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maisa
07-25-2005, 11:57 PM
Where in the world, are the Muslim youth getting their
ideals about love, marriage and family?

In Bahrain, a teenage Muslim princess ran away from
her family, her home and country forever, putting her
life in jeopardy in order to marry an American marine
she hardly knew. She made a decision, that she can
never take back, to Iive a life of exile and sin. If
asked why, she did this, she would naturally say she
did it for "love."

Where in the world, are the Muslim youth getting their
ideals about love, marriage and family? Are we turninq
to the Qur'an and the Sunnah of in Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam? Unfortunately, we do not.

In the Indian subcontinent, we're turning to Indian
films; In America and possibly the rest of the world,
we're turning to Hollywood.

Bombay, a famous mainstream Indian film, features a
Muslim girl who falls in love and ultimately marries
Hindu boy. At the beginning of the film, she is shown
in niqab. By the end, she is dressing like a Hindu.
After her family refuses to allow their marriage, the
girl runs away and does not speak to them for six
years. At the end her parents come to her and all are
happy.

Hollywood, one of the largest influences in the world,
plays a huge role in the formation of concepts about
love, marriage, and family. These films portray men
and women who are "in love." And yet, often times the
individual they "love" will be someone they just saw
or spoke to briefly. Suddenly, however they are
willing to lose their spouse, their family, their job,
their life, and even their Lord. It is, therefore,
more correct to say that they make these sacrifices
because their desires have become their God. Allah
speaks of these people when He says: “Then seest thou
such a one as takes as his god his own vain desire?
Allah has knowing (him as such), left him astray, and
sealed his hearing and his heart (and understanding),
and put a cover on his sight. Who, then, will guide
him after Allah (has withdrawn guidance)? Will ye not
then receive admonition?” [45:23]

But yet these very same people that Allah has
described in His book as most astray have become our
example and ideal. In 1998, Titanic, grossing more
than 1 billion dollars in sales worldwide, became the
most popular movie across the globe. The story
features a young girl of age 17 who is engaged to be
married. After meeting and ultimately falling in love
with another man, the young girl cheats on her fiance
and disobeys her mother. Both the mother and the
fiance are shown as superficial in order to make her
disloyalty more acceptable.

The messages of these films are very penetrating. The
most powerful message is: if you sacrifice for "love",
all will be well in the end. In other words, if you
disregard your religion, your farmily, your God,
following only your desires, you will be rewarded in
the end.

If we look to America, we can see the clear effects of
these misshapen concepts. 'Why has divorce reached the
unprecedented rate of 40-60%? I believe the answer
lies in the misconstrued definition of what true love
and marriage actually is. These movies feature the
wedding as the end of the movie, and thus marriage is
seen as the end of a love story, rather than the
beginning.

What effect does this have on our society, on our
youth in particular? Who are the victims of these
misconstrued ideals? What is the basis of the "love"
portrayed in these movies? What criterion will young
Muslims affected by these images use when choosing a
spouse? Will they follow the Sunnah of the Prophet,
sallallalhu alayhi wa sallam, who says the one who
marries for deen is blessed? Or, will they base their
choice on an empty, fleeting attraction disguised as
"love"? If the youth begin to choose their spouses
based on this ephemeral emotion rather than on deen,
what effect will that have on the Ummah as a whole?
Will not more families be broken due to divorce and
strife? Will not more youth be forced to cut ties with
their families (assuming they do not agree)? Will not
more children be raised far from Islam?

Thus, we should be aware and guard ourselves and our
children from this deceptive tool of Satan. Allah
describes those people who only follow their desires
numerous times throughout the Qur'an. Let us not be
among those who Allah describes as most astray and let
those not become our ideals. "Who is more astray than
one who follows his own lusts, devoid of guidance from
Allah? For Allah guides not people given to
wrongdoing"
[28: 50] Al Jumuah - Vol 13 Issue 8/9


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NooralHaya
07-25-2005, 11:59 PM
subhanAllah =\ i've seen some parents who try their best but their children are REAL rebellious subhanAllah, i dont know what to think of that. then there are just those parents who indulge in these very things then try to tell their children not to [?]
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rsx
07-26-2005, 01:02 AM
Originally Posted by maisa
Where in the world, are the Muslim youth getting their
ideals about love, marriage and family?

