the matter of this thread quite nicely or has this not run its full course yet?

<--End of thread?

<-- Thread mangler! (Muslimahimprovin')
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Uma Rayanah
02-15-2005, 02:32 PM







indeeeed da end...



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WomanOfJihad
02-17-2005, 02:48 PM
:sl:

*err wonders wat the topic was in a first place*

:w:
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Sahabiyaat
02-17-2005, 05:35 PM
be quite now .
before i earn sumone elses anger... :'(...sob....
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wafa islam
06-27-2006, 06:55 PM
:sl:

Shukran jazeelan laki (thank u very much) ukhti :sister:

The Prophet (s.a.w) once sent Zainab a proposal of marriage.
She refused to accept the proposal straight away, expressing her
intention to refer the matter to Allah: "I do not do anything
until I solicit the will of my Lord." Allah, the Responsive,
answered her plea for help and revealed an ayah approving of
the marriage. We may seem shocked at her refusal to accept a
proposal from what is the best husband any woman can have, yet
she was just recognising that it is Allah who knows how
successful such a marriage will be, and as a sign of
appreciation, that reply is now preserved in our Holy Book: al
Qur'an.
Subhan Allah !
:w:
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nennar
07-16-2006, 07:39 PM
salaam alaikum!

i only have one thing to say! about choosing a wife for you brother!!!!! do not choose the 1 you see!!!! it will head to disastor! and i know what i am talking about
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Ghazi
07-16-2006, 07:48 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by nennar
salaam alaikum!

i only have one thing to say! about choosing a wife for you brother!!!!! do not choose the 1 you see!!!! it will head to disastor! and i know what i am talking about
:sl:

Care to explain?
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nennar
07-16-2006, 08:21 PM
salaam alaikum!

yes i would! my husbands brother was going to marriy so his mum look for women! she talk to her friends and one of them told her off her niece.. and instead off looking for more women she took that niece her friend told her so much good about... hmmm this marriage has now been for 5 years ... but its 5 years of fighting and jealousi ind the family.... and it all comes from her ... she given birth to 2 children.. she doesent like to work( my mother inlaw at 80 must cook) she wants money all the time but her husband doesent work ..... so if you want to marry you must look further than the 1 one so that you can compare their good qualitys
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ehmad
01-01-2007, 04:08 PM
All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds, the Merciful, the Hearer of supplications, and peace and blessings upon our beloved and humble prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and companions.

When marriage is spoken of during these "modern" times, Muslims become horrified, conjuring images of an arranged marriage, trying to find that "perfect" companion, how much of a financial burden it will become, and so on. The reality is that Islam came to solve these problems, not exacerbate them, yet unfortunately we have integrated our local traditions and customs with Islam so that marriage has become a major concern for a man rather than a delightful experience.When living in a free, perverted and corrupt Western society, the Muslim male youth finds many temptations and tests, as a result of mixing with females, which he must face and overcome. He must constantly resist these temptations, which are thrown at him in the streets, on the media, and at work. And so the wisdom of the Prophet (s.a.w) echoes on, when he said: “O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains the eyes from casting (evil glances), and preserves one from immorality..."

When seriously considering marriage, you must pose the question to yourself as to just what kind of wife you want, what her qualities should be in order to establish an Islamic and peaceful household, and how you will know who she is.As Muslims, we believe that Allah wants the best for us, and that His Prophet (s.a.w) illustrated this through of his own life. So note that by following the advise of our own Creator, and that of His beloved servant, we can only be successful.

WHO TO MARRY

Islam is clear on the kind of wife you should be seeking. The Prophet (s.a.w) said: "A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status, her beauty, and her religion; so try to get one who is religious, that may you be blessed." This specifically defines just what kind of a companion we are seeking, for if we marry her for anything other than her religious piety, our marriage is bound to fall into misery.

True, beauty and charm is hard to resist, yet beauty does not last forever and does not guarantee you her obedience and religiousness. Financial status is dynamic, and so is worldly status, yet religion strongly establishes a household, and it may be that through your intention of marrying her for her religion, the rest is given to you anyway. In another hadith, the Prophet (s.a.w) said: “The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman." Imagine! Nothing in this world is as valuable as a pious woman! This point has been stressed many times by Rasulallah (s.a.w), who himself, when asked what three things he loved the most, mentioned a pious woman. Once the following ayah was revealed: "They who hoard up gold and silver and do not spend it in the way of Allah, unto them give tidings of a painful doom. On that day when it will (all) be heated in the fire of Jahannam, and their foreheads and flanks and their backs will be branded therewith (and it will be said to them): 'Here is what you hoarded for yourselves, now taste of what you used to hoard' "[Surah Al-Taubah: 34-35].

