Sisters: Generally speaking, how are sisters that study medicine? Career-first type women or otherwise? Does it vary from sister to sister?
And if you yourself are doing medicine, would you put your career first over family such as husband/kids? How would you view a husband who makes less money than you (but doesn't ask you for the money you make)?
Brothers: Would you marry a sister who has studied medicine and is a doctor? Besides the 'if she was pious then I would' view, practically how would you feel that she makes more money than you? Her long work hours? On top of that, what if she was older than you by a year or two yet she agrees to marry you?
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Also, I suppose that this doesn't particularly pertain to your question, but girls studying medicine are more likely to be more practising muslims than those who study in other fields. (This is not everyone, though, and not everywhere either).
Hmmm, interesting theory.. Can I ask why you think so?
Hmmm, interesting theory.. Can I ask why you think so?
I'm not sure if that's true cuz some of my muslim classmates are far from being practicing muslims but then again most of the brothers and sisters in my class are practicing muslims.
I can speak for myself, since I started med school I became a practicing muslim. When I was still in school, I didn't pray...
Then when I started learning about how the body works, my faith in Allah grew stronger The way your body works is just more complicated than you can ever imagine and it's fascinating really...it has to be the work of Allah.
So I started to pray after I came to med school...
I know that many like to marry doctors but I suppose this is just because their husbands would understand their position. it's very difficult (although not impossible) for someone who has not done medicine to actually understand the stresses and issues in medicine.
That's true.
I know of a few med students who marry while studying, so I suppose it is possible.
My classmate's sister is now in her last year of med school. She got married last year to a Dr. She's pregnant now and still one of the top students in her class.
Hmmm, interesting theory.. Can I ask why you think so?
Regarding the Brothers and Sisters in my University, a lot of them have come closer to Islam after coming to Medical School. The perfect design of the body with all the parts and organs working in coordination, really fascinates you and makes you think there must be a supreme creator behind all this.
One field im really interested in doing after my Medicine degree is Cardiac Surgery, i know it will be many years before i can go into this field. But subhanallah, it really is amazing seeing the heart work.
[QUOTE=BintAbee;1101363]I know that many like to marry doctors but I suppose this is just because their husbands would understand their position. it's very difficult (although not impossible) for someone who has not done medicine to actually understand the stresses and issues in medicine.
As for me, marriage will depend on character and taqwah. After all, that's what really matter's isn't it.
I know of a few med students who marry while studying, so I suppose it is possible.
About the close contact and examination of male patients, it's rather unavoidable while studying and in internship and community service, but after that you can open your own surgey and see patients that you would like to see eg. women and children only.[QUOTE]
Bint Abee didn't mention that she is a 3rd year medical student.
[QUOTE]Also, I suppose that this doesn't particularly pertain to your question, but girls studying medicine are more likely to be more practising muslims than those who study in other fields. (This is not everyone, though, and not everywhere either).[QUOTE]
I have noticed that here @ medskul alhamdulillah..that as u progress u bcum more grateful for the bounties of Allah and u bcum more dependent on Allah 4 assistance in your studies.(Im only in 1st year though)...there are certain brothers and sisters however who become negatively inflenced and resourt to haraam as a way of dealing with the stress of studying etc.
[QUOTE]My friend thinks that if you don't get married early or you don't find someone, you will get the "left-over's" coz you will be older when you finished studying and generally men don't choose wives that are older than themselves. I dunno, that's her opinion.:X[QUOTE]
just 2 add to that.Some people say that if you're not married by the tym you r about 23 then you're "on the shelf".
And about caring for the family, I think that is priority number 1. Even if it means leaving my career, I think it is more important to mould the next generation to be good, strong muslims. It's no use helping the whole world if your children are being neglected.
Hmmm, interesting theory.. Can I ask why you think so?
Sis when you do medicine, you become more focussed in life. You see life and death, health and sickness, trauma, abuse, hope and despair all in front of your eyes. you actually understand what life is about. you understand that this life is temporary and you've got to prepare for an everlasting life so you become closer to Allah.
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coz you will be older when you finished studying and generally men don't choose wives that are older than themselves. I dunno, that's her opinion.:X[QUOTE]
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