I was in my local bookshop today, and I was going to buy a book (duh, lol!)...I cant remeber what it was called but it was pretty adamant that the reason that women inherit less, etc. was because they are inferior.
As in, their husbands are supposed to provide for them, and that that therefore is pathetic.
I was just thinking though...If women get less because their menfolk are supposed to look after them, then would a man who inherits more than his sister be expected to put say, half of the total inherited towards the care of his family, whereas she could keep hers for herself?
Im confused, lol!
The woman who wrote the book didnt seem to be much of a muslim (is she was one at all) to me, from the things she was saying, and it really distressed me to see books that portray Islam as negative towards women being sold as intro guides to Islam!
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A word of hope will call to every woman and man.
A light until the end of time,
This is our Islam.
The man has to use his wealth to support the wife/children etc. since that is an obligation upon him. Whereas the woman keeps hers without having to spend on her husband. Even if she's wealthier than him, and if she were to use her wealth on the husband/children etc. then that would be a form of charity on her behalf, and inshaa Allaah she would be rewarded for that by Allaah.
So in reality that isn't because she's inferior, but because that is her right. It's so ironic how people try to attack the good that women get in Islaam by portraying it as something negative. It shows their pure hatred for the truth, and Allaah will deal with them.
I was in my local bookshop today, and I was going to buy a book (duh, lol!)...I cant remeber what it was called but it was pretty adamant that the reason that women inherit less, etc. was because they are inferior.
As in, their husbands are supposed to provide for them, and that that therefore is pathetic.
im sorry sister im a little confused, are you calling the laws of Allah pathetic (audhubillah!!)? please forgive me if i misunderstood.
I was just thinking though...If women get less because their menfolk are supposed to look after them, then would a man who inherits more than his sister be expected to put say, half of the total inherited towards the care of his family, whereas she could keep hers for herself?
Im confused, lol!
as bro fi-sab explained, women get less because they dont have to share it whereas men must spend it all in the way of their family. it makes sense to me because women need dowry right for security, therefore they inherit this for security, whereas man work for dowry and men work to look after the family. If a woman can work then let her do so, it still doesnt mean you have to share your money.
and the wisdom of Allah is greatest, so lets not question it as Allah knows best
The woman who wrote the book didnt seem to be much of a muslim (is she was one at all) to me, from the things she was saying, and it really distressed me to see books that portray Islam as negative towards women being sold as intro guides to Islam!
lets not judge the woman or her intentions inshaAllah
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My tears testify that i have a heart
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The statement that men are a degree above women means that authority within the household has been give to the husband in preference to the wife because a heavier burden has been placed on his shoulders by another verse of the Quran which says:
Men shall take full care of women, because Allah has given the one more strength than the other, and because they support them from their means.Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard ... Qur'an [4 : 34]
The statement of Allah in the chapter `Woman':
`Men are protectors and maintainers of women ...'
Qur'an [4 : 34]
im sorry sister im a little confused, are you calling the laws of Allah pathetic (audhubillah!!)? please forgive me if i misunderstood.
as bro fi-sab explained, women get less because they dont have to share it whereas men must spend it all in the way of their family. it makes sense to me because women need dowry right for security, therefore they inherit this for security, whereas man work for dowry and men work to look after the family. If a woman can work then let her do so, it still doesnt mean you have to share your money.
and the wisdom of Allah is greatest, so lets not question it as Allah knows best
lets not judge the woman or her intentions inshaAllah
No, lol, I meant that she was making out that that Muslim women were pathetic and oppressed.
I didnt mean to sound like I was judging her. I just get irritated when people cant live and let live, or when they deliberately misrepresent things...
I thought I was thinking along the right lines about men providing for their families ...I just wanted to check with people who know more than me ^_^
A whisper of peace,
Moving through the land.
Allah will surely run to us if we hold out our hands.
A word of hope will call to every woman and man.
A light until the end of time,
This is our Islam.
in other words we relax while they work their ahems off
Unless we really wana go out there and work
Oh how great Allah (Swt) is...Allahu akbar
AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
wa alaikum as-salaam sis
alhamdulillah for the men in our lives and may Allah ta'ala bless them and give them rewards in abundance for their hard work in maintaining and protecting their women and families. ameen
But sis, sis - RELAX?!! No chance lol I don't know any wife/mum who spends even half a minute of the day relaxing. I was an office manager before I got married & worked about 10 hours a day, plus the commuting time (nightmare in rush hour on the underground). well it was a doddle compared to now (3 kids masha'Allah). Still I don't want to go back to work bcos it's so rewarding being a mum, insha'allah not just this life but the next. Alhamdulillah.
