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Are parents, or a mother allowed to slap, hit and physically hurt a 16-20 yr old guy?
Is this allowed in islam? the reason is just that he was on computer and thats it. Doing nothing bad or anything.
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i jst have few things to say. i think the only time our prophet talks about hitting kids 'lightly' is when they pass the age of ten and continue not to pray salah when u tell them to...so something like being on the computer does not deserve physical abuse, no matter how light it may be.
the fact that his actions do not deserve physical abuse and he wasnt doing anything haram, so its sort of obvious that u got angry and took it out of him.in other words, u did it out of ur rage.
remember that he is a young boy and as children grow up, their individuality and self esteem and self pride grow because they increasingly acomplish things on their own. for u to invade that, will hurt, not only physically, but mentally and ur actions will never be forgotten, even if they are forgiven.
doing that out of ur rage is wrong.remember when (i cant remember who) but one of the sahabes were gna kill someone in war but the man spat in his face and the sahabe changed his mind about killing him. when asked why he did that, he replied, "i was initially gna kill him for Allah, but then, my personal rage got in the way when he spat on me..."
it may be wrong for ur son to disobey u but ask urself...how many times did u warn him to get off the computer?hes only young.hes not perfect...are u perfect as a mum?is he always disobedient and this was the last straw...or could u not bother and thought 'a good slap wud do the job..."
children are our emanah...Allah has trusted us with them.they are not ours to own, keep, control, dictate or use as a stress ball.they are individiuals and slaves of Allah as much as u and all other parents are.
lets be careful with the way we treat our children.if they continue to disobey...make dua and look within urself to see where u made a mistake,in the past or present.look at what u can fix in our life. our children do not mould their own personalities, they are moulded by their surroundings.formely their parents...
(the 'you' i am reffering to is whoever did this or whatever)
that is all.:)
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