I feel hesitant to tell other Muslims about my Islamic beliefs

[AnonymousPoster]

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many of the people my age are not very religious. And i feel hesitant to tell them something is haraam.and astagfirallah i even use to join in with the haraam they do in order to fit in. And also if i say that something is haraam.like for example telling them that its better for girls and boys to be separated and not mixing they look at me funny and call you religious person. or i say that music in haraam they just call me extreme.

astagfirallah sometimes i feel embarrassed by my beliefs because people look at you funny.and call religious(when they say it its basically calling you weird)

how do i overcome this feeling?

[- Qatada -]

:wasalamex


May Allaah make it easy for you. But i want you to know that paradise is surrounded by hardships and disliked things, whereas hell is surrounded by lusts and desires. So you will naturally feel 'strange.' So i hope you read this article to understand why:

http://www.islamicboard.com/cyber-co...-stranger.html


If you don't like what they do, try atleast not to join in. And hate the action in your heart if you're not strong enough to tell them off yet. Carry on praying to Allaah to make you more stronger.

[Umar001]

I think you overcome this by contemplating others like you in the same position.

In the Qu'ran it talks about the non believers and now days even some bad muslims laughin at the teachings of Allah, it talks about the hardships of the prophets who were belittled and so forth.

Me and you, insha'Allah are not of this world as such and Allah knows best, this world where there is no islamic state where there is no peace, but when we think about our real companions, imagine this;

You are with all your friends on a place or something, then you are forced off the plane by a person, you and all of your friends have to jump of with parachutes in different directions, some of you land west some east and so forth noone of you land together. So you and your friends are seperated, you find a village where you landed, you stay there though its hard, the people are rude and so forth but you know that if you stay then you have a chance of being rescued, but how do you in the meanwhile keep from going crazy at the people in the village? One way would be to contemplate about your friends, think about them and the day you'll get to see them, think what would they do in this situations, once you keep remembering this then the stay should be easier, and you could even end up makin new friends before you are rescued.

Similarly in a way this world is here for us, our real friends and family are the believers, we want to be among the prophets and companions, thats where I want to be, so I think about it and contemplate, and in the meanwhile while waiting to leave here I try make new 'friends' give da'wah, if people turn me down, then I have in my mind my day when I will be with my real friends 'The Prophets and Companions' and if they dont turn me down then I'll have made a new friend, a proper friend!

Hope that helps.

[Abdul Fattah]

Selam aleykum
Maybe brother, if you look up more hadeeth and fatwa's , you might understand the reasons for haram and halal better, and you will be more confident in explaining them to your brothers inshaAllah.
Personally what motivates me to say it, even though they dislike it when I do, is because I fear the day that people would want to grab me by my arm and ask you with fear in their eyes: "why didn't you tell me!"

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[Al-Zaara]

Selam aleykum
Maybe brother, if you look up more hadeeth and fatwa's , you might understand the reasons for haram and halal better, and you will be more confident in explaining them to your brothers inshaAllah.
Personally what motivates me to say it, even though they dislike it when I do, is because I fear the day that people would want to grab me by my arm and ask you with fear in their eyes: "why didn't you tell me!"

Asselamu aleykum,

MashaAllah, great piece of advice!


When you're more confident about the harams/halals and stuff... You'll see the change in you, and don't be afraid to speak up. Maybe it doesn't help if a sister tells you this but this situation is a bit similiar like mine a few years back.. But my friends in school are all non-Muslims and of course they do stuff which is in Islam forbidden... To be honest, some Muslims act like non-Muslims, astagfirullah, in that sense that they know nothin' about the religion. May Allah guide us all and help us overcome our sins. Ameen.

I've made it crystal-clear to everyone I'm religious, not to the extent I am unrespectful to others or disturb them, it's just when friends call you for a mixed gender party I just put my chin up high and say HARAM! and my friends get it or also ask WHY? and I get chances to explain Islam, alhamdulillah.

After doin' this for a while, some non-Muslims in my class seem to know more about the haram/halal than the only 2 Muslims brothers in my whole school. loq. So don't give up, brother!! Allah is with you and will give you strength, do seek for knowledge and help others out inshaAllah. :)

I'm now off to pray maghrib and I'll remember you in my duas, inshaAllah.

