Qn: imitation of married people

**Ummu Sufyaan** · 03-06-2009

I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but i need this from an Islamic perspective (if there is one) so here goes...

we all know that when people have a certain level of love and respect for one another, they want to be like one another in what they do, etc i.e imitation.
lets take a married couple for example(not necessarily newlyweds, but married none-the-less) who obviously have a good degree of love and respect for one another, so naturally this will probably result them in imitating one another as well. for example a woman who doesn't pray marries a guy that does...so out of her love and respect for him, she beings to pray...or he does certain things she does as well, etc.
In some cases this imitation lasts forever and doesn't change. but in other cases they revert back to their old ways.

my question is why is that though? why do some people remain doing that particular habit and never change back, and others revert back to their old ways (not necessarily bad)... is it a matter of lust? is it because that old habit is so apart of them and they cant seem to part with it...or

again (of possible) i need this from an islamic perspective...

**sshussain** · 03-06-2009

May be the depth of admiration or love between the spouses.
A 3D Love :rolleyes:

**S_87** · 03-10-2009

hmm maybe it is the reason why these people change, to please their spouses only or because their spouse may have 'helped' them in realising they want to be better people for Allah

**Khalil_Allah** · 03-10-2009

I think you are purposely being vague about the issues involved here.

Lets take a random example:
A man looks at women when they pass as he is single. Then the prospect of marriage comes and he fasts and lowers his gaze and commits to his work. Then he is married and he adores the spouse, and continues his pious behavior toward women. Then months later, the wife catches him looking at other women and wonders what she has done.

It is the man's iman, not his lust for his wife. Iman goes in and out and in and out as was promised to us. The wife should casually help him get back on track, first by making dua'a, then by making an example of herself, and then by quietly and subtly suggesting to him. If he resents her for doing so, then he is WAY off the iman, and the wife should be careful and make more dua'a.

I'm sure there is hadith or verses or something that relate to helping a spouse in iman, but I don't know them?

But if it is some addiction that he is turning back to, then that is another issue.