In my family some members are non-believers. I found it hard to reason with them as they don't accept Allah (swt). My brother smokes and drinks and when i want to talk to him he says it isn't my business. Should i give him up or do something else? I do not know what to do anymore
In my family some members are non-believers. I found it hard to reason with them as they don't accept Allah (swt). My brother smokes and drinks and when i want to talk to him he says it isn't my business. Should i give him up or do something else? I do not know what to do anymore
Yes it is hard, BUT remember that the more you are gentle with them, the more they will love Islam. It is not easy BUT it is the BEST way. Remember that our prophet SAWS has been always in trouble with closest people to him, but he has been always the most gentle person lived on earth.
Yes it is hard, BUT remember that the more you are gentle with them, the more they will love Islam. It is not easy BUT it is the BEST way. Remember that our prophet SAWS has been always in trouble with closest people to him, but he has been always the most gentle person lived on earth.
Assalamu'Alaykum brother, thank you for your reply. Do you also know some surra's that may inspire him?
i am taking your advice and try to be as gentle as possible.
In my family some members are non-believers. I found it hard to reason with them as they don't accept Allah (swt). My brother smokes and drinks and when i want to talk to him he says it isn't my business. Should i give him up or do something else? I do not know what to do anymore
Well, the more you're trying to influence them, the more they will be pigheaded.
Smoking is a bad habit, muslim or not.
And please, do me a favor, drop this 'non-believer' thing. At least, be decent, and say 'different-believer' or simply non-mulsims
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I think, first of all we should also become a role model for others then say some thing to other. smoking and drinking is habit addiction. be polite. and most of all pray for them, GOD can do what we cant.
Dear Pray for him Allah will bless him, i have experience my younger brother was rude person when asked he had never listened to us, but now alhamdulillah Allah has blessed him with his Blessings.
In my family some members are non-believers. I found it hard to reason with them as they don't accept Allah (swt). My brother smokes and drinks and when i want to talk to him he says it isn't my business. Should i give him up or do something else? I do not know what to do anymore
its very disgrace to hear this brother...inshallah allah will surely guide him right path.....
be kind to him ...try to tell him this is not good habit wen he is in relaxed situation,since he is ur brother u know obiviously wen he will accept advice.. ..."ALCOHOL IS THE MOTHER OF ALL EVILS AND IT IS THE MOST SHAMEFULL OF EVILS"-----In sunan-IBN_MAJAH volume 3,BOOK of INTOXICANTS ,chapter 30 hadith N0.3371
its very disgrace to hear this brother...inshallah allah will surely guide him right path.....
be kind to him ...try to tell him this is not good habit wen he is in relaxed situation,since he is ur brother u know obiviously wen he will accept advice.. ..."ALCOHOL IS THE MOTHER OF ALL EVILS AND IT IS THE MOST SHAMEFULL OF EVILS"-----In sunan-IBN_MAJAH volume 3,BOOK of INTOXICANTS ,chapter 30 hadith N0.3371
If your force your ways upon another they'll reject them. Make it so, that they themselves appraoch you to understand about Islam (in this case) Show how easy it is, and how it isn't life changing (Spirtually it is) he won't have to become a hermit.
Get them invloved with Islamic things. After awhile, it'll all fall into place.
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All you can do is ask du'aa that Allah opens his heart. the best way for you to try to get your bro on-track is dat u make him understand the greatness of Islam, that u show him proofs frm da Quran, that Islam is the true religion, and insha'Allah, he will revert back
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Yes it is hard, BUT remember that the more you are gentle with them, the more they will love Islam. It is not easy BUT it is the BEST way. Remember that our prophet SAWS has been always in trouble with closest people to him, but he has been always the most gentle person lived on earth.
AuthibiAllah, be more gentle the more they love Islam? Can you show me that Hadith or Ayah? I have never heard that ever from any scholar
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With regards to the topic brother, do not call your brother to stop drinking or smoking first. The first thing you should call an unbeliver to is Tawhid. This was the way of the Prophet, as has been mentioned in the narration of Mu'adh if I am not mistaken, when he sent him to Yemen, and told him to call the people to Tawheed, if they accept then to prayer and so forth.
If your brother gives up alchol/smoking/etc he will still be an unbeliever, and the good deeds are not accepted. The belief is the Important part, rectify that then move on to matters like smoking and so forth.
and Allah knows best, if you'd like to know more then please ask and I'll try type directly from scholarly works.
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