I'm not complaining just that it made me laugh when you said women relax while the men work.
i know men suck when it comes to dealing with kidz.
loll
not really, ma dad was like my mum bro , wallahi pure love!! always makin sure we hav medecine, always seein if we workin etc, always seein how we feel lol, he was always there, even massaged me loads
( may Allah have mercy o him )
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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hehehehe...'men suck wen it comes to kidz' good one....its not like that actually...its just they have been given more responsibilities by Allah than us women....didn't I hear someone say..the less responsibility one has the better!!!? lol
So a woman's husband dies and she gets little of his money because his family or hers is supposed to support her? What is the woman's family isn't muslim and says it is her job to support her and the kids (or she has no family at all) or her husbands family didn't like her and refuses to help her. What then?
"The only thing neccesary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing." - E. Burke
"We have just enough religion to hate but not enough to love one another" -Jonathan Swift
If people's situation is so bad, then obviously they are dependent on charity and zakaat. But this does not means the laws which Allah made with regard to inheritance can be changed by man.
So a woman's husband dies and she gets little of his money because his family or hers is supposed to support her? What is the woman's family isn't muslim and says it is her job to support her and the kids (or she has no family at all) or her husbands family didn't like her and refuses to help her. What then?
I think the sister who started the thread was talking about the inheritance which the father leaves for his offspring, i'm not totally sure about the issue of what the husband leaves for his wife etc.
If i find any info on it, i'll post up inshaa Allaah.
So a woman's husband dies and she gets little of his money because his family or hers is supposed to support her? What is the woman's family isn't muslim and says it is her job to support her and the kids (or she has no family at all) or her husbands family didn't like her and refuses to help her. What then?
get married again
dont worry , Allahs provided so many avenues for those who are less fortunate.
Trust me, the woman will be allright inshaAllah
and any hardship she takes inshaAllah she will be rewarded for it!
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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So a woman's husband dies and she gets little of his money because his family or hers is supposed to support her? What is the woman's family isn't muslim and says it is her job to support her and the kids (or she has no family at all) or her husbands family didn't like her and refuses to help her. What then?
The laws of inheritance can actually be quite complex, but one thing to say straight away is that the share of the female (eg wife, mother) is fixed and the other heirs are residual, meaning that the wife (&/or mother) will get their proportion first, and the rest is shared among the others. This means that in case there are a lot of other heirs the wife or mother's share will actually be more than the other individuals' shares.
There are many ways for a couple to protect the wife's interests in case the husband dies. As a stay-at-home mum of 3 small children I (and my husband) are keen to make sure that I am not left in financial difficulties in case the worse happens. Islamic inheritance laws are flexible enough for these situations. For example, a Muslim can leave one third of his estate to whomever he chooses so a wife can request that he chooses to leave this to her
Also, most couples will be joint owners of the property they live in even if the husband is the one who pays the (halal) mortgage. If you're not then get yourself on the deeds pronto unless you are independently rich. so in case the husband died, if the wife gets one third of his half as well as one eighth or whatever her usual share is, this should leave her fairly secure.
We did research this subject and the information here is to the best of my knowledge and is specific to my husband's circumstances eg his heirs are his mother, myself and 4 sons. Every Muslim should seek advice of a knowledgeable person for his/her own will.
I seek refuge in Allah (The One God) from the Satan (devil) the cursed, the rejected
With the name of ALLAH (swt) -The Bestower Of Unlimited Mercy, The Continously Merciful
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh (May the peace, mercy and blessings of Allah be upon you)
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format_quote Originally Posted by tomtomsmom
So a woman's husband dies and she gets little of his money ....
-- I did not read the whole thread . There are many scopes to help any needy person in Islam. As already one mentions zakat can be given to her if she is poor.
Women get due share with or without kids , kids get their shares in dad's property , if dad is poor & grand pa is rich , he can give upto 1/3 to his grandchilden etc .
Insha Allah , i will try to browse fatwa about women's rights on husbands property , if u need to know more
Christ will never be proud to reject to be a slave to God .....holy Quran, chapter Women , 4: 172
may Allah swt makes us not from among ignorants, amongs those who speak about something for which they have no knowledge at all. May Allah save us from being citizens of hell-fire.
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