O Dear.

[mestiza]

Ok, let me try to keep this simple.

Basically I've got a good friend of mine whom I've known for a very long time and is a Christian. And I want to get married to him Inshallah (but i obviously can't at the moment).
He's willing to gain more knowledge about Islam, and I'm helping him, but he doesn't have any muslim friends (I've asked), who he can go to. I've asked him to try and talk to people at mosques etc. But he's very shy.

I don't know what is the best way to go around this situation, whether to give him books, keep teaching him etc. Because he does not have any other muslim friends that he gain seek knowledge from.

And as you can see from my profile I'm a female. So this male/female interaction thing going on is not the best thing. Thankyou to anyone who can help me in this situation :smile:

[- Qatada -]

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Alhamdulillah you know that it's not permitted for you to really be in a relationship with him.

So i'd say the best option is to probably give him Islamic websites to visit;

http://beconvinced.com
http://islam-guide.com

http://islamonline.com
http://islamreligion.com

http://islamtoday.com
http://load-islam.com



I think they will be really useful, and may be helpful to give a good intro on Islam insha Allah.

[Belief_is_Power]

^^^ he's right, also it is not permitted in Islam for a muslim sister to marry a christian. There are plenty of good muslim brothers out there, and even though you want to marry this guy you must think of the consequences afterwards. For example will your children be raised muslim? things like that are very important, so for now look for a muslim to marry and tell your friend to read books or visit websites on Islam.

[MartyrX]

Unless this friend of yours converts it is not allowed. If he should convert then it has to be for him.

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[Nájlá]

i think the post above have told u about how to learn him about islam. and just a quick advise dont get married to this person unless he is going to be a good muslim and that he is not becoming muslim because of u but for islam...

[Eric H]

Greetings and peace be with you najla93;

ALLAH is gracious and merciful,
slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love.
ALLAH is good to all,
and his compassion is over all that he has made.

I love this verse and yet it poses problems for us all. Allah who created you and he gave you the freedom to be a Muslim, he also created me and gave me the freedom to be a Christian.
Allah chooses whom he wills, yet he seems to choose us in different ways, you a Muslim and me a Christian, he has said there is to be no compulsion in religion.
Does Allah truthfully want us to be separated communities? We have the same kind of scriptures within Christianity saying that we should only marry other Christians and bring up the children as Christians.
Yet the same God created us all, somehow I feel that God has created us in this to give us a greater challenge; and that his how do we love people who are different to us as we love ourselves?

In the spirit of praying for greater interfaith friendship

Eric

[noorseeker]

He must make sure he reverts forhimself and not for you

[MaiCarInMtl]

As many people have said here, make sure that if he converts, he does it for himself and not for you. The concept seems simple, but it is almost impossible not to feel some kind of pressure when you want to be with someone who is of another faith (I am currently in a somewhat similar situation).

I suggest you answer his questions as best you can, and if you don't know the answer, then tell him you don't know. Do YOU know any male muslims you could introduce him to who could help him learn and answer his questions? Give him books to read, websties, etc. If he is really interested in learning, then he'll do his own searches.

I can understand his being shy about going to a mosque. I have been thinking of going for many, many months now but have yet to work up the courage. It's a mixture of genuine shyness (meeting strangers), the fear of being judged by people you do not know, the fear of doing or saying something wrong, and the fear that people will expect you to convert on the spot (or at least that's how I feel).