Originally Posted by nadia85
No sister, that is not the proper way divorce. The way you have done is valid but as far as I know (in other words, the divorce happens), but also sinful.
The proper way to divorce is for the husband to say I divorce you once. That you are divorced but
you are allowed to marry each other again in the future. The husband has until the end of the waiting period to take it back. (I don't remember if you need to renew the contract though).
After that, if the couple gets back together and the husband says I divorce you again, you still have to the option to marry each other again but this it is the right of the wife to decide if she wants to stick with the marriage, not teh husband.
But after the third time, the marriage is over and the man and woman can't marry each other again unless the woman remarries and then get a divorce (not sure if it applies to becoming widowed).
I hope that makes sense. :)