fan? lol well not for me but im not against it either.
and yes ive seen many successful marriages alhamdullilah
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
if its allah made it halal then there is nothing wrong with it but if its simply awkward to some then thats perfectly fine....everyone has a distinctive choice
and i chose 'yes'
and i have also witnessed many happy marriages of this kind mashallah
Last edited by Cabdullahi; 12-26-2008 at 08:25 PM.
I'm indifferent towards it. I know of some in my family that have worked alhamdulillah. I wouldn't marry a cousin though, because I simply don't have any similarities with most of 'em on one side and on the other side only one is older than me...
"...You are my Walî in this world and in the Hereafter. Cause me to die as a Muslim, and join me with the righteous." [Surah Yusuf 101]
This is one of those instances where you can't take an example from somewhere and apply it elsewhere.
Some individuals may have relatives who were married and stayed married till the day they died, that doesn't mean to say everyone should look up their single cousins!
Other individuals will have known some uncles, aunties or cousins who have not had such good marriages, that doesn't mean to say you should discourage everyone from it.
You know, I read the title and was gonna answer, yes, I love going to relatives weddings to help out and that, you know, like family do!
Then I read the replies and realised you meant like marriage within family. My answer's no.
Personal opinion that is. I've seen some happy cousin marriages and some not so happy ones.
The problem with the not so happy family marriages is that they have greater repurcussions than in say, non- cousin marriages coz if it leads to divorce, then whole family gets involved and yada yada yada.
I know it's permissible, but I personally don't like the idea.
Last edited by Musaafirah; 12-29-2008 at 08:10 PM.
Reason: Changed wording.
You know, I read the title and was gonna answer, yes, I love going to relatives weddings to help out and that, you know, like family do!
Then I read the replies and realised you meant like marriage within family. My answer's no.
Personal opinion that is. I've seen some happy cousin marriages and some not so happy ones.
The problem with the not so happy family marriages is that they have greater repurcussions than in say, non- cousin marriages coz if it leads to divorce, then whole family gets involved and yada yada yada.
I know it's permissible, but I personally am against it.
sister,do you think you should be saying things like that? -(the words i have highlighted) i mean you might dislike it but you shouldnt be against what Allah has made lawful
forgive me if i have offended you it was not my intention
Last edited by Ar-RaYYan; 12-26-2008 at 10:42 PM.
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What kind of relatives? Cousins to Cousins. If that's the case no because the people one sees growing up as a baby and than marrying your son or daughter. I wouldn't recommend it to happen.
I found some words contrary to relative marriage in Ihya of Imam Gazali.But I think I cant back up it for now.SO I wont write it here.But the reason there is the possible weakness of children of this sort of marriage.Anyways, I have found a fact that every muslim would know.
"The basic principle is that marriage is permissible. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) married Zaynab bint Jahsh who was the daughter of his paternal aunt, and he gave his daughter Zaynab in marriage to Abu’l-‘Aas who was the son of her maternal aunt, and ‘Ali married Faatimah, and he was the son of her father’s paternal uncle."quote
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