critisism and islam

Can the Islamic faith ever be truly at peace in a society with freedom of speach? More to the point can muslims as individuals ever find peace when they live in a world where inevitably people will critisise their beliefs, books and prophet?

Surely the teaching of loving Mohammed more than youre own family makes this an impossibility?

If this is the case where do we go from here?

It is human nature to debate, enquire, critisise, lampoon and sometimes even insult.

So either human nature changes or Islam has to soften its heart and either introduce a teaching of compassion for people who are percieved to have insulted Allah and his prophet.

Allah will do all the punishing, no need for a day of anger etc.

There is no need for anger at all, you only need to have compassion for the Danish cartoonists because according to Islam they will be punished by Allah when they die??

Is it possible to reform Islam or introduce new ideas like compassion for people who you percieve to have insulted Islam, when Islam is supposed to be the word of Allah himself.

Can it reform to be more flexible to different and conflicting ideas in a complex world???????????