In Bahrain, a teenage Muslim princess ran away from
her family, her home and country forever, putting her
life in jeopardy in order to marry an American marine
she hardly knew. She made a decision, that she can
never take back, to Iive a life of exile and sin. If
asked why, she did this, she would naturally say she
did it for "love."

Where in the world, are the Muslim youth getting their
ideals about love, marriage and family? Are we turninq
to the Qur'an and the Sunnah of in Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam? Unfortunately, we do not.

In the Indian subcontinent, we're turning to Indian
films; In America and possibly the rest of the world,
we're turning to Hollywood.

Bombay, a famous mainstream Indian film, features a
Muslim girl who falls in love and ultimately marries
Hindu boy. At the beginning of the film, she is shown
in niqab. By the end, she is dressing like a Hindu.
After her family refuses to allow their marriage, the
girl runs away and does not speak to them for six
years. At the end her parents come to her and all are
happy.

Hollywood, one of the largest influences in the world,
plays a huge role in the formation of concepts about
love, marriage, and family. These films portray men
and women who are "in love." And yet, often times the
individual they "love" will be someone they just saw
or spoke to briefly. Suddenly, however they are
willing to lose their spouse, their family, their job,
their life, and even their Lord. It is, therefore,
more correct to say that they make these sacrifices
because their desires have become their God. Allah
speaks of these people when He says: “Then seest thou
such a one as takes as his god his own vain desire?
Allah has knowing (him as such), left him astray, and
sealed his hearing and his heart (and understanding),
and put a cover on his sight. Who, then, will guide
him after Allah (has withdrawn guidance)? Will ye not
then receive admonition?” [45:23]

But yet these very same people that Allah has
described in His book as most astray have become our
example and ideal. In 1998, Titanic, grossing more
than 1 billion dollars in sales worldwide, became the
most popular movie across the globe. The story
features a young girl of age 17 who is engaged to be
married. After meeting and ultimately falling in love
with another man, the young girl cheats on her fiance
and disobeys her mother. Both the mother and the
fiance are shown as superficial in order to make her
disloyalty more acceptable.

The messages of these films are very penetrating. The
most powerful message is: if you sacrifice for "love",
all will be well in the end. In other words, if you
disregard your religion, your farmily, your God,
following only your desires, you will be rewarded in
the end.

If we look to America, we can see the clear effects of
these misshapen concepts. 'Why has divorce reached the
unprecedented rate of 40-60%? I believe the answer
lies in the misconstrued definition of what true love
and marriage actually is. These movies feature the
wedding as the end of the movie, and thus marriage is
seen as the end of a love story, rather than the
beginning.

What effect does this have on our society, on our
youth in particular? Who are the victims of these
misconstrued ideals? What is the basis of the "love"
portrayed in these movies? What criterion will young
Muslims affected by these images use when choosing a
spouse? Will they follow the Sunnah of the Prophet,
sallallalhu alayhi wa sallam, who says the one who
marries for deen is blessed? Or, will they base their
choice on an empty, fleeting attraction disguised as
"love"? If the youth begin to choose their spouses
based on this ephemeral emotion rather than on deen,
what effect will that have on the Ummah as a whole?
Will not more families be broken due to divorce and
strife? Will not more youth be forced to cut ties with
their families (assuming they do not agree)? Will not
more children be raised far from Islam?

Thus, we should be aware and guard ourselves and our
children from this deceptive tool of Satan. Allah
describes those people who only follow their desires
numerous times throughout the Qur'an. Let us not be
among those who Allah describes as most astray and let
those not become our ideals. "Who is more astray than
one who follows his own lusts, devoid of guidance from
Allah? For Allah guides not people given to
wrongdoing"
[28: 50] Al Jumuah - Vol 13 Issue 8/9


.................................................. ................................................
from my email....

I've seen many non muslim girls fall in love with muslim guys and become muslim or marry the muslim guy and we embrace them but when it's the other way around it's a whole differenent response.
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TEH
07-26-2005, 11:27 AM
Absolutely mate, because a muslim girl, is not allowed to marry a non muslim girl, and hey, why I hear you ask, because Allah said so...

:)
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Silver Pearl
07-26-2005, 11:31 AM
Originally Posted by rsx
I've seen many non muslim girls fall in love with muslim guys and become muslim or marry the muslim guy and we embrace them but when it's the other way around it's a whole differenent response.
:w: warahmatullahi wabarakatu,

The haram is haram, doesn't matter who is doing it, if a guy indulged in fornication would a female do it because the guy did it? seriously that is lamest excuse to have passed across me yet.

