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Anonymous Tester
Wa barakAllahu Feek
explaination: He always look for fight, very violent. always go on about past things to begin new fights. disgusting tongue against wife and daughters. blames mom for every thing. never appreciate.
backbites, lies, his whole life is lie and we protect his lies to protect him infront of other people. he thinks whole world revolve around him. he has no friends.
but he prays 5 times.
im positive he has mental disorder.
i want mum to leave but she stays thinkin i will not be able to marry if i am from broken family. i knwo in a practical world this is not true and in modern society is it not true anymore. but mum is thinking as if she is still living in her times
brother has already left us because of dad's ways. dad had no islamic reason to prevent brother from marrying a girl.
would u blame my mum for leaving him?
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hmmmm, when i thought about it from your perspective..i thought how can i help my mother, AND my FATHER...
khair, to come to the point...no matter what, always respect your parents; IF something is bothering you, always say it nicely: don't be angry or argue whenever he is angry , don't talk back to him, nor your mother; just keep silent.
You can change him alot, because daughters are always very close to their father, as i am the very dearest to my father. HOW? I'll tell you how...:)
Whenever he comes home from work, I always am there to bring cold water, always keep his clothes ready, for work and again after coming home. I am always asking him if he needs anything and am always ready to do what he wants with a happy face like this---->:)Alhamdulilah
In your case, if you are not close to him, than you should write a letter to him and show how much you love him, and care about him...don't mention his anger, just show your love n care, and show that you want to be his dearest daughter, hmmmm, and ask him what qualities he likes in his daughter. AND LISTEN to him n act on his wishes..
And ask your mother to please not fight back; if she is not fighting then just keep silent and don't argue .....(
MashaAllah if he is a 5 time namazi, than ALLAH SWT will help him to change.
hmmmmm, let me think more, and i'll ask my sister may be she will suggest some more solutions ....
Till then take care..
Fi Amaan Allah
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