Love before marriage can be complicated to say the least. Most of us will have someone we like for marriage. We often notice that person and the little things they do, and we say to ourselves” Hey, I’d like to marry that person”. The problem is that we’ve been too influenced by our society. TV., movies cause us to feel a void in our lives. So we create this imaginary “Romeo and Juliet” –type scenario to fill it. One will find themselves in a flux between reality and fiction. Surprisingly, even we macho brothers do it sometimes (Though we’ll never dare tell anyone). Often times one will think that they’re in love with someone, but in reality, they’re just in love with the idea of loving someone. TV. and movies are all make-believe. The scenarios they portray about love can’t be plugged into real-life situations. So as Muslims we should remain pragmatic and not let our emotions get the best of us. I’m not saying that it’s wrong to like or even love someone before marriage; Marriages don’t have to be 100% arranged. It’s good to like a person before you marry them, granted you don’t transcend the limits set by Allah (SWT). The Prophet (SAW) acknowledged that two people who aren’t married can fall in love. He (SAW) once said: “The best thing to do for two people who are in love, is to get married.”
Just don’t get too attached to the idea of a particular person because a lot of times it doesn’t work out, and could lead to heartache. And it’s usually for naught, considering that you wouldn’t really know that person unless you were married to them; and, also considering that marriage is predestined anyway. Remember, the goal is marriage, not the person. If you find that you’re constantly thinking about someone- and just absolutely have to marry them- you‘re probably in the area of extreme love.
Since haraam types of love can be out of our control, they won’t necessarily earn us a sin; we earn a sin if we act on those feelings. But the matter can get more serious than just earning a sin. Loving haraam things can eventually lead to us negating our emaan.
i love some people therefore when i get married id have loved before marriage correct?
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
Correct. How much you love them before marriage is the real question.
I think i know why love marriage CAN BE haram.
Love marriage doesnt have to be haram. I believe if things are done the correct way then its completely halal. BUT there is one big problem is love marriage. One big problem.
I would argue that love does not exist, or it does not exist in the notion that most believe that it does. Go ahead and flame me for being a cold, bad person for saying this.
I would argue that love does not exist, or it does not exist in the notion that most believe that it does. Go ahead and flame me for being a cold, bad person for saying this.
for inner peace, and a clear conciounce... avoid the pre-marital stuff
seriously.
why get married with a ton over your shoulders...
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
You i know what ur saying 100% right.
There is a matter of opinion here. Cause i have seen many arrange marriages (in the right sense), that havent worked out at all, and then i have seen many love marriages (in the right sense) work out really well. So from my experience, id prefer love than arranged, but never harram.
You dont need love to make a marriage work ( maybe stay unhappy all your life though). But if you have love then it is easier to make marriage work!!!
and using your famous quote:
Why get married to have a ton over your shoulders.
Correct. How much you love them before marriage is the real question.
Love marriage doesnt have to be haram. I believe if things are done the correct way then its completely halal. BUT there is one big problem is love marriage. One big problem.
FiAmaaniAllah
The one big problem: PARENTS
X meets Y,
Y loves X,
X wanna marry Y,
Y's parents goes mad!
And heres the scene.......
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pakistani parent:
love..................before marriage :enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!:
what have i done to bring this day upon myself, somebody get me a paracetomol, this will be the end of me, is this what i raised you up to be!!!!!:enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!::enough !::enough!::enough!:i didnt even see your father until 6 months AFTER the marriage!!!!! , what will become of this generation, wheres my paracetomol!!!!!:enough!:
i wonder what the prophet would make of this outburst?
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
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..........before marriage :enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!::enough!:
i wonder what the prophet would make of this outburst?
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