[Thanaa]

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many of the people my age are not very religious. And i feel hesitant to tell them something is haraam.and astagfirallah i even use to join in with the haraam they do in order to fit in. And also if i say that something is haraam.like for example telling them that its better for girls and boys to be separated and not mixing they look at me funny and call you religious person. or i say that music in haraam they just call me extreme.

astagfirallah sometimes i feel embarrassed by my beliefs because people look at you funny.and call religious(when they say it its basically calling you weird)

how do i overcome this feeling?

Finally, someone who knowswhat im going through lol!
Ive only told 2 of my friends that im converting to Islam/have reverted/whatever...The only problem is, Im visitng them all in 3-4 weeks, but we always used to drink alcohol :omg: which I cant do now.
So, Im expecting the same weird looks as you say you get.
^_^
Its difficult-im going to have to not go out for several nights while Im there, and the last time I mentioned Islam to some of them, in cnoversation, they looked at me like i was weird...
The point is, I deeply sympathise with you! :D
Just...keep going the way you are, and I'll just not go anywhere, and well be fine.
Seriously though, If Ive learnt anything, its that in the long run, peoples opinions dont matter. Yours Do. And Allahs matter the most.

[AnonymousPoster]

Maybe it doesn't help if a sister tells you this but this situation is a bit similiar like mine a few years back..

im a sister as well.

[north_malaysian]

I have a problem with most of my male friends.... coz ... I dont smoke..

But I managed to mingle with them peacefully.... why?

I told them I dont smoke and cant tolerate the smell of it... but in a VERY POLITE way....

And none of them dare to smoke when I am around.... if they need to puff those thing.. they'll excuse themselves and go somewhere further and make sure those smokes are not going towards my face. They're nice chaps....:thumbs_up

[nocturne]

:sl:

many of the people my age are not very religious. And i feel hesitant to tell them something is haraam.and astagfirallah i even use to join in with the haraam they do in order to fit in. And also if i say that something is haraam.like for example telling them that its better for girls and boys to be separated and not mixing they look at me funny and call you religious person. or i say that music in haraam they just call me extreme.

astagfirallah sometimes i feel embarrassed by my beliefs because people look at you funny.and call religious(when they say it its basically calling you weird)

how do i overcome this feeling?

Assalamualaikum,

where do you live brother?

Sometimes i feel the same way. In my country(Singapore), the country is no bigger than mecca i think. there are just too few muslims, who sometimes wont understand you. and you feel as if, they wont talk to you if they know you are religious.

I am certainly not embarrassed of Islam, you have to fight this...and inshallah, allah will be with us...

[vpb]

:sl:
when you're in that position, if you think that thay see you too religious or weird/strange, and think the same thing about them, that they are lead astray, and are wierd/strange that they don't show any respect to Allah swt. :) If a innocent, good-moral person stands in middle of a serial-killers, does he has to feel "too good" or wierd/strange that he's not being a serial-killer too? nope, so the same goes for your case :) be proud , Allah swt ownered us with Islam, don't worry about the ignorance of those people , just don't fall on it :)

[AnonymousPoster]

im a girl NOT a brother!

[snakelegs]

it might help if you tried to find some practicing muslims to hang out with.
don't sacrifice your principles just to fit in, no matter how tempting it might be. in the long run, it's simply not worth it, even tho sometimes it is hard to be different.
good luck.

[Al-Zaara]

im a sister as well.

My bad, I'm sorry sister!

Did any of our advices help you..?

[AnonymousPoster]

yes, mashallah all of your advice helped.

may Allah reward you all.ameen!

[Muslim Woman]

I seek refuge in Allah (The One God) from the Satan (devil) the cursed, the rejected

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh (May the peace, mercy and blessings of Allah be upon you)


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:sl:

many of the people my age are not very religious.

u may visit the following links..... i did not the whole articles.....look useful :)

Cool or Fool? - Choosing the Right Friends

You know You are a Victim of Peer Pressure when….

