jazakhallah for all the replies..
This fool can't even look after his own self, getting her put oil in his hair she should put oil on his hair and than lite it
^ nah, the husband tells the wife to put oil in the son's hair.. not his own
Won't the child have a say weather he wants to live with the mother or the father.
^ yeh that's what I was thinking, and the son would deffinatly choose his mother.. they have a close relationship even tho the dad tries to stop this. The dad would take the boy for 'quality father-son time' and brainwash the son into hating the mum :heated:
It's never a family get together thing, it's alway mother-son or father-son.
She's better off staying single than in this hell marrige. Inshallah Allah s.w.t will bless her with a better husband who's 10 x better than the one who's she's with.
^ yeh, everyone has told her this, but she just doesn't wanna listen.. i don't get it :hmm:
im curious, who decided this marriage, where they happy at the beginning?
^ it was an arranged marriage.. elders of the family found a boy, gurl met boy.. engagement, marriage etc.. There wasn't a relationship before the marriage.
may Allah grant her sabr, cant this man even treat his wife well for the sake of his son? subhanAllah, this is why we should marry someone who fears Allah, they wouldnt dare behave in such a manner.
^ameen. I totally agree with you on this one. He has been to umrah and will be goin to hajj this year too..but he still hasn't changed his ways :hmm:
i'd divorce his sorry bottom...no question to it...
i mean..i am Allahs creation.im worth more than that guy...
and for the kid...Allah will lead him to the most auspicious parent and inshallah keep him...
getting married again?
if ur a divorced chick with a son...u cant be too picky right? as long as the guy is respectful ..u dnt need much more.there are wonderful brothers out there.maybe she cud find a divorcee...
its all about being logical in these cases.i know that its easier said than done..but i doubt she is emtionally attached to this guy..and as for her son, she muct realise that he is Allahs gift to her.and the court wont 'take' him away. she has a job. she has a brain.and she doesnt have a violent history...
i dno.but u asked what i wud do...i wouldnt stay another second.
think of the kid.do u really want him growing up in that..?please.sometimes, staying together is more traumatising that a divorce..u have to weigh your own situation up as see what is better for ur child and pray to Allah for him to help u make the right decision.
^ I agree with you sis, the thing is they are not married in the eyes of the law, they only had an islamic marriage.. nikah. so i dunno how the english courts will go about it. In their eyes, they are just living together, and who have a son... I guess that's where she thinks it will get complicated.
Everyone has told her that he is no good etc.. but she doesn't listen.. gets me so :grumbling sometimes coz he is not worth it.
I hope I don't sound unsympathetic to the lady because I understand it's not always easy to get yourself out of a situation like that. alhamdulillah she had courage to report him to the police for his violence and that was nipped in the bud.
^ nah it's fine sister, sometimes it's like hitting ur head against a brick wall trying to make her understand..i dunno why shes still with him :cry:
Nway, jazakhallah again for the views, was interesting to see what u all thought.. looks like you all feel the same as me!