:sl: warahmatulahi wabarakatuh.
jazak Allah khayr akh quran4me! that really helped out alot and it made it easier for me to research the quotes from the qur'an and hadith that i needed. ameen to your dua's.
O you who believe! do not take the Jews and the
Christians for friends; they are friends of each
other; and whoever amongst you takes them for a
friend, then surely he is one of them; surely Allah
does not guide the unjust people.
O you who believe! do not take for guardians those
who take your religion for a mockery and a joke,
from among those who were given the Book before
you and the unbelievers; and be careful of (your
duty to) Allah if you are believers.
O you who believe! do not take for intimate friends
from among others than your own people; they do
not fall short of inflicting loss upon you; they love
what distresses you; vehement hatred has already
appeared from out of their mouths, and what their
breasts conceal is greater still; indeed, We have
made the communications clear to you, if you will
If good befalls you, it grieves them, and if an evil
afflicts you, they rejoice at it; and if you are patient
and guard yourselves, their scheme will not injure
you in any way; surely Allah comprehends what
O you who believe! do not take My enemy and
your enemy for friends: would you offer them love
while they deny what has come to you of the truth,
driving out the Messenger and yourselves because
you believe in Allah, your Lord? If you go forth
struggling hard in My path and seeking My
pleasure, would you manifest love to them? And I
know what you conceal and what you manifest;
and whoever of you does this, he indeed has gone
astray from the straight path.
Indeed, there is for you a good example in Ibrahim
and those with him when they said to their people:
Surely we are clear of you and of what you serve
besides Allah; we declare ourselves to be clear of
you, and enmity and hatred have appeared
between us and you forever until you believe in
Allah alone-- but not in what Ibrahim said to his
father: I would certainly ask forgiveness for you,
and I do not control for you aught from Allah-- Our
Lord! on Thee do we rely, and to Thee do we turn,
and to Thee is the eventual coming.
Certainly there is for you in them a good example, for him who fears Allah and the last day; and whoever turns back, then surely Allah is the Self-sufficient, the Praised.
but this doesn't mean you have to act mean to the kuffar:
Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loveth those who are just.
so insha Allah you can act kind with them - but dont take your kindness to such a extreme that you make them as your friends, protectors etc. instead this should be done with the muslims only, so your faith/beliefs remain firm and strong, instead of getting brainwashed by the thoughts of the kufar.
in the ayah after this, it is mentioned:
Allah only forbids you respecting those who made war upon you on account of (your) religion, and drove you forth from
your homes and backed up (others) in your expulsion, that you make friends with them, and whoever makes friends with
them, these are the unjust.
O you who believe! do not make friends with a people with whom Allah is wroth; indeed they despair of the hereafter as
the unbelievers despair of those in tombs.
And indeed He has revealed to you in the Book that when you hear Allah's communications disbelieved in and mocked at do not sit with them until they enter into some other discourse; surely then you would be like them; surely Allah will gather together the hypocrites and the unbelievers all in hell.
Those who wait upon occasion in regard to you and, if a victory cometh unto you from Allah, say: Are we not with you?
and if the disbelievers meet with a success say: Had we not the mastery of you, and did we not protect you from the
believers? - Allah will judge between you at the Day of Resurrection, and Allah will not give the disbelievers any way (of
success) against the believers.
this is exactly what is happening in the world right now. remember back to the war in iraq and how the americans say
that their 'protecting' the muslims from evil 'muslim' leaders such as saddam etc. after this they even say that they are our
protectors yet Allah (swt) gives them victory for a little while only, if they dont come to islam - they will face the
consequences in the afterlife on the day of resurrection.
the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, "Whoever imitates a people he is one of them." And also, "You will follow the tradition of those people who came before you exactly..." [this portion is in the two saheehs] And he confirmed, when asked whether he meant the Jews and the Christians, by saying "who else?" [Ahmad, Aboo Dawood, hasan hadeeth, authenticated by al-Albaanee in Saheeh Jaami` us-Sagheer, #6025]
the messenger of Allah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said,
"Whoever imitates (or resembles) a people is one of them." Sunan Abu Dawud
finally, you can remind the bro that Allah (swt) loves to forgive his servants and if he leaves his non muslim mates, he can hang out with you and your mates.
Our Lord! do not make us a trial for those who disbelieve, and forgive us, our Lord! surely Thou art the Mighty, the Wise.
04.48: Surely Allah does not forgive that anything should be associated with Him, and forgives what is besides that to whomsoever He pleases; and whoever associates anything with Allah, he devises indeed a great sin.
Our beloved Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his beloved family) said:"Allah is more delighted with the repentance of His servant than one of you would be, who suddenly finds his camel laden with supplies after losing it in a barren land" (sahih bukhari and sahih muslim - authentic)
tell him to join the forum or somethin.. he might start liking it here insha Allah and the crowd you hang out with affects what kinda person you are, so invite him over insha Allah, this way he'll get a deeper understanding of islam and also become a better person insha Allah without being brainwashed by the kuffar propaganda.
“The example of a good companion and a bad one is the bearer of musk and the worker on the bellows. A bearer of musk would give you some, you might buy some from him, or you might enjoy the fragrance of his musk. The worker on the bellows, on the other hand, might spoil your clothes with sparks from his bellows, or you get a bad smell from him.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim, this version being Muslim’s - authentic insha Allah.)
some links with more info insha Allah :
Ruling on Imitation of Disbelievers
Plotting of the Kuffaar Against Islam and the Muslims
Auliya Allah - Friends of Allah (Azza wa Jal)
wasalam o 'alykum warahmatulahi wabarakatuh.