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Tilmeez
02-26-2007, 10:17 AM
“Life for Test, Deen is Best, Akhirath for Rest, World Only Dust. If Quran in Chest, Nothing Need Next. Obey Allah First, Success Will Just. Ever Keep Trust. Don’t Leave Me, Don’t Stay Away From Me, Keep Me Inside Your Heart, Read Me, Understand Me, Coz Tomorrow Under the Graveyard You Will Need Me.” - The Quran
Bismillah hir Rehman nir Rahim

Is Your Home an Islamic Home?

"And Allah has made for you in your homes a place of rest..."[An-Nahl:80]
This may seem like an unusual question and your automatic response may be "Why, of course my home is an Islamic Home!! My family is Muslim and that makes our home a Muslim one!!"
Go through this short checklist to determine if your response should really be in the affirmative.
I Have Chosen a Good Spouse

There are several ahadeeth that highlight the importance of choosing a righteous and pious spouse. The wisdom of this is obvious: a pious spouse is more likely to bring happiness and contentment to the other spouse and the couple together will be more able to build a righteous family and home life. This is the foundation of the home.
I Help Guide My Spouse

This begins with each spouse fulfilling the duties and responsibilities of their roles and treating each other with kindness and compassion. It then goes beyond this to include guidance in other spiritual matters such as striving to strengthen imaan; paying attention to worship and correcting it when needed; encouraging the reading of Qur'an, praying at night, giving charity, and reading books on Islam; helping to choose pious friends; enjoining goodness and forbidding evil. Emaan is something that may increase or decrease so it is necessary to continually focus on increasing our own and that of our spouse.
Our Home is a Place for Remembrance of Allah

Remembrance can be in many forms: with the heart, with the tongue, through prayer, recitation of Qur'an, memorizing adhkaar and using them, discussing Islamic issues, or reading Islamic material.
These are things that should occur on a consistent basis so that the angels will come to the home and bring Allah's blessings. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said: "The example of a home in which Allah is remembered and the example of a home in which Allah is not remembered, is like comparing the living and the dead." (Muslim).
Our Home is a Place of Worship

This means that salah is established within the home at its required time and that members of the family pray in congregation when several are present. The family may also designate a specific area for prayer and maintain its uniqueness and cleanliness.
For women, it is better to pray each prayer within the home. For men, it is recommended to pray voluntary prayers at home after having prayed obligatory prayers in the masjid. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said: "The voluntary prayer in the home is better than the voluntary prayer with the people. It is like the obligatory prayer of the man in congregation being better than praying the obligatory by himself." (Sahih al-Jaami). This is to ensure that homes are made places of worship just as the masajids.
We Regularly read Surat Al-Baqarah and Ayatul Kursi to Keep Satan Away

The Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said: "Recite Surat Al-Baqarah in your houses, for the Satan does not enter a house in which Surat Al-Baqarah is recited." (Sahih al-Jaami).
He also said: "When you go to your bed, recite Ayatul Kursi: 'Allah! There is no god but Him, the Ever-Living, the One Who Sustains and Protects all that exists', to the end, for then there will remain over you a guardian from Allah, and Satan will not come near you until morning." (Bukhari).
Teaching and Learning are Ongoing Activities in Our Home

This is primarily the responsibility of the head of die household who must ensure that he is guiding his family to the correct path, enjoining them to do good, and forbidding them from evil. Attaining knowledge is incumbent upon all members of the family and is the basis upon which Emaan will flourish, A study circle should be established in the home that covers the various areas in Islam and from which all family members will benefit. Children should especially be encouraged to participate since this will establish a pattern for them that will be carried throughout their lifetimes.
We Have an Islamic Library in Our Home

This may include such things as books, cassette tapes, and CDs. It is important to choose accurate and reliable material that will benefit the members of the family. There should be a variety of materials to cover all age levels and language needs of those in the home. Arabic material is definitely a must since everyone in the family should either know or be learning to read the language of the Qur'an. Books should cover a variety of topics, be properly organized, and be easily accessible. Audiotapes and CDs may include Qur'an recitation, lectures, khutbahs, tapes for children containing supplications, reminders of Islamic manners, and nasheeds (religious songs with no musical instruments) . Family members should encourage one another to use these materials on a regular basis, and should be shared with other Muslim families who may be in need of them.
We Try to Have Morals and Manners Like Prophet Muhammad

The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said; "When Allah wills some good towards the people of a household. He introduces kindness among them." (Ahmad, Sahih al-Jaami).
He also said: "Allah loves kindness and rewards it in such a way the He does not reward for harshness or for anything else." (Muslim).
There are many examples of the Prophet's kindness and good treatment toward his family that we should try to emulate. He was affectionate and playful with his wives and children and would help with household chores to case the burden for his wives. Following his example will bring tranquility to the home and help to truly make it an abode of rest.
We Know the Islamic Rulings That Pertain to Houses

