My parents want me to do Medicine or Engineering. (Needless to say that I am Desi.)
Yet, those two subjects are the ONLY two subjects I refuse to study. I want to go into Business Admin, Economics, etc, in that genre. I would like to study History/English as well, but that's probably even more unacceptable.
So my question is... Should I remain steadfast in my decision? I mean, it's my life at the end of the day and I have to live with my degree. I honestly cannot stand seeing me work on Computer Programming 10 hours a day, 5 days a week. You have no time for anything else, and being on the computer the whole day in such a restricted, mathematical environment would make anyone cranky.
In addition, everyone I know that has a computer science degree says they hate their jobs and they wish they never chose it. And I'm talking about 5-10 people. I gave it a try this semester but I do not want to do it. I'm finishing the course because I started it, but I can't live my life like that.
My parents want me to do Medicine or Engineering. (Needless to say that I am Desi.)
Yet, those two subjects are the ONLY two subjects I refuse to study. I want to go into Business Admin, Economics, etc, in that genre. I would like to study History/English as well, but that's probably even more unacceptable.
So my question is... Should I remain steadfast in my decision? I mean, it's my life at the end of the day and I have to live with my degree. I honestly cannot stand seeing me work on Computer Programming 10 hours a day, 5 days a week. You have no time for anything else, and being on the computer the whole day in such a restricted, mathematical environment would make anyone cranky.
In addition, everyone I know that has a computer science degree says they hate their jobs and they wish they never chose it. And I'm talking about 5-10 people. I gave it a try this semester but I do not want to do it. I'm finishing the course because I started it, but I can't live my life like that.
Any advice?
Why dont you like medicine? In the end do something which you like and which will help your unique persona to do what Allah wants you to do. Parent's wishes must be recognized and respected but not necessarily obeyed if they are not of such nature.
Help me to escape from this existence
I yearn for an answer... can you help me?
I'm drowning in a sea of abused visions and shattered dreams
In somnolent illusion... I'm paralyzed
Parents are parents particularly immigrant parents all want their kids to be doctors, I don't know why? You should major in what you want and will give you job satisfaction in the future you don't want to end up in a career that you don't like and you can't get out of because you invested so much time and money in it. but you shouldnt disregard your parents wishes, explain your choices to them and always abtain their blessings in whatever you do.
salam
I respect their wishes, and it does give me the confidence that they think I'm good enough for a degree of such caliber. It is only because I respect their wishes that I am abstaining from History and English.
Everyone cannot be a doctor or an engineer. To be honest, I would actually love to be a doctor but I have better plans for my years than to take a humongous loan and spend over a decade of my life to reach the desired salary and pay off the debt. Plus, I am very sensitive to seeing blood etc... Long story about that. I get a little nauseated.
Anyway, about Engineering... I've seen Engineers. Their life is office - home, office-home. There is no extra curricular time.
Don't end up doing something chosen for you by your parents, or the desire to make money, or prestige—or sheer inertia. You should be doing something you not only enjoy, but admire. Think of the future, where do you see yourself in 10, 20, 50 years? Do you really want to live in a world where you are doing something you don't like?
It is not worth suffering through something if you don't enjoy it.
Last edited by Life_Is_Short; 02-03-2010 at 01:26 AM.
Keep in mind choosing a major does not always lead to a career in the expected field. depending if you use the major as an end or as a beginning. It is only a small percentage of those who choose a premed major that go on to Med School. Most schools do not have an actual premed major but have a premed program in which the student selects a preferred major such as biology or chemistry and additional courses related to the field. Since most will never be accepted for med school it also helps prepare them for alternative career selections.
An actual pre-med major is a poor choice because if the graduate is not accepted for Med school, it ends up as wasted years of study, with no alternate preparation.
The same can be said for engineering.
So I suggest you check out the pre-med or pre-engineering PROGRAMS
available to you and from there check out the Majors acceptable for either. Choose the program that pleases your family and select the major that suits you. As you pursue your own aptitudes and desires will become the deciding factor as to if you will continue in Med or engineering or be directed towards an alternative career choice.
You are in the very early days of your undergrad years. Right now your preparation is to concentrate on acceptance into a graduate program. Each step will take you in the direction of either an immediate career or further preparation for a differnt career. Always think in terms of alternate careers as you travel through the halls of academia and never look at not being accepted in a career as failure, look at it as success in being guided to the career best for you.
Parents are parents particularly immigrant parents all want their kids to be doctors, I don't know why? You should major in what you want and will give you job satisfaction in the future you don't want to end up in a career that you don't like and you can't get out of because you invested so much time and money in it. but you shouldnt disregard your parents wishes, explain your choices to them and always abtain their blessings in whatever you do.
salam
I am sorry to say but this is a gross generalization. What do you mean by immigrants? If you are talking about the North Americas, where I live, then do know that Caucasians here are also immigrants, they just do not want it to be public. The land was stolen from the natives. I digress.