Umar (r.a.) has been quoted to say that, when this ayah was revealed, he approached the Prophet (s.a.w), submitting that the ayah weighed heavily on the minds of the Sahaba. Rasulallah (s.a.w) replied that the best thing to be treasured is the devoted wife who causes pleasure when seen, obeys orders instantly and takes full care of herself and herhusband’s property when he is away. Abu Bakr once asked Rasulallah (s.a.w) what was the best thing to be treasured, and he (s.a.w) replied: “the tongue in remembrance of Allah, the heart filled with thanks to Allah and a pious wife who helps in virtuous deeds". Look at how valuable such a woman is in the sight of Allah! How can a man live unhappily with such a person.

QUALITIES OF THE PIOUS WOMAN

Alright, you say, you've convinced me, but what actually makes her a pious woman? The answer is simple: Allah himself has described those qualities most loved by Him in the Qur'an, and in the hadith there are numerous accounts of the virtuousattributes of a pious woman. The following are some ayahs on the attributes of the wife you should be seeking, so note those fine and appreciative qualities. "And women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity"[Surah An-Noor, v.26]"Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husbands) absence what Allah would have them guard"[Surah An-Nisa, v.34]"It may be, if he divorced you (all), that Allah will give him in exchange consorts better than you, who submit (Muslims), who believe, who are devout, who turn to Allah in repentance, who worship (in humility), who travel (for faith) and fast..."[Surah Al-Tahreem,v.5].And then, in surah Ahzab is a full list of those qualities loved by Allah, qualities which by the way should be evident in both males and females. So, my dear brother, choose her for the following attributes:
  • A Muslim woman
  • A believing woman
  • A devout woman
  • A true woman
  • A woman who is patient and constant
  • A woman who humbles herself§
  • woman who gives charity
  • A woman who fasts and denies herself
  • A woman who guards her chastity
  • A woman who engages much in Allah's praise.
Among the four known perfect women was Mariyam. She was loved by Allah because of her religious qualities: "O Mariyam! Worship your Lord: prostrate yourself, and bow down (in prayer) with those who bow down"[Surah Al-Emran, v.43].
Another was the wife of Pharaoh: "And Allah sets forth, as an example to those who believe, the wife of Pharaoh: behold she said: 'O my Lord, build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden' "[Surah Al-Tahreem, v.11].

The Prophet (s.a.w) loved his wives because of their religious qualities. Aisha once related the fine qualities of Zainab: "(Zainab) was the one who was somewhat equal in rank with me in the eyes of Allah's Messenger (s.a.w), and I have never seen a woman more advanced in religious piety than Zainab, more God-conscious, more truthful, more alive to the ties of blood, more generous and having more sense of self-sacrifice in practical life and having more charitable disposition and thus more closer to Allah, the Exalted, than her."

And, you think, but you'll never find such a woman! Well, if that was true, Allah would not have described her in the first place, and furthermore those qualities were emanating from the women described above. Islam deals with reality, not fiction. Sure, the perfect woman doesn't exist, yet "if you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good"[Surah An-Nisa, v.19]. Remember also that you are not perfect either.

KNOWING WHO SHE IS

To find that pious woman, there are two steps to be taken, and that first one relies on your personal observation. In surah Nisaa, Allah asks the believing women that they should "lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments," and also that they "should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments"[Surah An-Nisa, v.31].
If you notice a woman acting modestly, being not too obvious through her actions (by lowering her voice when around men), one who attempts to hide her attractions (which includes her external beauty as well as her internal charms), then you know she has some of those precious qualities. When you see a woman unashamedly flirting, unconcerned about her revealing clothes, and freely converses with males- keep far, far away. I'm sure when you get married you want your wife to devote her love to you, not to twenty other "just good friends".

TRUST IN ALLAH

We are choosing our wife for her permanent values; namely her religious devotions, moral integrity, character etc. But believe me, if we try ourselves to combine a marriage, we are almost sure to fail, because we have no knowledge.

Allah loves a servant when he puts his trust in Him. When we do so, it is illustrating how we rely upon Him for help, and proving our sincerity to Him, establishing that we recognise His infinite knowledge and wisdom.

