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    Why's it acceptable for a man to marry a younger women but not for a women. (OP)


    Has anbody noticed within Pakistani culture people kick up a huge fuss when an older women shows interest in a younger man but when the man's older than the women they say nothing.

    Why's it acceptable cullturally for a man to marry a younger women but for a women to marry a younger man, people kick up a fuss and all the telephones start ringing and gossip flys like mad.

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    Re: Why's it acceptable for a man to marry a younger women but not for a women.

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    format_quote Originally Posted by Wa7abiScientist View Post
    Does scientific knowledge have any value? Khadija (as) was a wife of Prophet. Unique laws apply to them.
    Unique laws weren't the reason why Khadijah (ra) was able to have children so late. People in those times were fitter healthier and aged later, with women reaching menopause well into their late 50's maybe later. My mother tells me that women reaching menopause in their 30's and 40's was virtually unheard of in Pakistan, although due to people increasingly following a modern lifestyle this maybe changing. I also learnt from the accounts of a writer who was a police officer in the Indian army (before partition), that the normal height for women was around 6ft tall and diseases were rare.

    It is only due to unhealthy lifestyles, environmental pollution, toxins from chemicals, drugs, furniture, dyes, processed foods etc that the health of humans is suffering. Thus what maybe a scientific fact today, can't be applied to similar matters of times gone by.
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    Re: Why's it acceptable for a man to marry a younger women but not for a women.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Scents of Jannah View Post
    Unique laws wasn't the reason why Khadijah (ra) was able to have children so late. People in those times were fitter healthier and aged later, with women reaching menopause well into their late 50's maybe later. My mother tells me that women reaching menopause in their 30's and 40's was virtually unheard of in Pakistan, although due to people increasingly following a modern lifestyle this maybe changing. I also learnt from the accounts of a writer who was a police officer in the Indian army (before partition), that the normal height for women was around 6ft tall and diseases was rare.

    It is only due to unhealthy lifestyles, environmental pollution, toxins from chemicals, drugs, furniture, dyes, processed foods etc that the health of humans is suffering. Thus what maybe a scientific fact today, can't be applied to similar matters of times gone by.
    A lot of it also has to do with demographic distributions too and it much depends on what human species is being surveyed for the statistics. For example you can't compare the maturity/menapause rate of a Germanic with an Asian. Asians generally take a lot longer to mature than a Germanic. We can't afford to procrastinate in life and really need to take stock, marry, have offspring and get it all over and done with as early as possible. Unfortunately though modern kafir mentality works against this biological necessity.
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    Re: Why's it acceptable for a man to marry a younger women but not for a women.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Karl View Post
    A lot of it also has to do with demographic distributions too and it much depends on what human species is being surveyed for the statistics. For example you can't compare the maturity/menapause rate of a Germanic with an Asian. Asians generally take a lot longer to mature than a Germanic. We can't afford to procrastinate in life and really need to take stock, marry, have offspring and get it all over and done with as early as possible. Unfortunately though modern kafir mentality works against this biological necessity.
    as sistr scents said it all depends on this modern lifestyle sure u could marry a younger woman and she could be unbelievably unhealthy. my friend from the age of 16years old she lived on apples and cigarettes she was so obsessed with keeping herself slim then once her mum was so worried about her she took her daughter to the doctor. the doctor told her if you carry like this for most of your life you could seriously damage your fertility. i see muslim girls doing that today even only they don't smoke but there diets are crap. and also look at the women in hollywood the older actresses they are all on strict diets and they look amazing
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    Re: Why's it acceptable for a man to marry a younger women but not for a women.

    My wife is Indian and she is 8 years younger than I am. BUt she told me she would have never married a younger man not even by 1 year. She said that my age gives her a feeling of security, knowing I am more experienced in life in general.(that may sound chauvinistic, but it's not). I don't think I could Marry an older woman....maybe a year or two older but no more...sorry.

    My wife also said she never expected to marry an Italian anyway......culturaly speaking, thats is about as far away from Indian culture you can get.

    But she makes the best biryani !.....so she's a keeper just kidding.
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    Re: Why's it acceptable for a man to marry a younger women but not for a women.

    really i thought women were aloud 2 lol!
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    Re: Why's it acceptable for a man to marry a younger women but not for a women.

    format_quote Originally Posted by maisha View Post
    really i thought women were aloud 2 lol!
    To do what? I'm lost......as usual
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    Re: Why's it acceptable for a man to marry a younger women but not for a women.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Italianguy View Post
    To do what? I'm lost......as usual
    lol !!
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    Re: Why's it acceptable for a man to marry a younger women but not for a women.

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    Re: Why's it acceptable for a man to marry a younger women but not for a women.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Scents of Jannah View Post
    Unique laws weren't the reason why Khadijah (ra) was able to have children so late. People in those times were fitter healthier and aged later, with women reaching menopause well into their late 50's maybe later. My mother tells me that women reaching menopause in their 30's and 40's was virtually unheard of in Pakistan, although due to people increasingly following a modern lifestyle this maybe changing. I also learnt from the accounts of a writer who was a police officer in the Indian army (before partition), that the normal height for women was around 6ft tall and diseases were rare.

    It is only due to unhealthy lifestyles, environmental pollution, toxins from chemicals, drugs, furniture, dyes, processed foods etc that the health of humans is suffering. Thus what maybe a scientific fact today, can't be applied to similar matters of times gone by.
    walaikaum assalam,
    so yea,t hat makes it a unique law. In those times, the mechanisms working at cellular level for keeping the body healthy were working fine. They probably are not working today. Mutagenis has increase and so on and so forth. So its unique. Moreover, what authority do you have to say that it was not unique? Do you have an authority to say that when Sara (as), the wife of Ibrahim (as), gave birth when she thought she is barren, it was not a unique law? Would you want that incident to pass off as "lack of pollution in that time?" In the same way, unique conditions might have a played a role in Khadija's case. Also do not you see anything unique in the fact that none of the male children from Khadija survived, only the females did? Or was that due to some pollutions in that time which we dont have today and hence male children survive too today?
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