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    On the authority of al-Asma‘ī, that he said, “I was once walking in the village when I came across a stone. Someone had written on it:

    أيا معشر العشاق بالله خبروا **** إذا حل عشق بالفتى كيف يصنع
    O lovers! By Allah, tell me!
    If a young man is overcome by love, what should he do?

    So I wrote underneath it:

    يداوي هواه ثم يكتم سره **** ويخشع في كل الأمور ويخضع
    Let him treat his desire, then conceal his secret
    And humble himself in every matter and submit (before his Lord)

    I returned the next day and I found written underneath it:

    فكيف يداوي والهوى قاتل الفتى **** وفي كل يوم قلبه يتقطع
    But how can it be treated when that desire fights the man
    And every day his heart is torn to pieces?!

    So I wrote underneath it:

    إذا لم يجد صبراً لكتمان سره **** فليس له شيء سوى الموت أنفع
    If he is unable to be patient with concealing his secret
    Then there is nothing for him except death that will benefit!

    I then returned on the third day to find a young man lying dead at the stone. I said, ‘Lā hawla wa lā quwwata illā billāhil-‘Alī’l-‘Adhīm!’ and found that he had written before his death:

    سمعنا , أطعنا , ثم متنا فبلغوا **** سلامي إلى من كان للوصل يمنع
    We have heard and we have obeyed; now we have died so tell everyone
    My salām to the one who prevented me from attaining her.

    (Narrated by al-Abshīhī in al-Mustatrif, 1/410)


    So dear brothers and sisters, next time we give advice to such people, just remember you’re dealing with hearts full of love not vessels full of stone.

    Now a little about al-Imam, al-Hafidh: Al-Asma‘ī.

    Al-Asma‘ī was one of the early Imams and leading scholars of Arabic, Grammar and Poetry. He narrated from some of the greatest scholars in Islam such as Imām Mālik, Imām al-Shāfi‘ī, Ibn ‘Awn, Ibn Abi’l-Zinād, ‘Atā b. Abi Rabāh, Hammād b. Salamah, Shu‘bah and many others.

    He was praised by the major Imams of the Salaf, including Imām Ahmed, Imām al-Shāfi‘ī and Ibn Ma‘īn who said about him, “Asma‘ī is the most knowledgeable of all in his field.”

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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

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    i think because he was such a religious/learned person,and so much respect was given to them, the guy took advice really seriously.
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

    إذا لم يجد صبراً لكتمان سره **** فليس له شيء سوى الموت أنفع
    If he is unable to be patient with concealing his secret
    Then there is nothing for him except death that will benefit!
    Subhanallah...indeed true love is deep...
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

    format_quote Originally Posted by Abu Sayyad View Post
    Personally, I think he died of grief because of the second to last line, but I don't think it would have mattered either way...
    You really think it wouldn't have mattered? Allah knows best. The whole story is very touching, subhanAllah... JazakAllah kheyr for sharing!
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

    format_quote Originally Posted by Al-Zaara View Post
    You really think it wouldn't have mattered? Allah knows best. The whole story is very touching, subhanAllah... JazakAllah kheyr for sharing!
    Barakallah Feekum. I don't know..I think it's inconsequential how he died..the point being that he died out of love. I mean we know that suicide is forbidden...so I think either way the point is 'incorrect advise to a person deeply in love --> really bad things can happen'. Allaah knows best..
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

    True in many ways but sometimes love can destroy and a parent who oversees that will only seek to destroy it before it destroys their child... An understandable act of love and defence. But yes sometimes love can be good for us and whether we like it or not, some types of love just aren't ever meant to benefit us.
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    ...I wonder at the one who extends his right hand
    To his beloved at the time of seperation and he hastens therein!
    I felt weak and incapable of saying farewell when I saw him
    So my heart shook his hand whilst my eye wept....
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

    Thanks for the story.
    It's really worrying though, as previously mentioned that parents don't communicate with their kids appropriately and just give orders and expect complete obedience (Not all parents)
    And definitely, when giving advice one should always take into account the situation and give advice accordingly as opposed to making life seem black and white...
    I feel sad now.
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

    dont feel sad, im sure Allah forgave him, and then made the girl die too so they are can live in Jannah happily ever after.

    or maybe Allah gave him a few hoors and he forgot all about her.
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!


    jazakallahu khair...

    but what really buffels me about some people who are in love is when one of them dosnt have an interest in the other, but he/she still want to be with them, even though the other person doesnt want to be with them. i dont get that...i would have thought that if its unrequited, it would have been easier for the person to move on...
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

    if the moral of the story is that we should be cautious when giving advice, then i believe the guy killed himself.

    also, 'keeping the secret' and 'attaining her' are so not the same thing....what?
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

    Wow, that's a great lesson to learn and use in our own life's. I know there may be times we say something to someone that we could have said in a better way.

    Thanks for sharing with us..

    Jazak Allah Khair
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

    the story sounds doubtful, a few lines of poetry and the guy dies on a rock or whatever
    oh well..
    love is an undefinable concept for the most part, rather companionship and respect are more important for a relationship to survive.
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    Re: Be Easy with The Lovers!

    the story sounds doubtful, a few lines of poetry and the guy dies on a rock or whatever
    AssalamuAlaykum

    He was 'heartbroken', in a great deal of emotional pain...Wallahu A'lam.

    love is an undefinable concept for the most part, rather companionship and respect are more important for a relationship to survive
    True.

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