Islam is likened to being as a house, and in my estimation nothing cements that house together as well as putting our trust in Allah.

It is related on the authority of Jabir ibn 'Abdullah that the Prophet (s.a.w) used to teach his companions to seek, through a special du'a (known as an istikharah), the guidance of Allah in all matters which affected them. Rasulallah (s.a.w) said: "When you are confused about what you should do in a certain situation, then pray two rak'at of nafl salaat and read the following du'a (du'a of istikharah)."

I am surprised at the criticisms thrown at this du'a, and of its negligence. We are humans, powerless in this sphere of life, knowledgeable only enough to survive. So why shouldn't we turn to Allah and seek His perfect help whenever we require it? Allah responds to the call of His servant when he asks for guidance, and we are after all seeking to do something in order to please Him.

Many wrong notions exist concerning istikharah. Many Muslims will pray, read the du'a, and run to bed expecting to see a dream showing them their future wife, what her favourite colour is, and some other weird fantasy. That is not the purpose of this salaat.

The results of an istikharah can take many forms. Basically, you go by your feelings, whether you now feel more favourable or not. Also, you may notice events have changed, either for or against you. Finally, as a wonderful gift from Allah, you may beblessed with a dream. Note that you must follow the results ofan istikharah, because not doing so is tantamount to rejecting Allah's guidance once you've asked for it. Also, you should firstly clear your mind, not have your mind already decided, and then afterwards follow the results willingly.

The Prophet (s.a.w) once sent Zainab a proposal of marriage. She refused to accept the proposal straight away, expressing her intention to refer the matter to Allah: "I do not do anything until I solicit the will of my Lord." Allah, the Responsive, answered her plea for help and revealed an ayah approving of the marriage. We may seem shocked at her refusal to accept a proposal from what is the best husband any woman can have, yetshe was just recognising that it is Allah who knows how successful such a marriage will be, and as a sign of appreciation, that reply is now preserved in our Holy Book: alQur'an.

The Prophet (s.a.w) once said to Aisha: "I saw you in a dream for three nights when an angel brought you to me in a silk cloth and he said: 'Here is your wife', and when I removed (the cloth) from your face, lo, it was yourself, so I said: 'if this is from Allah, let Him carry it out' ".

Marriage is a serious step, and requires the right attitude. If marriage completes half our faith, shouldn't that half be the best half? A woman married for the wrong reasons can only weaken the Muslim household. Consider that she will be your life-long companion, the rearer of your children. Don't marry her for her worldly wealth, but for her wealth in Islamic wisdom and knowledge. Her status in this life is but illusionary, so choose her for her status in the sight of Allah. Beauty is but superficial, but the beauty of Iman is transcendent.

When asking Allah for a wife, call upon Him by His beautiful names, as He has commanded us: "For Allah are certain and dignified names: therefore call upon Him by them"[Surah Al-Araf, v.189]. Ask for a companion who is devout, pious, patient and so on. Be among those who say: "Our Lord may our spouses and our offspring be a joy to our eyes and make us leaders of the righteous"[Surah Al-Furqan, 74].

I cannot provide a better conclusion than saying that you must put your trust in Allah. You must have trust in His concern for us, and His ability to help us. Allah says: "Put your trust in Allah, for Allah loves those who put their trust in Him"[Surah Al-Emran, v.159].

May Allah help us in our sincere efforts in following His commandments and the way of His beloved servant, and provide us with wives whom He loves.

"When my servants ask you concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I respond to the prayer of every supplicant when he calls on me: let them also, with a will, listen to my call, and believe in me: that they may walk in the right way"[Surah Al-Baqarah, v.186].
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limitless
01-01-2007, 07:54 PM
thanks, but there is/was a post like this awhile ago.
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carpetguy
06-14-2007, 11:20 PM
For all those who are looking for a partner, a few things to bare in mind:

1. sum1 who will be a good daughter/son to the inlaws (works bothways)
2. sum1 who will be a good and patient husband wife as all ppl are different and if you dont like someting about your partner always think of a good aspect about them.
3. sum1 who will hold their responsibilities in a good manner be it in the home or the workplace.
4. sum1 who will be a good parent and teach each other and the children about islam
5. sum1 who will be willing to take advice aswell as give it.

