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nuj
is it a sin not to speak to sum1 beacuse u feel a bit awkward?
Sahih Bukhari
Volume 8, Book 73, Number 91:
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
Allah's Apostle said, "Do not hate one another, and do not be jealous of one another, and do not desert each other, and O, Allah's worshipers! Be brothers. Lo! It is not permissible for any Muslim to desert (not talk to) his brother (Muslim) for more than three days."
im sadly the type of person whom it takes a while before i can normal again after a dispute..i hate being like this....
mashaAllah at least you've come to understand that it aint right and are tryin to change, may Allah help you :)
maybe knowing the effects of arrogance will help :):::
Ibn Mas'ud reported that the Messenger of Allah said: Whoso has got pride in his heart to the weight of an atom shall not enter Paradise. A man enquired about a man who likes that his dress shall be fine and his shoes shall be fine. He said: Allah is beautiful and likes beauty. Pride is (a cause of) disclaiming the truth and despising the people.
[Muslim]
Im sure you love your sis in law sis, i dont think its pride!!
if i was humble i wouldnt have found it hard to speak to her again....i do speak to her when she speaks to me...but i dnt initiate the convo..is that okay? or is it still sinful??? i rly dont know what to talk about!! and asking forgiveness ... well err what do i say? 'forgive me for crying and being stupid?' there isnt nething to forgive on either side cos...it was even sumthing serious...its just me being emotional...grrrrrrr
lol sis let me just post a few more beautiful statements of our beloved prophet saws :)
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Abu Kabsha Ameri reported that the Messenger of Allah said: By the one in whose hand there is my life there are three things had i been an oathtaker, i would have taken oath about them: no wealth diminishes on account of charity, and no man pardons an oppression seeking thereby the pleasure of Allah but Allah will increase honour therewith on the Resurrection day and no men opens the door of begging for himself but he opens the door of poverty for himself
[tirmizi]
so forgive your sister inshaAllah oh and one more thing :)
oh and a few words from the lord whos watchin ova you sis, he'll help you check this out:
"Nor do I absolve my own self (of blame): the (human) soul is certainly prone to evil, unless my Lord do bestow His Mercy: but surely my Lord is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful."
Surah Yusuf Verse 53
so lets make istighfaar to Allah subhanahu wata'ala on a regular basis :)
i hope this helps inshaAllah
Allahu a'lam