The muslim guy did something haram by indulging in such sin, yet the girlfriend will not get that sin because she was not aware of the haq. Funny isn't it? the guy will have a red dot but she will be free from all mistakes she had previously done. So really either way the muslim guy is also in a wrong and Allah (swt) knows if his sin will be forgiven.

If the story was about a muslim guy i wouldn't view it differently, it'd be the same in my eyes and for many other muslims too.

As sad as the story is, it is just shows the saddening truth of reality.


Absolutely mate, because a muslim girl, is not allowed to marry a non muslim girl, and hey, why I hear you ask, because Allah said so...
There are other reasons too....



Ehdeena siratul mustakeen ya rabb.
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TEH
07-26-2005, 11:38 AM
Well then, dont keep me and rsx in the dark, please tell my dear...

:)
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Silver Pearl
07-26-2005, 11:56 AM
Originally Posted by TEH
Well then, dont keep me and rsx in the dark, please tell my dear...

:)
peace,

It is logical once you think about it, do you see the mentality of women and men the same? do you see the emotional characteristic of women and men the same? if the answer is yes then you'll have difficulties understanding the point i'll make...

Anyhoo, men and women are different, no one is superor to the other but nonetheless they are different from one another.

If a muslim girl married a religious christian or a non-religious person, she'd have the struggle of doing what she must practise. Though the relationship will start firstly as being 'you can do what you please' If the guy is religious he believes in the trinity as being the truth. He'll want to also make his wife to go to paradise with him. No doubt the 'discussion' of different faiths will occur and either it will end heartbreak or the sister leaving her devotion to Allah (swt). If the guy is not religious but wear the title of a christian etc then he really isn't going to care or understnad the need to worship God. Arguement will occur, why doesn't she want to wear more revealing clothing, why must she spend so much time praying blah blah blah.

If a muslim guy married those amongst the book, then he knows that injeel, zabur and towrat were the books of Allah. He wont say anything because Allah (swt) made it lawful for him to do what is he doing. It is natural that she'll start questioning why he prays 5 times a day etc. find the haq...leading to revertion.

Also Allah (swt) knows best....

I didn't explain it well but you should listen to lectures concerning such issue, it might help :)
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muslima06
07-27-2005, 08:57 AM
salam everyone,
lets get back to the topic: where do muslim youths get their ideals about love, family, marriage, etc.

first of all, I would like to say jazakallah sister maise for that beautiful article, it really made me think, to tell you the truth Titanic was my favorite movie but not anymore.

it's a sad thing but the reality is that most of us teens get our ideals from movies wether it's hollywood or bollywood. and hopefully we can stop this influence the film industry has over the youth by educating them about such issues on islamic basics.

so all of you good writes out there, start posting some more about this topic.
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Muezzin
07-27-2005, 09:27 AM
Originally Posted by muslima06
first of all, I would like to say jazakallah sister maise for that beautiful article, it really made me think, to tell you the truth Titanic was my favorite movie but not anymore.
You must be a teenage girl.

it's a sad thing but the reality is that most of us teens get our ideals from movies wether it's hollywood or bollywood.
Yup. You are a teenage girl. :p

The best part of Titanic is when it sinks. Just a pity it takes three hours for that to happen.

And on-topic, Muslim boys don't tend to watch these lovey-dovey movies anyway. Lads are interested in more exciting stuff involving explosions and Bruce Willis cracking wise. :)
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muslima06
07-27-2005, 09:50 AM
[QUOTE=Muezzin]You must be a teenage girl.


no I'm old lady. :p
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maisa
07-27-2005, 11:47 PM
thank you sister "muslima06" for putting us on track.
I totally agree with my sister "crystal eyes" and for anyone who is interested to read some "FATWAS " about marrying the non-Muslim guys ...check out this site:
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...=1119503543072

ok, let's not digress. actually, the aim of this thread is to discuss the influence upon us "the Muslim youth" and how can we stand in front of this "wrong ideals"
without doubt all of us watch movies but we never asked ourselves did this or that movie benefitted us somehow?? .. Another question that is buzzing round in my head is “ Are these movies dangerous to the values of Islam???

Let me hear from you

:w:
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TEH
07-28-2005, 01:24 AM
If you feel that your imaan is weak, then you should avoid from watching such filims...

:)
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