HOPE THIS HELPS
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lyesh
06-14-2007, 11:27 PM
:sl:

jazakAllah khair!!! :D good tips!
but,can I pleeeeez add one more point... lol

6. someone who's parents are understanding, loving and caring for their son/ daughter in law.
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iwuvaziaf
06-14-2007, 11:30 PM
please also refer to:-

http://www.islamicboard.com/marriage...tible-not.html
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 07:36 AM
:sl:

Also these are rather handy:

1) Someone who will cook different dishes for me everyday.
2) Someone who eventually will live with 3 other different nationaly sisters.
3) Someone who will dress real nice :D
4) Someone who will sleep on the sofa when she makes me angry
5) Someone who does not speak arabic, urdru, punjabi
6) Someone that will take care of herself by not putting on weight and become like an obese whale.
7) Someone who does not want kids.
8) Someone who likes having a 'kept' partner.
9) Somoeone who works.
10) Someone who does not have links with KSA, Pakistan, india, bangladesh especially Yemen
11) Someone who respects your private space.
12) Someone who loves sci-fi.

etc...hehe.



:w:
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skhalid
06-15-2007, 08:14 AM
Hbot 5000 lol

me....
1. Someone who will do all the chores around the house so I can put my feet up, do my nails and pamper myself for them ofcourse :D

2. Someone who is understanding and trustworthy and who wouldn't do anything to hurt me, or my feelings.

3. Someone who wants plenty of children

4. Someone who is only for me no other women...i wont share NO

5. Someone who is well educated and who will raise our kids in a good manner (P.S. educated but not a snob lol)

6. Someone who can get on with my family and friends

7. Someone who is honest, loving and good looking :X

8. Someone who always let me win the debates we have (i'm always right lol)

9. Someone who puts me first...infront of all his other responsibilities, whethers it work or football match. :)

10. Someone who will stay home and comfort me when I'm unwell....(and it doesn't end there lol) :thumbs_up
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iwuvaziaf
06-15-2007, 09:50 AM
plz brothers stop encouraging each other.. It is meant to be a serious thread...

Now would we really see you guyz going to propose and asking these question.. i mean, really?

I dont think so!

wsalamaleykum

p.s. as for kids, Allah gives some plenty, some one, some none.. so what you want is the expectations u r setting for urself.. isnt there a chance of disappointment there... avoid it!
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rushsjilbab
06-15-2007, 09:54 AM
:sl:
jazakallah khair for the first post :)

:w:
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skhalid
06-15-2007, 10:26 AM
okay we'l stop the jowkez lol...your rite dis is serious.....and inshallah every aspect i mentioned i shall get and others ..ameeeen*
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carpetguy
06-15-2007, 11:01 AM
yes brothers please this was supposed to be serious to help us better ourselves and for us to go into marriage with an understanding. i hope it helps and please read carefullyt and think about each point.

may allah make us all pious muslims, may allah help all those with health/wealth issues, and may allah halp all muslims being picked on.

ameen
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carpetguy
06-15-2007, 11:57 AM
also sisters please try to avoid muslim sites, as brothers arnt what they seem.
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nelly
06-15-2007, 12:04 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HBot 5000
:sl:

Also these are rather handy:

1) Someone who will cook different dishes for me everyday.
2) Someone who eventually will live with 3 other different nationaly sisters.
3) Someone who will dress real nice :D
4) Someone who will sleep on the sofa when she makes me angry
5) Someone who does not speak arabic, urdru, punjabi
6) Someone that will take care of herself by not putting on weight and become like an obese whale.
7) Someone who does not want kids.
8) Someone who likes having a 'kept' partner.
9) Somoeone who works.
10) Someone who does not have links with KSA, Pakistan, india, bangladesh especially Yemen
11) Someone who respects your private space.
12) Someone who loves sci-fi.

etc...hehe.



:w:
I wish you the best of luck on finding your perfect wife (if she exists):D
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rozeena
06-15-2007, 12:56 PM
lol! r u being seriouse?
format_quote Originally Posted by HBot 5000
:sl:

Also these are rather handy:

1) Someone who will cook different dishes for me everyday.
2) Someone who eventually will live with 3 other different nationaly sisters.
3) Someone who will dress real nice :D
4) Someone who will sleep on the sofa when she makes me angry
5) Someone who does not speak arabic, urdru, punjabi
6) Someone that will take care of herself by not putting on weight and become like an obese whale.
7) Someone who does not want kids.
8) Someone who likes having a 'kept' partner.
9) Somoeone who works.
10) Someone who does not have links with KSA, Pakistan, india, bangladesh especially Yemen
11) Someone who respects your private space.
12) Someone who loves sci-fi.

etc...hehe.



