Is marriage obligatory for a man who has does not have any desire for women or children and also does not have the means to support them because of poverty ?
According to the below hadith :
"And he who cannot marry should fast because fasting breaks those unwanted feelings.” (Muslim – Book of Marriage)
So a man who cannot marry , has to fast all his life except for the 2 days of Eid ul Fitr and Eid ul Adha in order to enter paradise?
Why in the world dont you wanna get married ??! i mean what are you going to lose....a bit of cash but a radiant face resting on the pillow next to you in the morning is something you should have desire for
I actually agree with Abdullahi on this one.. (maybe you should call the newspapers)
Yes , as you can see from the very last post, that they have responded Just a bit suprised as to why you've brought this up now.
Well. because i only found this thread. so Khayr Insha`Allaah
sorry to bring it back up now, i didnt know..
"Allah! La ilaha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He), Al-Hayyul-Qayyum (the Ever Living, the One Who sustains and protects all that exists).".."[Al Qur'aan 3:2]
no, you dont have to get married. marriage is no obligatory. it only becomes obligatory if someone has a great fear of committing zina. but, if someone doesnt, then they can stay single all they wont. it is not haram to not get married!
i see that many users are asking "why don't you want to get married?" certainly, marriage is appealing to the vast majority of the population, which is why the majority of people have been married at some point in their lives. however, some people just dont want to get married. some people are so busy with their jobs they just dont care to start dating. others are just so independent that they dont want a significant other to interfere with their lives. others just dont want kids and know that if they get married(especially to a muslim), that the other spouse will more than likely want a kid!
marriage is encouraged and is certainly a great thing. but, it's not obligatory.
no, you dont have to get married. marriage is no obligatory. it only becomes obligatory if someone has a great fear of committing zina. but, if someone doesnt, then they can stay single all they wont. it is not haram to not get married!
i see that many users are asking "why don't you want to get married?" certainly, marriage is appealing to the vast majority of the population, which is why the majority of people have been married at some point in their lives. however, some people just dont want to get married. some people are so busy with their jobs they just dont care to start dating. others are just so independent that they dont want a significant other to interfere with their lives. others just dont want kids and know that if they get married(especially to a muslim), that the other spouse will more than likely want a kid!
marriage is encouraged and is certainly a great thing. but, it's not obligatory.
as salamu aleyka sheikhunal kabir bila daleel tafadhal tafadhal
Last edited by Cabdullahi; 01-12-2010 at 11:58 PM.
ud have to get married or u would fall in to zina this is why its obviously sunnah to marry if you fear Allah swt and you want to protect yourself from these major sins that will most likely send one to the helfire on not acting in accordance to the sunnah and the reason for this sin because we are human with sexual desires especially men have a higher sex drive then most women and don't say that masturbation is the answer because you would soon get bored of that and a persons mind tends to wonder to perverted things being single for so long especially when that person is alone, no partner etc this is what happens. masturbation is not the answer and dosent satisfy properly and you can talk with a married person about this that real satisfaction is sexual intercourse
true but some sisters opt not to get married because they are not affected by sexual desire as men are, rather they might long for companionship and a home children but then opt not to for different reasons.
call me biased but i think men are more likely to fall into zina being unmarried that women
Allah does Know Best
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ud have to get married or u would fall in to zina this is why its obviously sunnah to marry if you fear Allah swt and you want to protect yourself from these major sins that will most likely send one to the helfire on not acting in accordance to the sunnah and the reason for this sin because we are human with sexual desires especially men have a higher sex drive then most women and don't say that masturbation is the answer because you would soon get bored of that and a persons mind tends to wonder to perverted things being single for so long especially when that person is alone, no partner etc this is what happens. masturbation is not the answer and dosent satisfy properly and you can talk with a married person about this that real satisfaction is sexual intercourse
true but some sisters opt not to get married because they are not affected by sexual desire as men are, rather they might long for companionship and a home children but then opt not to for different reasons.
call me biased but i think men are more likely to fall into zina being unmarried that women
Allah does Know Best
true. but i think brother me being a woman and everything thats a false excuse some women give that they want companionship to lure the man into her trap believe me women can be alot worse then men sometimes
People this is getting ackward...so back to the actual topic please.
I red somewhere that the Prophet sws encouraged marriage because then there would be offspring and Islam could grow. So that he could show everyone on the day of ressurection that Islam is the greatest religion by the number of people who had Islam as their religion. Wouldnt you neglect this when you choose not to marry?? Just a thought, another side to the story.
Staying Single in Islam is not the Sunna of Prophet Muhammad (SAWS)
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Bismillā hir Rahmā nir Rahīm
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):
Intentionally staying single in Islam is not the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (SAWS)
One of the main reasons the Ummah is in disarray is those without knowledge have a voice.
Apply the Quran and Sunnah and that will minimize your errors.
Read and then reread!
Stop making excuses for not getting married!
Practicing Muslims:
Being poor not an excuse!
Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 4:
Narrated 'Abdullah:
We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Apostle said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 7:
Narrated Said bin Jubair:
ibn 'Abbas asked me, "Are you married?" I replied, "No." He said, "Marry, for the best person of this (Muslim) nation (i.e., Muhammad) of all other Muslims, had the largest number of wives."