If you look at the class profile of medical schools across North America, the locals outweigh the "immigrants" that you talk about in the classes. Mind looking at facts first? Yes, many desi brown people want their children to be doctors, so do "non-immigrant" white people. And so do the Chinese. They want it because its a respectable profession and requires higher amount of mental ability and personal qualities as well. If you talk to doctors who graduate from American medical schools, most of them are the most versatile people you will ever meet. You will see musicians, olympic medalists, dancers, scientists etc among them. Its a sought-after profession. Thats why most people want it.
Last edited by CosmicPathos; 02-03-2010 at 02:54 AM.
Help me to escape from this existence
I yearn for an answer... can you help me?
I'm drowning in a sea of abused visions and shattered dreams
In somnolent illusion... I'm paralyzed
I am sorry to say but this is a gross generalization. What do you mean by immigrants? If you are talking about the North Americas, where I live, then do know that Caucasians here are also immigrants, they just do not want it to be public. The land was stolen from the natives. I digress.
If you look at the class profile of medical schools across North America, the locals outweigh the "immigrants" that you talk about in the classes. Mind looking at facts first? Yes, many desi brown people want their children to be doctors, so do "non-immigrant" white people. And so do the Chinese. They want it because its a respectable profession and requires higher amount of mental ability and personal qualities as well. If you talk to doctors who graduate from American medical schools, most of them are the most versatile people you will ever meet. You will see musicians, olympic medalists, dancers, scientists etc among them. Its a sought-after profession. Thats why most people want it.
umm it was a joke i'm an immigrant myself and yes us "immigrants" "desi" or not put great emphasis on specific careers particularly doctors and anything in the medical field.
salam
umm it was a joke i'm an immigrant myself and yes us "immigrants" "desi" or not put great emphasis on specific careers particularly doctors and anything in the medical field.
salam
All taken in good fun.
But really though. It's so stressful. I'm researching a bit on the major and taking out some convincing points to present before the higher authorities. :X
I think you better be steadfast in your decision... Especially if your parents are okay with it.
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
^^^ akhee...but i know alot of engineers who at the end of day work in IT industry. Even those who are major in chemical engineering
Maybe you should try to f ind something that can satisfy both yourself and your parents
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
Higher Authorities?? That was pretty humorous lol. As the majority of the brothers and sisters said, "Choose a major which you take joy in, and that gives you personal fulfillment." Yes, it's completely understandable that you want to take your parents recommendations into consideration, but you always have the option of not necessarily following through with their "intended plan." We're all faced with the decision of deciding what career path to follow in our college years, and it's completely okay to change majors here and there. Studies actually shows 80% of college undergrads. change majors at least once in their college careers. Play around a bit, try getting volunteer or internship opportunities in your intended career, whatever that might be.Make sure to update your parents, and pray salah istikhara inshallah. Hope everything works out for you inshallah.
Higher Authorities?? That was pretty humorous lol. As the majority of the brothers and sisters said, "Choose a major which you take joy in, and that gives you personal fulfillment." Yes, it's completely understandable that you want to take your parents recommendations into consideration, but you always have the option of not necessarily following through with their "intended plan." We're all faced with the decision of deciding what career path to follow in our college years, and it's completely okay to change majors here and there. Studies actually shows 80% of college undergrads. change majors at least once in their college careers. Play around a bit, try getting volunteer or internship opportunities in your intended career, whatever that might be.Make sure to update your parents, and pray salah istikhara inshallah. Hope everything works out for you inshallah.
Highest Regards,
Umm Hadiyyah
Jazakumullahu Khair. That was very beneficial!
Well, I am currently taking an internship in journalism Alhamdulillah. But that's not my intended major.
I took a course in CS, and am so far not liking it. I took a course in Econ last semester and loved it! So based off that, I am making my decision.
You can balance just so many opinions on one plate. I sincerely wish I had time for them all, but with the limited number of time, I must choose whichever I am most suitable in living with.
Perhaps CS would be more prestigious, easier to find a job, and most likely higher paying. It's really all so stressful.
I have never been so concerned in and about my life as I am this semester.
All taken in good fun. Alhamdulilah I didn't mean it an offensive manner.
But really though. It's so stressful. I'm researching a bit on the major and taking out some convincing points to present before the higher authorities.
My parents also wanted me to go to medical school or at the very least study nursing. I'm guessing that they want you to be a doctor because Doctors and nurses like teachers are guaranteed jobs and are always needed everywhere in the world, so research would be a great next step in convincing your parents. Show them how many good jobs you can get in the subject you want to major in. They probably don't want you to study a course with very little job prospects.
salam
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