format_quote Originally Posted by
Kittygyal
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Yo made ma sick.... :hmm: so it is serious hun...
Anywho, the dude who posted this thread should learn bangali den init if he loves da gyal he'll do anytinf for her idk do w.e man
lol ^
to the brother : everything basically has been said, I'd just add that if you sincerely would like to marry her then
first of all before taking any action perform Istikharah!
Most of the time we have no idea about whether a certain thing will be good for us or not as our knowledge is limited, therefore it is important you do so n with the guidance from Allah - if you feel you still want to marry the sister and feel that this is the best for you then obtain the
Halaal means of getting married which is preferably through your parents especially as they will be inclined about the idea.
You have also got to understand her side in this situation, besides the fact that culture/cast/race/origin shouldn't really be an issue or a reason to reject a marriage proposal - it does happen and perhaps prominent in some backgrounds than others. Even though some may personally accept the idea of marriages like this taking place, they wouldn't do it, simply because, their parents would not be happy about it therefore there is no reason to cause them to be hurt or displeased when you can still get married according to their expectations, while making sure your own expectations are met. The sister must take her parents opinion into account when making a decision on whether she wants to ahead with this or not, as it is apart of their right over her. At the end of the day, all they want is for her to be happy, and they have her best interest at heart.
There is a lot of negative attitudes attached to those who marry into different cultures/backgrounds, and these derive from the cultures themselves as Islam in no way discourages it.
may Allah guide & bless you both in marriage if it is best for you. Aameen!