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aishaz
11-24-2005, 04:33 PM
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Dearest Readers in Islam,

Cool or Fool? Choosing The Right Friends


“You can do it!” “I have faith in you!”; “Come on don’t be a stupid”; "Here, try one”; “If you say no, people will think you’re weird”; “Don’t hang out with those boring, ‘religious’ guys!”

Whether you are in school, college, university, these are the voices of many of the people you interact with. In our teenage culture, which exaggerates the idea of personal freedom and excessive entertainment, you are exposed to Peer Pressure. You know You are a Victim of Peer Pressure when…. Most teenagers fall into flirting, clubbing, smoking, cursing, cheating, stealing, bullying, gambling, drinking, drugs, pornography and other immoral practices due to negative peer pressure. You know you are a victim of this pressure when you: are curious to try something new because "everyone's doing it"; want to be liked, to fit in, to look cool; worry that others will think you are weird or a coward if you resist; say and do things in the group which you would not do on your own; wish your parents should stay out of your ‘social life’; do something without questioning the outcome. Beat the Pressure:


Tips to Try!

A) Before the Pressure Strikes
Know your values, beliefs and limits
Ask yourself 'What are my boundaries?'’ before anything happens. Know what pleases and offends Allah. He is the One who created you, sustains you, and helps you. Study your faith and clarify your limits of ‘fun’ so you can resist the pressure with confidence.
Prepare your Strategy
Plan ahead of time what you can say and do in difficult situations.
Steer Clear of Potential Trouble
Watch out for places where gender-mixing takes place including cinemas, discotheques…
Choose who you Hang Out with
You become like those you hang out with. As the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) once said, “A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look (carefully) whom you choose to befriend.” [Ahmad]
- Choose your friends based on character, not popularity or status.
- Friends who are not sincere and do not love you for your principles, will gradually lure you into an artificial world of false hopes. Either help these friends change gently, or abandon their company before it’s too late!
Participate in the Community!
There are immense benefits of getting involved with library, Mosque, Muslim youth group, or any other project that helps society. For instance, you avoid wasting time just ‘hanging out’ with your friends; enhance your skills and talents; meet people who share the same values and enjoy the same activities; gain confidence to influence others through positive peer pressure; earn rewards from Allah!
Don’t Kill your Eyes:
Watch less TV! Yes, it’s tough to escape peer pressure, especially when your friends keep talking about the clothes, the music and the stars they watch on TV. Today, TV defines teen culture. TV, with its barrage of alluring ads and captivating shows, tells you how to dress and act, what is cool and sexy, and what is ‘in’ and ‘out’. Let Islam, not TV, decide your dress code, morals, and values.
Make Dua!
Ask Allah to help you resist the pressures around you.

B) When Facing the Pressure
• Think about the consequences of every action. Use wisdom, not emotion.
• Say ‘No’ with courage. Make it clear how you feel about the situation. Explain why. It may be an opportunity to invite your friends to the Islamic way of life.
• Use Humour. Throw out a funny line to ease the tension and show how you feel! “I don’t drink. I can’t afford to kill my brain cells. Unfortunately, I only have a few left as it is!”
• Remember Allah, your best Friend! He is there to help you. The Prophet told his close companion: “By Allah! Whoever gives up something for the sake of Allah, Allah will replace it with something better than it!”

Allah knows best and hop Insha Allah this humble thought will help...

Wassalaam

Aishaz
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~Raindrop~
11-24-2005, 04:34 PM
good post sis...mashallah
wassalam
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Zuko
11-24-2005, 04:35 PM
“By Allah! Whoever gives up something for the sake of Allah, Allah will replace it with something better than it!”
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Jazkallah Khair for this! It really helps... :peace:

:w:
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habib
11-24-2005, 04:38 PM
Masha Allah nice post ..

Jazakallah for the post ..
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Riya90
11-24-2005, 04:53 PM
Salam

MashaAllah , an excellent article!!
I hope you continue posting such great articles for the benefit of readers like me. JazakAllah Khair

wa Fi amani Allah
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Halima
11-24-2005, 06:58 PM
:sl: MashaAllah wonderful post :w:

Please keep it up.
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sapphire
11-24-2005, 10:28 PM
mashallah sis..jazakallah for that...
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TEH
11-24-2005, 10:42 PM
Except for the prepare your strategy bit, everything else was very cool...

:)
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baby_muslimah15
11-25-2005, 06:39 AM
Salaamz, that was a great post.....JazakAllah Khair 4 sharing it!!...Hollaz
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Naheezah
11-25-2005, 08:01 AM
Salaamz!

gr8 post sis, mashaAllah!!!! keep it up!!!!

wassalaam.
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aishaz
11-27-2005, 10:54 AM
Assalamoualaikum Wa Rahmatul Allahi Wa Barakatuh

Jazak Allah for all your replies, support and encouragement...

Islam is free and must be spread throughout the World and it starts first in our own house...

So anyone who want to take the articles and use for the sake of spreading Islam and to obtain reward from Allah(SWT), they are mostly invited...

Wassalaam,

Aisha
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s_123_v
11-27-2005, 02:41 PM
Salamz, that was a great true post
May Allah give us the energy to stay away from these things
Jakallah
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Protected_Diamond
11-27-2005, 03:13 PM
:sl: warhmatulahi wabarakthu

Mahsa Allah jazahka Allah khair for the tips :loving: beautiful and intresting article

:w: warhmatulahi wabarakthu
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Bint-Al-Islam
11-28-2005, 01:58 AM
As-salam alekum wr wb
Great Thread MashaAllah..
Thanx for sharing it.. :)
Walekum-salam wr wb
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Salema
12-07-2005, 01:31 AM
gr8..post sis thnxs 4 shring..
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