I seek refuge in Allah (The One God) from the Satan (devil) the cursed, the rejected
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh (May the peace, mercy and blessings of Allah be upon you)
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many of the people my age are not very religious.
u may visit the following links..... i did not the whole articles.....look useful :)
Cool or Fool? - Choosing the Right Friends
You know You are a Victim of Peer Pressure when….
Most teenagers fall into flirting, clubbing, smoking, cursing, cheating, stealing, bullying, gambling, drinking, drugs, pornography and other immoral practices due to negative peer pressure. You know you are a victim of this pressure when you:
· are curious to try something new because "everyone's doing it";
· want to be liked, to fit in, to look cool;
· worry that others will think you are weird or a coward if you resist;
· say and do things in the group which you would not do on your own;
· wish your parents should stay out of your ‘social life’;
· do something without questioning the outcome.
Beat the Pressure: Tips to Try!
A) Before the Pressure Strikes
Know your values, beliefs and limits
Prepare your Strategy
Steer Clear of Potential Trouble
Choose who you Hang Out with
Choose who you Hang Out with
Participate in the Community!
Don’t Kill your Eyes: Watch less TV!
‘Goofy’ Teachers, ‘Dumb’ Parents, ‘Preachy’ Imams can help! :)
Make Duaa!
Ask Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta`aala to help you resist the pressures around you.
B) When Facing the Pressure
· Think about the consequences of every action. Use wisdom, not emotion.
· Say ‘No’ with courage. Make it clear how you feel about the situation. Explain why. It may be an opportunity to invite your friends to the Islamic way of life.
· Use Humour. Throw out a funny line to ease the tension and show how you feel! “I don’t drink. I can’t afford to kill my brain cells. Unfortunately, I only have a few left as it is!”
· Suggest a better idea. “Why don’t we play some hockey, instead of watching that movie? It’ll save us some money too!”
· Remember Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta`aala! He is there to help you. The Prophet Sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam told his close companion: “By Allaah! Whoever gives up something for the sake of Allaah, Allaah will replace it with something better than it!”
Are Your Friends Worth it?...Use the Checklist below to find out!
Does your friend fit these traits of a sincere, loving, and true friend?
· Does he help you become a better and productive person? It’s a mistaken belief that a ‘good friend likes you for what you are’. A sincere friend inspires you, either with words or actions, to improve your personality and situation.
In a beautiful analogy, the Prophet Sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam likened the company of a sincere friend to visiting a perfume seller. Every time you visit the perfume seller, you benefit from his shop: You get some perfume as a present, or you buy some from him or, at the least, you obtain a beautiful fragrance from his company. (Bukhaari & Muslim)
· Is she like a mirror to you? The Prophet Sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam stated, “The believer is like a mirror to other believers (in truthfulness).” (Aboo Dawood). Like a mirror, your friend gives you an honest image. She forgives your mistakes, but does not hide or exaggerate your strengths and weaknesses.
· Do his manners and lifestyle remind you of Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta`aala? Once the Prophet Sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam was asked, “What person can be the best friend?” “He who helps you remember Allaah, and reminds you when you forget Him,” he, Sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam counselled.
The Prophet Sall Allaahu `alayhi wa sallam was further asked, “Who is the best among people?” He replied, “He who, when you look at him, you remember God”. Such a friend reflects qualities of love, mercy, honesty, service, patience, optimism, professionalism, and the entire lifestyle taught by Islam.
· Does he love you solely for the sake of Allaah Suhaanahu wa Ta`aala? The bonds we form at work, school and in the neighbourhood may whither over time if they are not built for the right reason. Friendship based on Islamic principles is sincere and everlasting, since it is strengthened by a higher purpose and fervent faith.
· Do you feel comfortable and secure in her presence? If your friend’s company makes you feel guilty about the things you do and thoughts you share, you must question the benefit of this relationship. Consider the wise saying: “Being alone is better than having an evil companion and having a sincere companion is better than being alone.”
If your friend does not like you for the beauty of your character, intelligence, morality, and sincerity, you deserve better!
“And keep yourself content with those who call on their Lord morning and evening, seeking His Countenance, and let not your eyes pass beyond them to those who seek the pomp and glitter of this life...” (Al-Kahf 18:28 - interpretation of the meaning).
http://www.missionislam.com/youth/coolfool.htm
Education: Muslim School
http://www.soundvision.com/info/educ...slimschool.asp
it is advisable that parents should try their best to educate their children in an Islamic environment in a Muslim school and try to avoid their children fall prey to the negative influence in the public schools.
The rewards of sending children to Muslim schools outweigh any expense and sacrifices which parents may incur.
Our Kids, bullying and peer pressure
http://www.islamonline.net/livedialo...GuestID=YaQEFN