:w:
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 01:56 PM
I will throw my rule book out of the window if the sister knows how to cook sea food. I do love sea food mmmmmm

:)
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rozeena
06-15-2007, 02:03 PM
oki doki!
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Aziaf
06-15-2007, 02:13 PM
:D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl:

Clearly the Hbot 5000 pressure chamber is having some effet on ya brain....

I will throw my rule book out of the window if the sister knows how to cook sea food. I do love sea food mmmmmm
The only thing that needs to be thrown out the window is your notion of a so called 'wife' ....

What to look for in a partner? ...well if your Hbot 5000 a Brazilain lady who is a millionaire Delia smith type SPECIALISING IN SEA FOOD AND OWNS AN OCEAN, who looks like Niomi Cambell, likes DFS ( a sofa store)who doesnt want to be a to fuflil her natural right as a mother...keeps to herself and works so will therefore be away from him as much as possible giving hime his so called private space as others dont like HAVING A SO CALLED 'private space', wil spend hiS money on looking perfect (plastic surgery INCLUDED ) and might even encourage him to do it as she thinkS her beauty shoudl be matched..someone who thinks hes 'kept' Ahemmmm...someone who loves sci fi......:? ?ooohhh i get it..u want AN ALIEn WIFE!!!!:phew




:w: :D :w: :D :w: :D :D
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IbnAbdulHakim
06-15-2007, 02:14 PM
how much weight should we give to appearance when searching? seriously?
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iwuvaziaf
06-15-2007, 02:23 PM
hahahahaa to u aziaf!!!

girl u killed it! bruv is quiet now.. bless u .. sumtimes ur gab entertains me :D other times it just entertains me too much.. lol

wah wah kuriye!!!
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Salama
06-15-2007, 02:27 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim
how much weight should we give to appearance when searching? seriously?

I dont think appearance is a big deal well atleast to me ..as long as da person is MashAllah religoius and abides by the rules of Allah and lives by it n oh with a job!!!
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rozeena
06-15-2007, 02:39 PM
i fink appearnce shouldnt be given tooooo much weight! altho if v say that v dont mind hw da person looks at ALL! then we'd probably b lying
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IbnAbdulHakim
06-15-2007, 02:41 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by rozeena
i fink appearnce shouldnt be given tooooo much weight! altho if v say that v dont mind hw da person looks at ALL! then we'd probably b lying
exactly

i wanted to actually hear from some brothers lol. what do the brothers think? should we go for someone who we think is very religious and forget about the looks?

ive never tried it so wouldnt know anything about it :hiding:
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rozeena
06-15-2007, 02:42 PM
oh sorry! i thought u were askin evri1 lol!
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IbnAbdulHakim
06-15-2007, 02:45 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by rozeena
oh sorry! i thought u were askin evri1 lol!
naa its good to keep in mind what sisters think, this way i can understand my own sisters better.

but i want to know if i will be doing something wrong if i care about appearance because its a family thing (well in my family) that going for a good looking girl is shameful.. for example say a girl was proposed and we rejected even tho shes religious becoz we feel nothing then we wud be looked down at etc so i was wondering islamically are we wrong in rejecting someone based on appearance? :?
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rozeena
06-15-2007, 02:54 PM
2 b honest i dont know if its wrong islamically. But i dont think ppl shud b luked dwn on if rejecting sum1. cus at the end of the day that individual will be spending their life with that person.
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IbnAbdulHakim
06-15-2007, 02:56 PM
ok jazakAllah khair coz i know a bro who rejected a girl who was really good simply coz he felt nothing for her but now his sisters are going crazy on him coz they really liked the girl lol. he actually was about to say yes purely under pressure but i stopped him from doing that out of worry for his marriage...

now im wondering if i dun the right thing

jazakAllah khhiar for your answers :)
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rozeena
06-15-2007, 03:04 PM
i fink its wrong for his sisters to go crazy on him cuz den his guna obviosly feel bad that he didnt listen to his family. I personaly fink ppl shud luk at the personality and then the luks. the person doesnt exactly have 2 b all dat bt as long as they gt a gud personality and r nt a bad person either. n dey need 2 b able to communicate DATS A MAJOR FING! LOL.