Such as guarding the secrets of the home, seeking permission to enter, not looking into other people's homes, not allowing children to enter the parent's bedroom during certain times of the day, and not staying alone overnight. This last one is interesting to consider since some husbands travel for their business or work. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wasallam, actually discouraged this. Ibn Umar reported that the Prophet forbade being alone and said that a man should not stay overnight alone or travel alone (Ahmad). Not only will he be alone, but his wife and children are likely to be left alone in the home without any protection or companionship.
We Invite Righteous and Knowledgeable People to Our Home

"My Lord! Forgive me, and my parents, and him who enters my home as a believer, and all the believing men and women." [71:28].
Righteous people who enter your home will bring many benefits due to their presence and conversations with them. They are more likely to discuss useful topics and may be excellent sources of information and knowledge. We should always make du'aa that Allah will bless us with righteous friends since they can have such positive effects on us. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said: "Keep company with a believer only, and let your food be eaten only by the righteous." (Abu Dawud, Tirmithi).
There are No Evils Within Our Home

Television and unlawful music are not allowed in the house; pictures on the wall do not contain animate beings; there are no statues or anything that resembles statues; dogs are not present in the house; smoking is not allowed; decorations are kept simple to avoid excessiveness; the telephone is used for beneficial purposes and not harmful ones (such as gossiping or backbiting); when people come to visit, the men and women sit separately. The effects of these evils on the sanctity of the home should be obvious. For example, the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said: "Angels do not enter a house which has either a dog or a picture in it." (Bukhari).
The Physical Aspects of the Home are Conducive to Fulfilling Religious Obligations

It is best for the home to be close to a mosque so that it will be easier for men to attend the prayers in congregation and for all family members to visit the mosque for lectures, study groups, and social gatherings. It is also advisable to find an area where other Muslims live to obtain the benefits of community. One should definitely be careful about close neighbors and avoid those who are obviously immoral. When choosing a house, consideration should be made regarding the availability of separate sitting areas for men and women. The house should be spacious and fulfil safety and health requirements. The WC in the toilet should not be in the direction of “the Qibla”.
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TABS19
02-26-2007, 11:05 AM
Television and unlawful music are not allowed in the house
How many Muslims on this forum can actually say that they do not have a T.V and for those who do only watch it for News/weather and not for soaps?
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nelly
02-26-2007, 11:08 AM
Im sorry 2 say i do hav a tv, and my kids watch their cartoons. And IM not even gona lie i do watch my soaps, but i am tryin 2 cut dwn.
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IbnAbdulHakim
02-26-2007, 11:09 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by TABS19
How many Muslims on this forum can actually say that they do not have a T.V and for those who do only watch it for News/weather and not for soaps?
well its hardly eva on unless someone wants to watch islam channel. so :-\
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Pk_#2
02-26-2007, 11:11 AM
^^ yeah i don't watch it...hardly...

no soaps ewwy!
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nelly
02-26-2007, 11:12 AM
SORRY!!!!!!!!!!!!! we'e not all perfect
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IbnAbdulHakim
02-26-2007, 11:13 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by nelly
SORRY!!!!!!!!!!!!! we'e not all perfect
:salamext:

neither are we sis, its all about just doing it step by step, rememba we can have a 100000000000000000000000000000 inch plasma HUGE screen tv in heaven :D
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IceQueen~
02-26-2007, 11:13 AM
we don't watch TV
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nelly
02-26-2007, 11:14 AM
wow!!!!!!!! I dnt think i'll be bothered about tv then!
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02-26-2007, 11:17 AM
:sl:

TV...hmmm....used to watch bare stuff...but now its mostly World Pool Championship (U know...the one thats a bit like snooker lol) and Islam Channel and Football..thats about it lol...

:w:
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nelly
02-26-2007, 11:23 AM
but is there really anythin wrong wiv a havin a tv nas long as ur not watchin inappropriate things, for example sports
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IbnAbdulHakim
02-26-2007, 11:27 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by nelly
but is there really anythin wrong wiv a havin a tv nas long as ur not watchin inappropriate things, for example sports
sports.... what would you think of men watching womens tennis :-[
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nelly
02-26-2007, 11:29 AM
i dnt no about that 1
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Helena
02-26-2007, 11:40 AM
TV is available in every households....its up to the parents how TV is shown/advertised to the child....allowing to know the advantages and disadvantages of it...

