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Don't despare,yes it might seem hard sometimes to find a girl which will correspond to what you're looking for(religious,etc..),but she is out there!
It's called naseeb. :) (I sound so cheesy).
I spoke to many girls my sister included and all of them said that they prefer a white American guy over an Arab Muslim.
Oh boy,I've completly had the opposite experience with the girls around me...so don't worry,it might just be your surroundings who feel this way.Meet new people,not everyone has the same point of view/preference.
From what I've been told by the girls, Muslim Arabs are uptight ideologically and won't give them the freedom and equality the Americans pride themselves with.The guy will just lock them in the house and let them do nothing and be just housewives. They dont want that, they want to go out and put their make up on dress according to Jeniffer Lopez's style and be such a tease to everybody.
Just because a muslim woman doesn't want to spend her
entire life being a housewife DOES NOT mean she wants to go out and be a tease...sheesh.A muslim woman is allowed her fair share of freedom(within limits,yes),and respect...I know I will want to have a career,not one that takes up 100% of my time(of course having a family is important,definetly),but I do want to contribute to make this world a better place insh'allah in whichever way I can...and I do believe sisters have that right.No?
Do we live in the dark ages? Men and Women today have to work and both genders have the same rights in the U.S... If I didnt have to work in the U.S. i will be more than happy to have all the freetime for my hobbies and be a couch potato...
Yes correct...
Women can be ambitious too..some want to be doctors,others want to be professors...it's not in everyone's liking to be a couch potato all the time(hm..on week-ends yeah.lol)
It seems as if I and many Arab Muslims stand no chance in front of a tall blue eyed blond guy riding a white horse. All the girls i talked with about this issue favor looks over religion and when I asked them to chose between a white American (none Muslim) or an Arab Muslim and the answer was chocking. They dont wnat to answer and their answers were very misleading.
haha,this part made me laugh.Maybe the girls you spoke with preferred looks over religion...but one more,that is not always the case.Maybe they were immature or not fully aware of the importance of deen in marriage,either way,don't fuss about their opinion..we both know they're wrong.
If it makes you feel better,im arab and I would pick an arab man over a western guy any day.About the blue eyed blond guy (hehehehehe) Again,this depends on the girls' taste...I know I'd want a dark haired browned eyed guy..simply because I find at much more attractive(and so does many,many other people I know.no offence so any blond guys here btw,lol).
There are two kinds of girls out there. The veiled married one or the unveiled single one. It seems as if its a trademark nowadays too, veil took the meaning of the marriage ring because those who don't wear it are not ready to be taken seriously. They want to play around, try the "freedom lifestyle" or focusing on their private lives. An Arab girl these days won't give me attention as if they have forgotten where they came from thus making me feel bad.
Bro,gross generalisation...not veiled girls are married(well,that's pretty obvious) and not all "unveiled" girls are seeking this dunya's pleasure.Women who don't wear the hijab should not be looked down upon as being "less religious" simply because we don't know that.Some women who aren't veiled might be more religious than women who are veiled!*personal experience speaking here*.This is not always the case.I know.So please,do not genaralise.Anyway,I won't get any deeper into that because it isn't the subject.
just love where I come from, I won't let my origins down and most of all I need a Muslim woman so I dont have to be with someone who is clueless of my culture.
That's fair,I totally agree with this...you should stick by that;it's a value you have and insh'allah you'll find a girl who shares this.(yes,they do exist.)lol
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PurestAmbrosia
if you are looking for girls around your age group, they most likely aren't focused or sophisticated..
most likely...yes.Im around that age group,and I do consider myself equally mature to women who are 23-24...simply because I've gone through circumstances which many people do not face until they are full adults...alhamdulillah I've come out stronger and more aware of my deen,and I know im not the only one.With time does not come knowledge,knowledge comes with experience.You learn and grow with experience,these build your character,not the age you are.
......this has got to be the longest post I have ever made on LI.:uuh:
Anw,
good luck bro!
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