Most teenagers fall into flirting, clubbing, smoking, cursing, cheating, stealing, bullying, gambling, drinking, drugs, pornography and other immoral practices due to negative peer pressure. You know you are a victim of this pressure when you:

· are curious to try something new because "everyone's doing it";

· want to be liked, to fit in, to look cool;

· worry that others will think you are weird or a coward if you resist;

· say and do things in the group which you would not do on your own;

· wish your parents should stay out of your ‘social life’;

· do something without questioning the outcome.

Beat the Pressure: Tips to Try!

A) Before the Pressure Strikes

Know your values, beliefs and limits

Prepare your Strategy

Steer Clear of Potential Trouble

Choose who you Hang Out with

Choose who you Hang Out with

Participate in the Community!

Don’t Kill your Eyes: Watch less TV!

‘Goofy’ Teachers, ‘Dumb’ Parents, ‘Preachy’ Imams can help! :)

Make Duaa!

Ask Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta`aala to help you resist the pressures around you.

B) When Facing the Pressure

· Think about the consequences of every action. Use wisdom, not emotion.

· Say ‘No’ with courage. Make it clear how you feel about the situation. Explain why. It may be an opportunity to invite your friends to the Islamic way of life.

· Use Humour. Throw out a funny line to ease the tension and show how you feel! “I don’t drink. I can’t afford to kill my brain cells. Unfortunately, I only have a few left as it is!”

· Suggest a better idea. “Why don’t we play some hockey, instead of watching that movie? It’ll save us some money too!”

· Remember Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta`aala! He is there to help you. The Prophet Sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam told his close companion: “By Allaah! Whoever gives up something for the sake of Allaah, Allaah will replace it with something better than it!”

Are Your Friends Worth it?...Use the Checklist below to find out!

Does your friend fit these traits of a sincere, loving, and true friend?

· Does he help you become a better and productive person? It’s a mistaken belief that a ‘good friend likes you for what you are’. A sincere friend inspires you, either with words or actions, to improve your personality and situation.

In a beautiful analogy, the Prophet Sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam likened the company of a sincere friend to visiting a perfume seller. Every time you visit the perfume seller, you benefit from his shop: You get some perfume as a present, or you buy some from him or, at the least, you obtain a beautiful fragrance from his company. (Bukhaari & Muslim)

· Is she like a mirror to you? The Prophet Sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam stated, “The believer is like a mirror to other believers (in truthfulness).” (Aboo Dawood). Like a mirror, your friend gives you an honest image. She forgives your mistakes, but does not hide or exaggerate your strengths and weaknesses.

· Do his manners and lifestyle remind you of Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta`aala? Once the Prophet Sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam was asked, “What person can be the best friend?” “He who helps you remember Allaah, and reminds you when you forget Him,” he, Sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam counselled.

The Prophet Sall Allaahu `alayhi wa sallam was further asked, “Who is the best among people?” He replied, “He who, when you look at him, you remember God”. Such a friend reflects qualities of love, mercy, honesty, service, patience, optimism, professionalism, and the entire lifestyle taught by Islam.

· Does he love you solely for the sake of Allaah Suhaanahu wa Ta`aala? The bonds we form at work, school and in the neighbourhood may whither over time if they are not built for the right reason. Friendship based on Islamic principles is sincere and everlasting, since it is strengthened by a higher purpose and fervent faith.

· Do you feel comfortable and secure in her presence? If your friend’s company makes you feel guilty about the things you do and thoughts you share, you must question the benefit of this relationship. Consider the wise saying: “Being alone is better than having an evil companion and having a sincere companion is better than being alone.”

If your friend does not like you for the beauty of your character, intelligence, morality, and sincerity, you deserve better!

“And keep yourself content with those who call on their Lord morning and evening, seeking His Countenance, and let not your eyes pass beyond them to those who seek the pomp and glitter of this life...” (Al-Kahf 18:28 - interpretation of the meaning).






http://www.missionislam.com/youth/coolfool.htm



Education: Muslim School


http://www.soundvision.com/info/educ...slimschool.asp

it is advisable that parents should try their best to educate their children in an Islamic environment in a Muslim school and try to avoid their children fall prey to the negative influence in the public schools.


The rewards of sending children to Muslim schools outweigh any expense and sacrifices which parents may incur.






Our Kids, bullying and peer pressure

http://www.islamonline.net/livedialo...GuestID=YaQEFN

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^^Thats definitely some good stuff there.
JazakAllah Khair sista :D