format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim
ok jazakAllah khair coz i know a bro who rejected a girl who was really good simply coz he felt nothing for her but now his sisters are going crazy on him coz they really liked the girl lol. he actually was about to say yes purely under pressure but i stopped him from doing that out of worry for his marriage...

now im wondering if i dun the right thing

jazakAllah khhiar for your answers :)
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IbnAbdulHakim
06-15-2007, 03:28 PM
sis rozeena do sisters really not care about looks? :? my sister said many times before she doesnt care but i wonder if she means it lol...
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rozeena
06-15-2007, 03:32 PM
lol! well it depends on the individual really. i do care bout the luks but its nt a major fing if u knw wt i mean theres mayb sum gals who totaly dont care bowt luks and some gals that fink the guy has 2 b good lukin n da rest dnt mata.it depends. isyour sister very religiouse???
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 05:47 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Aziaf
:D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl:

Clearly the Hbot 5000 pressure chamber is having some effet on ya brain....



The only thing that needs to be thrown out the window is your notion of a so called 'wife' ....

What to look for in a partner? ...well if your Hbot 5000 a Brazilain lady who is a millionaire Delia smith type SPECIALISING IN SEA FOOD AND OWNS AN OCEAN, who looks like Niomi Cambell, likes DFS ( a sofa store)who doesnt want to be a to fuflil her natural right as a mother...keeps to herself and works so will therefore be away from him as much as possible giving hime his so called private space as others dont like HAVING A SO CALLED 'private space', wil spend hiS money on looking perfect (plastic surgery INCLUDED ) and might even encourage him to do it as she thinkS her beauty shoudl be matched..someone who thinks hes 'kept' Ahemmmm...someone who loves sci fi......:? ?ooohhh i get it..u want AN ALIEn WIFE!!!!:phew




:w: :D :w: :D :w: :D :D
Azaif my comments on matrimonial threads such as this are to be taken rather lightly and no one should be offended by them...hehe..:okay:

I am the matrimonial expert and i boast a 100% success rate (in not getting you you're dream partner)

You know Alien women? man that would be so sweet! get a green woman from orion 5 :okay:

Right just because of you insolence i am reinstating my rules and going to give some more attributes one should look out for:

1. Someone who weighs no more than 10 stone. The slightest deviation will result in termination formely known as divorce.
2. When i get home from work she has my food, my bath, slippers & evening clothes ready.
3. Someone who does not go into private areas designated for males only - most likely going to be all of the house except the kitchen, bathroom and bedroom.
4. She must smell like sweet nectar all the time.
5. She must not invite any of her female friends round to talk to.
6. Someone who accepts one day off in every month to relax.
7. She must not go near my xbox 360.
8. She must not go near my high spec pc.
9. She must not go near my collection of dvd's especially the sci-fi. If she dares to defile them (especially my star trek & babylon 5 collection) she will be flogged and divorced quickly.
10. She must drive only to the shop and back.
11. When i am not with her she must await my return my thinking about me constantly.
12. She must cook the most wonderful sea food. If i ever get ill she will be divorced.
13. She must not want to have kids. My wife is for me to enjoy and no one else including ugly babies and ugly cats etc must have her affection.

more please ask....:thumbs_up
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ummAbdillah
06-15-2007, 05:54 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim
how much weight should we give to appearance when searching? seriously?
:sl:
appearence is'nt everything but is very important that you're actualy attracted to your husband/wife.
:w:
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 06:06 PM
She must be beautiful! Mingers don't apply.
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 06:09 PM
sounds like all you sisters agree with me because i have not got an earful yet. :thumbs_up

^I win :muslimah:
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Aziaf
06-15-2007, 06:34 PM
:D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl:

She must be beautiful! Mingers don't apply.
......In your world Aliens are beautiful.wotever they look like. I wasnt being isolent just sarcy

sounds like all you sisters agree with me because i have not got an earful yet.

^I win
Its not a compitition.... Dont take our silence as our weekness, or assume youve won.we just recognise a lost case when we see one and let them be.

u dont wana get married n you have some disturbing preferences...so?
Get over it.

:w: :D :w: :D :w: :D :w: :D :w: :D :D :w: :D :w: :D :w:
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 06:38 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Aziaf
:D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl: :D :sl:



......In your world Aliens are beautiful.wotever they look like. I wasnt being isolent just sarcy



Its not a compitition.... Dont take our silence as our weekness, or assume youve won.we just recognise a lost case when we see one and let them be.

u dont wana get married n you have some disturbing preferences...so?
Get over it.

