Do you hate someone?

[syilla]

Do you hate someone?



Do you hate someone? Do you really hate someone? You haven't spoken to him for a while? You've been blaming him?

You're not the only one; the Muslim Ummah today is diseased with this to the extent that almost every Muslim knows another Muslim who he hates.

The Ummah is like a building with the Muslims as it's bricks, brotherhood is the cement. Without forgiveness you cannot have brotherhood.

OK then, he wronged you. He deceived you. He backbited you. He lied to you. But even in these extreme situations the Qur'an and the Hadith teach us that we have to forgive others (especially those who hurt us the most) if we wish to earn the forgiveness of Allah on the day of judgement. We have all committed many sins, made many mistakes and no doubt we have wronged others, we have deceived others, we have backbited others and no doubt we have lied to others.

So what makes us focus onto brothers' and sisters' errors while we remain unconscious of our own. Not to forgive is like to live in arrogance, and ignorance of our own shortcomings.


Forgiveness is linked with piety and God-consciousness, is there anybody who is not without sin? Is there anybody who can be arrogant enough to say that he does not need to forgive? Do we not know that Allah forgives those who forgive others? Therefore, we should realise the difficulties of others and forgive them. Allah says in the Qur'an:

"Be quick in the forgiveness from your Lord, and pardon (all) men - for Allah loves those who do good."
[Surah ali Imran; 3:133-134]


And we know that Allah Himself is Ar-Rahmaan (the Most Compassionate) and Ar-Raheem (the Most Merciful) and that His Mercy is infinite, and that no matter the sin (except shirk) Allah is always willing to answer the person's call for forgiveness. In fact Allah loves the tear drop that falls from the eye of one who sincerely seeks the forgiveness of his Lord.

And Allah loves us to have hearts that are ready to forgive.

The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) once asked his companions;
"Do you know what will cause you to have high walled palaces in Paradise (as a symbol of great reward) and will cause you to be raised by God?" When they replied in the negative, he said,
"To be forgiving and to control yourself in the face of provocation, to give justice to the person who was unfair and unjust to you, to give to someone even though he did not give to you when you were in need and to keep connection with someone who may not have reciprocated your concern."

Similarly the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said that the best of people are those who are slow to get angry and quick to forgive. On the other hand the worst of people are those, he said who get angry quickly but are slow to forgive.

The characteristic that makes a person most likely to forgive is the purity of his or her heart. Apologies must be accepted, the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said that:

"Whoever apologises to his brother and that apology is not accepted, then the person who refuses to accept the apology bears the sin of one who takes the property of another unjustly.

And the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) also said that:

"The doors of the Garden are open on Monday and Thursday. Every Muslim slave who does not associate anything with Allah is forgiven except for the man who has enmity between him and his brother. It is said, 'Leave those two until they have made a reconciliation. Leave those two until they have made a reconciliation.'"

If we look at the example and the character of the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) we can see that he was always forgiving and never showed enmity to anyone except those who waged war against him.

There was an old lady who used to throw rubbish in his way every day, on one occasion she did not throw rubbish in the street, so he decided to go and see what was the matter. She was ill in bed, to her amazement, the Messenger of Allah (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) came to see her and find out about her.

She accepted Islam.

This is the example of the man whom we claim to follow. Thumamah, as the chief of his tribe had killed many Muslims. On his travels, he was caught by the Muslim soldiers and was taken to the Prophet's masjid and tied to one of the pillars. The Messenger of Allah (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) commanded his companions to untie him and give him the best food. The Messenger of God (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) was indeed a mercy for the worlds.

We should similarly be merciful with each other. First of all, we ourselves should not do anything to upset our brothers and sisters (because this is in itself a part of mercy) and then we should forgive those who have upset us or made us angry. We will never be a strong ummah if we are not able to forgive.


Some might say that to forgive is a sign of weakness and humiliation, and for them it is better to be strong and preserve their honor. But honor in the eyes of Allah lies in forgiveness.

"But indeed if any shows patience and forgives that would truly be an exercise of courageous will and resolution in the conduct of affairs."
[surah 42:43]

If we are to be really strong then we have to be strong against Shaytaan and forgive our brothers and sisters, and in this way maybe Allah will decide insha-Allah to forgive ourselves for our many mistakes.