TV can be used to watch the worldly news, islamic channels.....
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nelly
02-26-2007, 11:46 AM
but is it ok 4 kids 2 watch cartoons
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IbnAbdulHakim
02-26-2007, 11:47 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by nelly
but is it ok 4 kids 2 watch cartoons
i monitor the cartoons etc that my nephews/nieces watch :X because i dont want no kaafir mentality engrained in them
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Helena
02-26-2007, 11:52 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim
i monitor the cartoons etc that my nephews/nieces watch :X because i dont want no kaafir mentality engrained in them
erm be patient ibnabdulhakim.....

from my point of you...it depends wot the child is watching when he/she is left alone with the new piece of technology...

it is a duty upon the parents to monitor, and sit with the child ad watch the program and explain is some scenes are disturbing...e.g simpson, pokemon, power rangers.....

some cartoons appear to be animated but can be directed for the adults...e.g simpsons....

and introduce ur child to islamic cartoons...have couple in ur house...e.g habil cabil, adams world, the message...
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IceQueen~
02-26-2007, 11:58 AM
true^
'cartoons' doesn't 'equal' for kids

we don't watch TV but the kids watch kiddy videos -I'd rather they did something else like go to the park or something because they'd enjoy that much more and its way healthier

if you take something from kids you need to give them an alternative
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Pk_#2
02-26-2007, 12:02 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim
sports.... what would you think of men watching womens tennis :-[
or men watching football :-\

they wear shorts,

a mans awrah is from the navel upto his knees

Astaghfirullah.

Peace
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nelly
02-26-2007, 12:04 PM
i take my kids 2 the park and play games wiv them but on the odd occasion wen they r at home and im busy i let them watch things like tom and jerry, teletubbies and things like that. I wouldnt put simpsons on coz they r 4 adults
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IbnAbdulHakim
02-26-2007, 12:27 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by |)431)M1
or men watching football :-\

they wear shorts,

a mans awrah is from the navel upto his knees

Astaghfirullah.

Peace

arent men allowed to see awrah of other men :? :? :?
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nelly
02-26-2007, 12:29 PM
but ur not watchin it in the sense of lookin at the other sex in that way, ur watchin it coz u like the sport!!!!!!!
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S_87
02-26-2007, 01:22 PM
:sl:


nelly that reasoning can be used for anything if yo think about it.
ibnabdulhakim, no men cannot see the awrah of other men.
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nelly
02-26-2007, 01:25 PM
so basically it is not allowed then
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Talha777
02-26-2007, 09:28 PM
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

Alhamdulillah, this is excellent advice and instruction brought up by our dear friend, brother Tilmeez. I would like to humbly submit a few additional points regarding the house:

First and foremost, it should be clean and tidy. Wife and female children should vacuum, broom, mop, dust, etc., on a weekly basis. Kitchen should be cleaned daily, and washrooms should also have utmost maintainance. The house of a Mumin should stand out as an examplary model. Allah Tala has taught us the excellent prayer in the Holy Quran regarding the household and family:

وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

And those who pray, "Our Lord! Grant us of our wives and children the delight of our eyes, and make us a model for the righteous."
[Al-Furqan 25:74]

This is an excellent prayer with regard to the family which everyone should memorize: Wa allathina yaquluna rabana hab lana min azwajina wathuriyatina qurata ayunin waijalna lilmutaqina imama

Cleanliness is very important in Islam. Our Holy Prophet, Hadhrat Nabi [salallahu alaihi wa salam] has mentioned that cleanliness is half of our faith. Therefore, all Muslims should strive to be Mutatahirin (clean people), and fulfil the injunction of the Holy Quran:

إِنَّ اللّهَ يُحِبُّ التَّوَّابِينَ وَيُحِبُّ الْمُتَطَهِّرِينَ

For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean [Al-Baqarah 2:222]

Jazak Allah khair
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iqbal_soofi
02-26-2007, 09:59 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Talha777

Alhamdulillah, this is excellent advice and instruction brought up by our dear friend, brother Tilmeez. I would like to humbly submit a few additional points regarding the house:

First and foremost, it should be clean and tidy. Wife and female children should vacuum, broom, mop, dust, etc., on a weekly basis. Kitchen should be cleaned daily, and washrooms should also have utmost maintainance. The house of a Mumin should stand out as an examplary model. Allah Tala has taught us the excellent prayer in the Holy Quran regarding the household and family:

Cleanliness is very important in Islam. Our Holy Prophet, Hadhrat Nabi [salallahu alaihi wa salam] has mentioned that cleanliness is half of our faith. Therefore, all Muslims should strive to be Mutatahirin (clean people), and fulfil the injunction of the Holy Quran:
Excellent. A neat and clean home is the best home. Also there's no harm if male members also clean their home sometimes. It's not kuffer if they do it.
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teen-gurl
03-03-2007, 04:56 PM
we used 2 have a t.v but we dont now. only my uncles got 1 coz he watches cricket n football :P
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