:w: :D :w: :D :w: :D :w: :D :w: :D :D :w: :D :w: :D :w:
I'm over it :D and your silence indicates you know i'm right! Azaif :muslimah: seriously go into the bathroom and check your weight for the sake of your future partner :omg: :X
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iwuvaziaf
06-15-2007, 06:46 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HBot 5000
She must be beautiful! Mingers don't apply.
Astaghfirullah! u might get caught out for that, whops!

format_quote Originally Posted by HBot 5000
sounds like all you sisters agree with me because i have not got an earful yet. :thumbs_up

^I win :muslimah:
u win? plzzzz! if u quite finish talkin and give others a chance to speak we might will..

gosh.. when u r online.. marriage sections shud be avoided.. Its good u r so involved in the marriage section and putting ur needs across coz maybe just maybe sumbody will be so deluded to marry u..

Ya Allah khair! i definitely am praying for u as i wud pray for all my brothers and sisters!

wsalam
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 06:48 PM
deluded to marry u..
Omg is their a chance? wait one more condition:

Her home planet must be rigel 5.

Would you say their is any chance now?
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iwuvaziaf
06-15-2007, 06:52 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HBot 5000
Omg is their a chance? wait one more condition:

Her home planet must be rigel 5.

Would you say their is any chance now?
rigel 5:?
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iwuvaziaf
06-15-2007, 06:55 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HBot 5000
I'm over it :D and your silence indicates you know i'm right! Azaif :muslimah: seriously go into the bathroom and check your weight for the sake of your future partner :omg: :X
astaghfirullah! Allah karay isko bhains jaisay biwi milay!

i hope u dnt know urdu! yikes!
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 06:59 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by iwuvaziaf
astaghfirullah! Allah karay isko bhains jaisay biwi milay!

i hope u dnt know urdu! yikes!

Urdu hey 1 sec (my m8 is teaching me)

Allah karay tum ku mohta kawand (pati) mliay - hehe badmash

(English, Arabic, German, urdu, punjabi, guji you won't get away with hehe )
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Aziaf
06-15-2007, 07:11 PM
yes brothers please this was supposed to be serious to help us better ourselves and for us to go into marriage with an understanding. i hope it helps and please read carefullyt and think about each point.

may allah make us all pious muslims, may allah help all those with health/wealth issues, and may allah halp all muslims being picked on.
Ameeeennnnn..said Hbot 5000
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Muezzin
06-15-2007, 07:13 PM
People, this insulting/flirting I'm seeing going on will be deleted it if it carries on, and warnings issued.
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 07:14 PM
^lol flirting/insulting wabbit?
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IbnAbdulHakim
06-15-2007, 07:18 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by rozeena
lol! well it depends on the individual really. i do care bout the luks but its nt a major fing if u knw wt i mean theres mayb sum gals who totaly dont care bowt luks and some gals that fink the guy has 2 b good lukin n da rest dnt mata.it depends. isyour sister very religiouse???
Alhamdulillah she tries practise and avoids everything we know to be haram and wants a fully bearded brother etc etc.

so ye my guess is u cud call her someone trying to practise.


i guess girls and boys are totally different, subhanAllah.
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iwuvaziaf
06-15-2007, 07:21 PM
:rollseyes
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 07:22 PM
:rollseyes :skeleton:
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Muezzin
06-15-2007, 07:22 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HBot 5000
^lol flirting/insulting wabbit?
I may well have misinterpreted it. Just try not to get too 'familiar' with the opposite gender on the forum :)
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HBot 5000
06-15-2007, 07:25 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Muezzin
I may well have misinterpreted it. Just try not to get too 'familiar' with the opposite gender on the forum :)
^ok 'doc'
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Noor
06-15-2007, 08:06 PM
AsalamuAlaikum,


As a member who has been on this site for a long time, I'm disappointed beyond belief about the attitudes, mannerism, down right degrading replies I have been witnessing on this section of the forums.

If you don’t have respect for yourself, have respect for your fellow Muslim. Avoid posting unbeneficial comments. Remember you are Muslim always, not only when you enter a Masjid but on a secondly basis. Even behind the computer screen, one should always fear Allah swt.

Completely disgusted at your behaviour and your way of interacting with the opposite gender. You are not in the private sections. I wish not to lecture but to remind myself first and others of our ultimate goals.