Castration forbidden! (Practicing Muslims wouldn't even discuss it)
Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 11:
Narrated Sad bin Abi Waqqas:
Allah's Apostle forbade 'Uthman bin Maz'un to abstain from marrying (and other pleasures) and if he had allowed him, we would have gotten ourselves castrated.(1)
Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 130:
Narrated 'Abdullah:
We used to participate in the holy battles led by Allah's Apostle and we had nothing (no wives) with us. So we said, "Shall we get ourselves castrated?" He forbade us that and then allowed us to marry women with a temporary contract (2) and recited to us: -- 'O you who believe ! Make not unlawful the good things which Allah has made lawful for you, but commit no transgression.' (5.87)
Mut'a (temporary marriage forbidden)
Sahih Bukhari Volume 5, Book 59, Number 527:
Narrated 'Ali bin Abi Talib:
On the day of Khaibar, Allah's Apostle forbade the Mut'a (i.e. temporary marriage) and the eating of donkey-meat.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 158:
Narrated Anas:
I will narrate to you a Habith I heard from Allah's Apostle and none other than I will tell you of it. I heard Allah's Apostle saying, "From among the portents of the Hour are the following: Religious knowledge will be taken away; General ignorance (in religious matters) will increase; illegal Sexual intercourse will prevail: Drinking of alcoholic drinks will prevail. Men will decrease in number, and women will increase in number, so much so that fifty women will be looked after by one man."
Surah Ahzab 33:36
It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Messenger to have any option about their decision: if any one disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong Path. (Y. Ali translation)
Jazakillahu Khair
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Lā ilāha illā-llāhu waḥdahu lā sharīka lahu lahu-l-mulku
Wa lahu-l-hamdu yuḥyi Wa yumītu Wa huwa ḥayyu-llā yamūtu abadan abada
ḏū-l-jalāli wa-l-ikrām, biyadihi-l-khayr
wa huwa ‘alā kulli Shay’in qadīr.
A woman came to Allah's Apostle and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I have come to you to present myself to you (for marriage)." Allah's Apostle glanced at her. He looked at her carefully and fixed his glance on her and then lowered his head. When the lady saw that he did not say anything, she sat down. A man from his companions got up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! If you are not in need of her, then marry her to me." The Prophet said, "Have you got anything to offer." The man said, 'No, by Allah, O Allah's Apostle!" The Prophet said (to him), "Go to your family and try to find something." So the man went and returned, saying, "No, by Allah, O Allah's Apostle! I have not found anything." The Prophet said, "Go again and look for something, even if it were an iron ring." He went and returned, saying, "No, by Allah, O Allah's Apostle! I could not find even an iron ring, but this is my Izar (waist sheet).' He had no Rida (upper garment). He added, "I give half of it to her." Allah's Apostle said "What will she do with your Izar? If you wear it, she will have nothing over herself thereof (will be naked); and if she wears it, then you will have nothing over yourself thereof ' So the man sat for a long period and then got up (to leave). When Allah's Apostle saw him leaving, he ordered that he e called back. When he came, the Prophet asked (him), "How much of the Qur'an do you know (by heart)?" The man replied, I know such Sura and such Sura and such Sura," naming the suras. The Prophet said, "Can you recite it by heart?" He said, 'Yes." The Prophet said, "Go I let you marry her for what you know of the Quran (as her Mahr).
Sadly This is not the year 600AD . The to-be father in laws of this age expect their to be son-in-laws to be earning tones of money . Mahr which was just 10000 about 20 years ago is now over 100000 with inflation and rising cost of loving . A man may be able to provide just about enough for himself and his parents but not for his own family . So that means he is technically poor ( not able to provide for his family) and so he has to fast for the rest of his life as per Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Hadith
Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 1:
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said, "Where are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven." Then one of them said, "I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever." The other said, "I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast." The third said, "I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever." Allah's Apostle came to them and said, "Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (not one of my followers)."
I am yet to understand what that means when he says "is not from me"
Does that mean a muslim who does not marry is a follower of some other Prophet who did not give too much importance to marriage as much as he did ?
Last edited by Predator; 01-23-2010 at 09:24 PM.
When truth is hurled at falsehood , falsehood perishes. because falsehood by its nature is bound to perish [21:18- Holy quran]
I thought the woman decides how much mahr she wants not the parents? I do agree with you on the fact the mahrs have rissen througout the years. But you know the thing: the wives of the Prophet PBuH had very small mahrs. Women knowadays ask far much more than that. Like they think of themselves as being better women then the wives of the Prophet PBuH. I think thats rediculus to be honest. They shouldnt be asking high mahrs out of respect and modestness for them. They were the best women that lived in that period.
Secondly the guy could get to a point he will hate his new bride. Just cause of the fact she made him work very hard for her mahr as a weddinggift. While its not necessary at all. What are you gonna do with a load of juwelry? You cant make it do tricks or make it dance or whatever. Then it would actually have some use: you coiuld use it to entertain yourself. Making a guy work hard while its not necessary cant be a good start for a wedding seriously..
As ridiculous as it sounds, what about castration? I know some people who just do not want the responsibilities that come with marriage while but they also want to fulfill the sexual desires ... so is it better for them to get castrated so they dont fall into zina?
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