" ...honour in the eyes of Allah lies in forgiveness....."

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[syilla]

FORGIVENESS
by Ml S Ravat--

There are many rights of Islamic brotherhood. One of them is forgiveness.

Allah Ta’aala describes the Muttaqin as those who have 4 distinct qualities:Those who spend in ease and adversity.Those who suppress their anger.Those who forgive people.

Not only are we required to forgive one another to be classified as Muttaqin we are further required to react to evil with kindness.

That’s why Allah further says in the verse “and Allah loves those who do good.” Nabi (S.A.W) has mentioned: “Join ties with he who breaks ties. Forgive the one who oppressed you and do good to the one who has done evil to you.

When we respond to evil with goodness it strengthens our brotherhood. That’s why Allah Ta’aala mentions: “Resist with that which is best. The one between yourself and whom there was enmity will instantly become your bosom friend.

Undoubtedly some of our brothers have caused us harm. They have hurt us deeply, but let us look at the Sunnah of Nabi (SAW) in this regard.

For 13 years he was on the receiving end of the persecutions of the Quraysh. When the Muslims were banished to Shïb Abi Talib and the food supply was cut off, the children’s screams of hunger could be heard in Makkah Mukarramah. Imagine seeing your young ones suffer like that, yet when Nabi (SAW) returned in a position of power as a conqueror, his Mubarak (blessed) head was lowered in humility to such an extent that it almost touched his chest. This was the perfect moment to avenge years of persecution and suffering, yet Nabi (SAW) chose to forgive without any conditions, echoing the statement of Yusuf (AS) to his brothers, “there shall be no blame on you today.”

With regards to this incident even the famous Historian Haykal was left astounded. He wrote regarding the conquest of Makkah “The army was ready to wipe out the people of Makkah on his command, God had given him power over his enemy, but Muhammad SAW chose to forgive, thereby giving to humankind and all generations the most perfect example of goodness truthfulness nobility and magnanimity.

Nabi SAW said to the Quraysh “no blame shall be on you today i.e. I have already forgiven you, now I won’t even blame you. Subhanallah!

Yusuf (AS) was separated from his father at a young age due to the actions of his brothers, he was accused of Zina and had to spend many years in jail. Yet, look at his forgiveness, not withstanding the fact that he was now in a position of authority. When he met his father he didn’t complain of his years of difficulty, he rather spoke about the favours of Allah upon him “He had truly been kind to me when he removed me from prison and brought you from the countryside after Shaytaan had caused trouble between my brothers and me.” Subhanallah! What humility he didn’t even mention the incident of the well. He didn’t want his brothers to feel embarrassed. None of us can claim to have suffered to such an extent. If these Ambiya could forgive then who are we?

Allah says “Pardon and forgive, do you not like Allah to forgive you?” Forgive and Seek forgiveness for the pleasure of Allah. Whether the opposite party appreciates or reciprocates is immaterial, you are exonerated in the court of Allah. “He who forgives and makes amends his reward is with Allah.”

Let’s settle our differences today. Let us forgive and seek forgiveness before the end of the day, irrespective of who is right, be the better person. Nabi SAW has said: It is not lawful for a Muslim to stop talking to another Muslim beyond 3 nights. When they meet, the one turns one way and the other one the other way. The better of the two is the one who greets the other first (Bukhari Muslim)

If we want acceptance in the court of Allah, let us reconcile our differences. If want forgiveness in the court of Allah lets forgive one another, otherwise our forgiveness is suspended in the court of Allah as Allah says to the Malaikah “Leave the affairs of these two people until they reconcile.”

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jazakallah khair for sharing sis.

[Kittygyal]

Salamualikum
I got a feeling this has bene posted before somewhere because it seems familer to me. Allah hu alim. Please do forgive me if i'z wrong inshallah.

Anywho we should forgive everyone as a muslim inshallah. This is a good thread indeed.
May Allah subhnwatallah forgive us ALL inshallah. Amin
Ma'assalama

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[davoudg]

you shouldnt hate someone for personall reasons
if someone hurts you emotionally or physically, its best for you to take advantage of the situation and forgive them so your soul grows stronger and so may ALLAH forgive you and reward you later.
but hating the unbeliever for disrespecting and not obeying ALLAH is different. specially if they start to hurt the believers. but ALLAH tells us to forive them too if they repent.