Wa'ALaikumSalaam
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carpetguy
06-15-2007, 09:21 PM
i agree brother to the last reply. please refer to the 1st post and leave sensible comments to help better ourselves
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muslima-layla
06-17-2007, 03:47 PM
huh huh huh huh VEry nice!
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jannat
06-17-2007, 10:15 PM
:sl:

i agree with first post and please becareful of what u say. like one of the sisters said, i must remind and advise myself first before i tell others off.


:w:
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saira-k
06-19-2007, 10:18 PM
lol haha aziaf
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ummAbdillah
06-19-2007, 10:23 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Noor
AsalamuAlaikum,


As a member who has been on this site for a long time, I'm disappointed beyond belief about the attitudes, mannerism, down right degrading replies I have been witnessing on this section of the forums.

If you don’t have respect for yourself, have respect for your fellow Muslim. Avoid posting unbeneficial comments. Remember you are Muslim always, not only when you enter a Masjid but on a secondly basis. Even behind the computer screen, one should always fear Allah swt.

Completely disgusted at your behaviour and your way of interacting with the opposite gender. You are not in the private sections. I wish not to lecture but to remind myself first and others of our ultimate goals.


Wa'ALaikumSalaam
:salamext:
MashAllah :)
:w:
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Ummkeenah
07-06-2007, 11:57 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HBot 5000
Azaif my comments on matrimonial threads such as this are to be taken rather lightly and no one should be offended by them...hehe..:okay:

I am the matrimonial expert and i boast a 100% success rate (in not getting you you're dream partner)

You know Alien women? man that would be so sweet! get a green woman from orion 5 :okay:

Right just because of you insolence i am reinstating my rules and going to give some more attributes one should look out for:

1. Someone who weighs no more than 10 stone. The slightest deviation will result in termination formely known as divorce.
2. When i get home from work she has my food, my bath, slippers & evening clothes ready.
3. Someone who does not go into private areas designated for males only - most likely going to be all of the house except the kitchen, bathroom and bedroom.
4. She must smell like sweet nectar all the time.
5. She must not invite any of her female friends round to talk to.
6. Someone who accepts one day off in every month to relax.
7. She must not go near my xbox 360.
8. She must not go near my high spec pc.
9. She must not go near my collection of dvd's especially the sci-fi. If she dares to defile them (especially my star trek & babylon 5 collection) she will be flogged and divorced quickly.
10. She must drive only to the shop and back.
11. When i am not with her she must await my return my thinking about me constantly.
12. She must cook the most wonderful sea food. If i ever get ill she will be divorced.
13. She must not want to have kids. My wife is for me to enjoy and no one else including ugly babies and ugly cats etc must have her affection.

more please ask....:thumbs_up
Thats funny, you proberbly just have a good humor mashallah
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Ummkeenah
07-07-2007, 12:06 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Noor
AsalamuAlaikum,


As a member who has been on this site for a long time, I'm disappointed beyond belief about the attitudes, mannerism, down right degrading replies I have been witnessing on this section of the forums.

If you don’t have respect for yourself, have respect for your fellow Muslim. Avoid posting unbeneficial comments. Remember you are Muslim always, not only when you enter a Masjid but on a secondly basis. Even behind the computer screen, one should always fear Allah swt.

Completely disgusted at your behaviour and your way of interacting with the opposite gender. You are not in the private sections. I wish not to lecture but to remind myself first and others of our ultimate goals.


Wa'ALaikumSalaam
Completly agree sister. mashallah

Asalamu aleikum
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noahs_arc
07-12-2007, 01:09 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HBot 5000
:sl:

Also these are rather handy:

1) Someone who will cook different dishes for me everyday.
2) Someone who eventually will live with 3 other different nationaly sisters.
3) Someone who will dress real nice :D
4) Someone who will sleep on the sofa when she makes me angry
5) Someone who does not speak arabic, urdru, punjabi
6) Someone that will take care of herself by not putting on weight and become like an obese whale.
7) Someone who does not want kids.
8) Someone who likes having a 'kept' partner.
9) Somoeone who works.
10) Someone who does not have links with KSA, Pakistan, india, bangladesh especially Yemen
11) Someone who respects your private space.
12) Someone who loves sci-fi.

etc...hehe.



:w:
no wife should have to make her husband angry. marshallah and NO WAY should she have to sleep on the sofa dude!
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